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My self-summary
I'm now proudly an ex-smoker (no cigarettes since Jan 2012). I now 'vape' and still get a bit of nicotine without bothering anyone else with it and without the cancer-and-health-destroying tar. Much better!

On with my profile...

I am a work in progress. I am always learning and thinking about what I am taking in. I love to teach, yet I delightfully learn from everyone in my life.

I know the pain of being an outcast. I know the fear that comes from being shy and unsure. I know the suffering that comes from prejudice. I know what it is to be abused, how it warps you inside, and the freedom that comes with healing that deep and longstanding wound. I know the despair that comes from being betrayed. And from all of that, I know the liberation that comes of learning to just be myself, and the joy of finding those who love me for just being me.

I am a study in contrasts. I am loving. Always. Yet, when needed, I can be harsh and demanding. Cuddling is just as important as anything else to me. I love long slow motion kisses and tender passionate caresses. I am intrigued by the delicious pain I can give, when asked. I take pride in doing all of these without harm to the mind, spirit, or body of the ones I share this part of me with. I am always delighted when and if I can aid in healing the spirit of anyone who needs me that way, guided by the healing scars on my own soul.

You might meet me at a ren faire, gaming convention, garage sale, coffee shop, movie opening, drumming circle, or poly support group.

I believe all of my relationships are significant and should be cherished. Brief or long. Casual or deep. Physical, intellectual, or spiritual.

When I love, I love with my whole heart and I have room in my heart to love many. I've learned something important: Love does not divide. It multiplies.

I am Introspective, Loving, and Passionate.

I'm not perfect. I make mistakes. Good intentions, always, to be better today than I was yesterday. An earnest desire not to hurt anyone and be a positive force in the lives of those around me. But, yeah, I still screw up sometimes.
What I’m doing with my life
Recently widowed.

Working on building a new life while doing this polyamory thing right. Rocky going at times. Tis challenging.

Being the best person I can be.
Being master and dominant to two other amazing women. mystikal_angel and loudestchick. They are beautiful people and I am so fortunate to be able to share my life with them both. And, in case you are wondering, yes; they are free to pursue other relationships [Note that this does not mean they will be interested in YOU. Poly does mean they can't be very selective.]. Their happiness is my happiness. Compersion is wonderful, isn't it?
I’m really good at
Cuddling, game theory, flirting, digital graphics & art design/creation, conversing, philosophizing, massage, being a bit of a clown, cooking, hugs, spanking, process analysis, and (sometimes) being well-intentioned but misunderstood.
The first things people usually notice about me
My long hair. And if they are feeling snarky, the fact that is it 'thinning a bit' up there now. Dammit.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Science fiction, fantasy, history, mystery, science, psychology, and the occasional romance. (Some specifics: The Dresden Files novels, Dune, Stranger in Strange Land, Anne Rice's Sleeping Beauty novels)
Music: Rock music, hard and soft. Modern Metal, 80's hair bands, and 70s classic rock. Some Punk, 'Emo', and Industrial as well. With a little carefully selected country/hip hop/classical/jazz tossed in too. I'm a guitar guy. Anything with skilful and tasty guitar puts me in my happy place. (Some specifics: Queensryche, My Chemical Romance, Art of Dying, Depeche Mode, Iron Maiden, Steve Vai, Larry Carlton, Tesla, Joe Satriani, Metallica, Alice Cooper, Muse, Bread, Garth Brooks, Bowling for Soup, Deathstars, Marilyn Manson, Pink, Seether, Rob Zombie)
Food: I love to cook. For me, cooking is alchemy, science, and art. (Some specifics: I'm comfortable with pretty much any type of food when eating in a restaurant, with the possible exception of Indian dishes. I have met very few curry dishes that I like. As far as what I make, it ranges from the common roast, soups, stew, and BBQ to more exotic faire such as yellow chicken curry and hand crafted teriyaki. )
Six things I could never do without
1) my beloved and wonderful wife/soulmate/bestfriend
2) my daughters
3) my girls
4) making people laugh
5) hugs
6) games/puzzles/mysteries (I have to keep my brain busy, or I'll go nuts...)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
It is not the times that you and your love are all happy that bond you together. It's the difficult conversations in which you are both remain focused on hearing one another and each doing all you can to really understand the other's pain... even though you are frustrated with the conflict.


I spend a lot of time wondering why 60%-80% of my profile views are men. I have looked at another man's profile (out of curiosity from a link on a woman's profile) only once or twice. Very puzzled why I get so much male traffic, given that I am straight (but joyously LGBT supportive/celebratory) and listed as such.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
1) I'm *really* into tying up pretty girls and spanking them. Seriously. Oh, I do love it so. Or skip the tying up and go straight to the spankings. Or the paddles, floggers, and whips. Yeah. ... What were we talking about again? *eg*

2) My girls agree that I am The Lord of Cuddly Evil. :-P
You should message me if
1) You know what polyamory is and think it is nifty, even if it is not for you.


2) Anything in my profile makes you think we could be friends.
The two of us