57Raleigh, United States
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My self-summary
Honestly, I can't figure out why I haven't met my true companion yet.......I'm strong, work hard, own my own home, drive my own car, was never blessed with children, have all my own teeth, nails and hair. I can laugh at myself, never at others and volunteer at the animal shelter every week. I can cook and even grout my own shower....what's the deal?

One very kind gentleman stated perhaps I was being perceived as being too independent and a tad intimidating. I truly hope that's not the case as there is a fine line between self contained and self absorbed. I would very much like to spend time with my's time.

Online dating....a blessing and a curse. A blessing when you're momentarily feeling a bit lonely (there is a huge difference between being alone and being lonely)and a curse when you realize you've entered into conversation with someone that just doesn't get you, doesn't understand or simply wants a meaningless physical connection. I believe we all just want to matter to what degree depends on our life circumstance at that very moment.

I've told myself more than once, online is futile, online is transitory, online is unrealistic, etc...however, I personally know several "success" stories....perhaps the definition of success needs clarification. I'd like a companion with whom I can feel comfortable simply "be-ing".....a sense of humor, intellect, compassion, kindness, a sense of adventure and let's be honest, there needs to be a physical attraction. I prefer tall, dark and handsome...nice teeth...Don't we all want the holy trifecta of mind, body and spirit? Two out of three? Never settle gentlemen, never settle.......with 7 billion people on the planet, surely just one exists to compliment you?

One man asked for us women to please write something about ourselves because he doesn't like to choose based on looks alone. Fascinating in that we generally believe men only look at our pictures. Okay.......I talk alot, over analyze things, laugh so hard I cry (sometimes pee but don't tell and don't give me too much to drink before a really good joke/story), love the absurd, am very liberal, don't suffer fools gladly, nearly fearless but once I've done a brave thing want a strong man to hold me and tell me such, hate the thought of traveling the rest of this journey without someone smart & funny, enjoy spoiling my mate but like to be spoiled as well (although I've never been, I'm sure I'd like it!), treat myself to manicures & pedicures because nice hands and nice feet indicate a willingness to care for yourself in general, spend time at the gym every week but nurture my soul with yoga, pilates and Zumba...favorite indulgence is a bubble bath every night and a great book. Absolutely must travel more as passport is in my nightstand ready to go and have an insatiable curiosity about everything. Have few but long lasting frienships and am fiercely loyal.

Please amaze and amuse's so boring being told you're not looking for "drama" and you're laid back (not spelled layed!).....and I'll try to reciprocate.....
What I’m doing with my life
I'm an administrator at a local university and have decided to return to complete my own degree....I think I'm on the 40 year plan.....
I’m really good at
Dancing......I'm part Cuban so I think I danced out of the womb....
The first things people usually notice about me
I believe it's my smile....a genuine big grin.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books transport, music reminds and inspires, food comforts and creates a visceral memory.....I relish them all with great passion.
Six things I could never do without
My three two best friends....uh oh...I'm one over......
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Absolutely's a curse.......especially Sunday night while lying in bed trying to cure cancer and solve global warming....
On a typical Friday night I am
At Zumba class.....then wondering why it's so boring cooking for one....
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Private things should remain is built over time....
You should message me if
You like to laugh, dance, work-out, read the paper on Sunday mornings and want a real woman......
The two of us