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My self-summary
It's 2017. Somehow I feel like ignoring that fact in a person's dating profile is ill-advised. After all, who am I, in this darkest timeline of ours? Who have I become, and will I become, while the world burns slowly and the revolution builds?

A writer with a penchant for dramatic overstatement, is who. Product designer by day, writer by night, activist by…dusk? I commute by train and sometimes I design protest signs, is what I'm saying.
What I’m doing with my life
I do and teach about product design for a living, and am working on becoming an author of fiction stories on the side. The latter likely won't pay the bills like the former does, but it's been a lifelong passion of mine and this year I'm taking it seriously. Not putting off the dream for "someday", not throwing away my shot, not delaying any further.

First story: a novel grown out of a short story that started as a wedding gift for two friends of mine, to make him keep his promise to change his legal name to include her last name, as she was taking his. Gender equality literally ended up being an inspiration for this book, and I'm okay with that.

Oh, right, the usual: "I like fun activities, going outside, hiking or camping or swimming, doing brunch with friends!"

It's not a dating profile without some clichés, eh?
I’m really good at
I'm pretty good at a lot of things; being humble isn't one, but I offset that with a healthy dose of self-deprecation (I forgot to take my dose today).

I make a solid cocktail. I cook decent food. I can tell you five things poorly designed about any product. (Aside: don't get me started on that, I'm not kidding.) I'm intensely passionate about anything I really care about: I'll learn all the ins & outs of it, master the new skill to a humblebraggable level of competency, and move on to the next thing. No, I don't treat people that way. Yes, I think that was a fair concern to have.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I continue to be impressed with Suzanne Collins' writing, Ted Chiang's ability to wield language itself as a storytelling tool, John Scalzi's entertaining readability, or Ijeoma Oluo's effortless teaching of intricate insights and making the complicated accessible.

I envy anything either Nolan brother creates, while delighting in everything Rachel Bloom ever does. And like millions, I have a crush on Lin-Manuel Miranda, and his genius inspires me to do better. Talk to me about Project Runway, or UnREAL, or Brooklyn 99, or Jessica Jones/Luke Cage. Why so contemporary? You tell me. Let's chat over coffee, see what we uncover about the world.
The six things I could never do without
The freedom to pursue telling the stories I envision. The ability to share the knowledge I have accrued. The support of close friends and loved ones in my life. The warmth of a kind gesture by a stranger. The hope in our future, come what may. That one spectacular date with you that blows both our minds, and we almost didn't schedule it.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Whether I'm overthinking this dating profile.
On a typical Friday night I am
Slaying dragons, absorbing the teachings of wise pharaohs, firing laser blasters that obliterate small moons, soaring through the skies amidst eagles in the wind, and otherwise plagiarizing the most interesting man in the world concept.

Clearly you should date me.
You should message me if
…you're either genuinely curious to learn more about me, or comfortable enough admitting you'd just like a good hookup.
…your interest is piqued, and you'd like to share what parts of this profile made you raise an eyebrow.
…the word “feminist” isn't a special appeal to you, but a baseline expectation.
…you agree that gender roles are outdated and men shouldn't have to make first contact necessarily anymore.
…you felt like saying hi to me despite the mediocrity of this profile. Ideally, my response would include more than a mere "hello" back, but that's really up to you, innit?