35St. Louis, United States
Join today
Find great matches with our advanced matching system!
Join today
Find great matches with our advanced matching system!
My self-summary
I am on the quest for expanding my mind and forming intense bonds with others. It's not simple, but it's really that simple.

I have an undergraduate degree in philosophy and for about 2 years after I graduated I did not want to discuss philosophy with anyone, but that has changed now that all of my executive function neurons have snapped into place. Now I see myself as more of a scientist/skeptic. If only I could remember all of the things I pump into my brain. I can't stop learning, it's almost pathological. You could describe me as a liberal ignostic strong atheist existentialist naturalist determinist ubuntu secular humanist desire utilitarianist. I love science, especially cosmology, cognitive science, genetics, evolutionary psychology, etc.

I love to cuddle and hold hands with women, men, my friends, whoever. I think that people don't get enough verbal praise or physical contact, so I like to initiate that with the people I care about.

I am an atheist. I see no compelling evidence for supernatural events. Don't let that scare you, I'm not an "angry atheist", though if the mere position of atheism offends you, you'll certainly be offended. When people think of religious fundamentalists or extremists, they think of people flying planes into buildings (yeah, I went there) or people letting their children die because they were praying for their god to heal their child rather than going to a doctor. When people think of atheist "fundamentalists" or "extremists," they think of people who write books.

I'm somewhat into BDSM culture and polyamory. If you must label me, I am a Domme/Switch, I can be sub with the right person. I like to play. I enjoy pain on some levels - I find it pleasurable in the right circumstances, and have engaged in bite-fests, Wartenberg wheel rolls and other interesting stuff. I'll tie you up, hold you down, sit on you, and use my knowledge of neurology and sensory integration to explore. I also enjoy tenderness and gentle exploration of bodies and minds. Having said that, I'm also a sadist who highly enjoys bloodplay - but only with people who like that sort of thing. So, my interests pretty much run the gamut from vanilla to 10/10 freaky.

I never expected to be me. Yet here I am, going about my business being me day in and day out, incredulous. Of course, I'd much rather be incredulous than credulous.

I am a homunculus.

I'm polyamorous. I've been dating a guy for over a year and I'm happy with him, so I'm not looking for a primary partner, but definitely friends and maybe play-partners of any gender or orientation. Big bonus points to you if you know ASL because that's my guy's primary language as he's Deaf and I'm HoH.

Don't stop reading! Keep going.

Love is not like a bathtub, where one person must get out before another can get in - it's more like an ocean, or to be pragmatic, more like a swimming pool. Think of it this way: say you have a child, whom you love with all of your heart and mind. Say you have a second child. Assuming that you love them equally, do they each get 50% of your love? No, because love doesn't work like that. It is not a commodity that can be spent. It's not this thing you can give away until it runs out.

I'm really not a tomboy in the traditional sports-playing sense, however I am a tomboy in the wrestling with boys, fixing my own car, having superior visual-spacial skills, alpha-sense. I'm told some men are intimidated by me, which I find hilarious. To those scardey-men, I shall pwn you with my wit, intellect, and car-fixing skillz!

Sometimes I'm genderbendy and enjoy binding and being a boy. I don't really fit into the cis binary but mostly I present as a woman.

I am obnoxious, stupefyingly honest, and skeptical
What I’m doing with my life
I do a lot of things. I think this is a sickness. Let's start with what is typically boring: I do work.

1. I have a doctoral degree (OTD) in occupational therapy. I use said degree to do research and to be a clinician, thus stripping the masses from ad hominem accusing me of having ivory-tower syndrome. I have at my disposal a biomechanics lab with Motion Analysis cameras and all sorts of fascinating kinetic and kinematic data grabbing devices. Right now I mostly do inpatient rehabilitation.

2. I travel around the country for various reasons including giving speeches, being a patient model, doing some television work and giving seminars and workshops promoting the public understanding of science.

I have Hobbies:

1. I do some photography. You can see my gallery here: . There are also more pictures of ME there.

2. I like animals. Specifically, I have a German Shepherd and a cat.

3. I have a sort-of popular Youtube channel where I discuss amputee related things (because I am an amputee) and you can find it here

I have languages and I also have obvious disabilities. These are related. you'll see:

1. I'm Hard of Hearing (my hearing aids are rad, actually) and I am fluent in English (written and spoken) and know American Sign Language, enough to have an okay decent meaningful conversation with people fluent in ASL if they stop every once in awhile to explain some ASL sign I haven't seen before and have patience with a woman who didn't grow up signing. I don't think I'll ever consider myself fluent in ASL because really, can you become fluent in a language you started learning in adulthood? I don't really think so. I learned from my Deaf friends.

2. I'm a left below knee amputee and this does not stop me from doing ANYTHING except I can't wiggle my prosthetic toes. I do aerial silks, run 5k's, and probably have better balance than you on my right foot, (but you probably have better balance than me on my left foot).

Nihil de nobis, sine nobis!
I’m really good at
Biting people where it counts, being a badass, fixing wheelchairs, wheelies (I have copious wheelchair skills), growing tomatoes and herbs, cuddling, lipreading, precision or overly verbose writing, loose associations, reading out loud, making people think, photographing people, asking questions, letting people inside, being utterly and completely honest, and shirking unnecessary boundaries (Actually, they're all unnecessary).
The first things people usually notice about me
Physically: My ass. My eyes. My prosthesis. You'll notice that I am wearing clothes - unless I am wearing none. You'll probably note that I possess the typical anatomical structures that females posses except I only have one foot. I also have hair. People say I smell good, so sniff me if you want. People also often tell me I look familiar, so maybe you'll notice that I look familiar.

Personality: I'm totally honest and not afraid to talk about things that make other people squirm. At the same time, I can switch into diplomacy mode when the need arises. Sometimes I forget to use an inside voice. I have to use correct anatomical terms when referring to my body. It's not my tummy hurting, it's the right upper quadrant.

Fashion(?): Umm... I wear mismatched socks. I also don't wear make-up. Fashion is not for me. I don't understand it but I kind of wish I did.

I'm modified. I have lots of tattoos and several entertaining piercings. There are more on the way. My body, like my mind, is a work in progress that will not stop until the last electrical pulses cease to fire in my brain.

Random pointy bit: It's almost impossible to gross me out.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: I dig books on atheism, cosmology, particle physics, cognitive science, evolutionary psychology, hard science, sex, neurology, anthropology, psychology, skepticism and polyamory. If I listed all of the books I like, it would be a rather long list.

I need to read more fiction.

Movies: I like movies that have something to say or are clever. A few: Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind (not for the lame characters but for the direction), Gone Girl, Fight Club, The Boondock Saints, Donnie Darko, The Dangerous Lives of Altar Boys, the Lego Movie, and various documentaries on disability, unusual medical conditions, quirky ways of living, etc.

Music: Angels & Airwaves, Linkin Park, Antiflag, Green Day, Stabbing Westward, Our Lady Peace, Jimmy Eat World, Evanescence, Pink Floyd, Flyleaf, Goo Goo Dolls, R.E.O. Speedwagon, Styx, Guns & Roses, Nine Inch Nails, Death Cab For Cutie, Massive Attack, Toad the Wet Sprocket, Something Corporate, Delerium, Killswitch Engage, etc. I don't know if I should apologize for this but I like Taylor Swift and Savage Garden. Sorry?

Food: I love all food except shredded coconut, Dr. Pepper, sauerkraut, cottage cheese, bell peppers, and black licorice. I am especially fond of Japanese (sushi, sashimi), Ethiopian, Indian, meat&potatoes, Mexican, Chinese, Vietnamese, Thai, Italian, Greek, Afghan, Soul Food, Americ---Okay, I am serious, I really like nearly everything. North, South, East, West, Breakfast, Lunch, Dinner. If it's food, I'll eat it. I might even eat it if it's not food. I often eat the core of an apple when I eat an apple. Apparently that's weird. I've eaten a fetus (Balut) - yes, I am in fact a baby-eating atheist. At the same time, I don't eat that much. Tiny girl has tiny stomach.

Magazines: I like to read medical journals, Skeptic and Skeptical Inquirer.

Podcasts! Here are some I frequent: Serial, This American Life, Savage Lovecast, Mental Illness Happy Hour, Stuff You Should Know, Mortified, 99% Invisible, Ouch! Disability Talk Show, The Moth, Reality Check, Quackcast, Stuff to Blow Your Mind, Radiolab, Freakanomics.
Six things I could never do without
Plasticity, other brainmeat, ambiguity, my laptop, my phone, and a maglight.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Being wrong. I am one of those people who enjoy discussion with people who have a viewpoint out-of-line with mine. I enjoy when someone is able to show me that my thinking is incorrect. Being wrong - and having someone show you - gives you the capacity to shake their hand, thank them, and then change your mind. I consider it a sign of respect when people are willing to disagree with me. I wish more people would embrace wrongness for its capacity to enable rightness.

Here's a list of stuff I'm into in no particular order, but which you might use to keyword me and I am okay with that: Ubuntu (the philosophy, not the Linux distribution), polyamory, wheelchairs, DNA, atheism, sex, occupational therapy, statistics, Christian apologetics, naturalism, etc. I have a pretty good soundtrack in my head at all times. Ask me what song I am listening to in my electrified paté and I'll always have one for you.

I inadvertently cause people to change. I have ideas, and I spread them around. I've always been of the mindset that people should be who they are. I have had people tell me, "Hey, you really blew my mind right there". I really don't mean to make people's brain explode, but they seem fairly thankful for it. Maybe they like the additional air circulation? So I have been thinking about the nature of interactions with people and how when you meet someone for the first time they have all of these experiences and thoughts that make them who they are right at that moment. You meet them and it's like a snapshot along the timeline of their life, and that moment when you meet them, what they were doing, feeling and experiencing affects how you see them for as long as you know them. I like that about people and I wonder: what am I doing coming along and altering the course of their timeline? I hope it's always for the better. The reason people's lives seem like snapshots is because humans, three-dimensional creatures that we are, have a difficult time conceptualizing four dimensions. You know, just FYI.
On a typical Friday night I am
Spending time with my smartypants friends. Learning more. spending time with my dogs. Wandering around in the woods alone. Entering abandoned buildings. Writing. Interpreting.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have vitiligo - in a very unusual spot.
You should message me if
You are capable of emailing someone without resorting to grammatical shorthand (No, I do not want 2 cum ovr 2 c ur digz.)

You are a doctor, scientist, researcher, committed to the public understanding of science, committed to the philosophy of science, and/or know what the phrase "science-based medicine" means. Bonus points if you can talk about these topics ad nauseam.


You like women who might know more about science, philosophy, cars, plumbing, and anatomy than you do.


You're not albedoic - meaning you are not a mere reflection of culture and society.


You live in or near St. Louis.


You see no evidence for supernatural events.


You're completely unlike me in every way imaginable except that we both want to spend countless hours sorting it all out.


You're Deaf or HH and know ASL and want to hang out with someone else who also knows ASL.


You're an amputee and want to hang out with someone else who is also an amputee. I'll even consider hanging out with someone who is *into* amputees *in that way* if you treat me respectfully.

Everyone has a story worth telling. What's yours?
The two of us