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My self-summary
Looking for a nice guy. One who knows how to pay attention, easy going, helpful, self-aware, and has a sense of humor. I love sports, just so you know.

I'm a pretty easy-going guy, generally pretty calm, though I'll cry at the movies, get mad when someone is treated unfairly, get nervous watching the Patriots during a close game, and get quite gushy over a friendly dog with a wagging tail.

I'd really like to find someone whom I'd call my best friend. I'd consider myself lucky if the "guy" understands that his expectations for a relationship are really more about expectations of himself than his partner meeting him--and that if you want someone to change, knowing that the really the only way that happens is to let the other person be himself. When we actually get in touch with who we are, then we are likely to see us ourselves, and see where we'd like to grow. At least that's true for me and how I understand myself and the world.

Sometimes, I'm good at saying what I need. Sometimes I am too tired to know. I always like it when I am asked. In this area, I tend to believe that mutuality is very important.

I'm more of a fixer than a fighter, but don't assume I'm not tough.

I would like to find someone who likes to throw around a football, hit a tennis ball, or go with me to my first hockey game. I miss the sports section of a newspaper and getting the paper in the morning. My favorite weather is shorts and sweatshirt weather.

I'm new to the area, and still learning how to fit in to the Rhode Island/Providence culture and make it home. It's not my natural way, but I'd like to figure out how to make it work and still be myself.

I'm definitely more of a big picture person. But little things can matter--an act of kindness, a moment of respectful listening, a small favor made possible.

I think we generally are who we are. The amount of trauma we've experienced in our lives has an impact. If we are lucky, most of our "change" is growth, and a deeper understanding of who we are in the world.

I've been to Alaska 8 times and love feeling insignificant there in the face of mountain ranges, glaciers, wide skies, and howling seas. I love the thrill of a rollercoaster, of hitting a great tennis shot, of seeing a child smile.

I have a wide variety of friends. If only they weren't scattered all over the continent. But people matter to me.
What I’m doing with my life
I work in Boston for the UUA. I also teach an online class on children's literature. I occasionally teach seminars on the enneagram. I teach tennis to kids one afternoon a week.
I’m really good at
tennis, understanding people, public speaking, listening, helping others
The first things people usually notice about me
That I actually listen and pay attention.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books--Harry Potter,children's books, self-help, information, Hunger Games, Tales of the City series
Movies--Star Trek, Devil Wears Prada, Thomas Crown Affair. Up In the Air, Up, Perks of Being a Wallflower, 12 Years a Slave, Easy A, Prince of Tides, Private Benjamin, We're the Millers
TV--Castle, Glee, NCIS, Sportscenter, Inside the NFL, Modern Family, Mentalist, Mad Men, Rizzoli and Isles, Closer, Jeopardy
Food--eat mostly protein, vegetables, and legumes, only Decaf drinks (when I cheat it's pizza, M&Ms, chocolate ice cream)
Music--Natalie Cole, ABBA, Maroon 5, Manhattan Transfer, Boston, Barry Manilow, Taio Cruz, Avicii
Six things I could never do without
computer, food, books, tennis racquet, comfortable shoes, Lipton diet iced tea
I spend a lot of time thinking about
other people, sports, culture and geography of places, my to do list
On a typical Friday night I am
likely to fix dinner for myself and relax
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm an introvert--as in to recharge, I need some alone time.
You should message me if
you think we'd enjoy each other (non smokers)
The two of us