I'm a single man in my late thirties who would like to meet a woman who would like to meet a guy like me. I'm friendly, loyal, and generally kind. My politics are middle of the road and I prefer to vote for people rather than institutions. In the current election I don't like either of the candidates so I did a write in vote for Michelle Obama, even though I know it won't count at all. I have no religion to speak of, and I have no interest in having children. I want to live in a world where people are treated equally and with respect.
I would like to meet a woman who is smart, kind, funny, and patient. Who won't cut and run when things get stressful. Who won't treat me like a disposable resource or a burden. I've been in a couple of situations like that, and I'd rather be alone than do that again.
I know there are some things about a guy that women view as "deal breakers," so here are some things about me that probably fall into that category.
-I don't drive. Never bothered to get my license, and don't really see the point of getting one now.
-I live with my father. He's a senior citizen who's been on dialysis for thirteen years and is currently fighting liver and colon cancer. We lost my mother earlier this year, also because of cancer, and I feel like this is where I need to be. From what I've seen, a lot of women think a guy is a loser if he lives with his parents, but I have good reasons for the way I live my life and if you think I'm a loser I guess I don't want to know you anyway.
-I have no real career ambitions. I have a decent job that I'm fairly good at, and my supervisors think I could really move up in the company if I wanted to. But I don't. The stress, the hassle, the paperwork. I don't see the point of making myself miserable just to live up to someone else's life standards.
-I don't hike, climb rocks or mountains, fish, ski or snowboard. Sometimes I like to go for walks on a nearby trail and take pictures of trees and clouds, and I like to walk through my town and look at the art displays on main street.
-I don't work out. There are about two miles between me and my job, and I walk back and forth five times a week. That's about twenty miles a week. Plus my job requires constant movement. Lifting, carrying, walking climbing. Basically it's an eight hour aerobic workout. So going to a gym and getting "pumped" doesn't really appeal to me.
-On the subject of my job, I work nights and have Thursday and Friday nights off.
Well, I guess that's the bulk of the pertinent information. I realize that I've pretty much shot myself in the foot with this profile, but I don't see the point of lying or hiding these things. I mean, it'll all come out eventually and I don't want to be accused of misrepresenting myself.
You be you, I'll be me, and maybe we can be us someday.
I'm also dabble in amateur digital art and podcasting.
I don't expect any of this to make me rich or famous, but I enjoy it.
I recently read You're Never Weird on the Internet (almost) by Felicia Day. I really enjoyed it and found it to be very inspiring.
It's hard to pick favorites.
When it comes to movies, I tend to enjoy sci-fi and horror. I like comedies, though a lot of what is currently considered funny doesn't appeal to me. I am enjoying the Marvel movies and I'm looking forward to all the Star Wars we're going to be getting in the next few years. My favorite romantic comedies are Nick and Norah's Infinite Playlist and Scott Pilgrim vs The World. My favorite movie parodies are Cabin in the Woods and Shoot 'Em Up. Now neither of those are officially considered parodies, but they have more in common with classics like Airplane and Top Secret than the official garbage they've been putting out for the last decade or so.
As for books, I like Neil Gaiman (American Gods), Stephen King, Terry Pratchett(Discworld Series), Jim Butcher(The Dresden Files), Richard Kadrey(Sandman Slim Series), David Wong(John Dies at the End), J.K. Rowling Soon I Will Be Invincible by Austin Grossman, Red Shirts by John Scalzi, Ready Player One by Ernest Cline and so many other books.
I love to read.
I've been listening to a lot of audio books lately.
TV shows. My current favorites are The Flash, Supergirl, Person of Interest(sadly cancelled), Agents of SHIELD, Doctor Who, The IT Crowd Sherlock, Ash vs Evil Dead, Supernatural, and Firefly.
My musical tastes are very broad. Billy Joel, Weird Al, David Bowie, Rob Zombie, Elvis, AC/DC, Disturbed, Florence and The Machine, and many, many others. It really depends on what mood I'm in.
As for food, I enjoy Italian, Chinese, Mexican, and the usual hodgepodge of American food. I don't like fish though, never have. Not sure why, but something about it just doesn't mesh well with me.
I have no interest in:
-Game of Thrones
-Sons of Anarchy
-The Walking Dead
-Orange is the New Black
It's not that I think they're bad shows. They're probably well written and acted, but I'm just not interested in them. And Battlestar was just one of the most depressing shows I've ever seen.
An appreciation of the absurd.
The ability to accept inevitable change without being destroyed by it.
Patience. So much patience.
That feeling when you've won an argument with a squirrel.
The belief that, though things seem terrible right now, there's a chance that life can get better.
It's kind of a nebulous question, I mean the average person probably thinks of a thousand things every day. What counts as a lot of time?
I never know what to say and, most of the time, I don't get replies to the messages I send. Either because the women I've contacted aren't interested or because my messages get lost in a tidal wave of other messages that come from guys who aren't so great. I've seen that a lot on here. Women get awful messages from terrible men and they start to get discouraged by the process. Then the few decent guys get lumped in with the terrible ones and they get discouraged.
It's a mess.