51Los Altos, United States
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My self-summary
I'm a married, polyamorous, kinky Silicon Valley professional with two kids. My husband, Kel-paten, is also kinky and we have an open, polyamorous relationship. I also have a serious polyamorous BDSM relationship as a submissive -- but I am most definitely not submissive in the generic sense of the word. I am low drama and only get involved with people who are also low drama.

I am into fusion of surrender, spirituality, and sexuality.

I am not looking for additional male relationship partners, but I am open to finding a female BDSM play partner for threesomes involving BDSM play, tantra, and/or sex.

I regret that it is necessary to put this paragraph in here but let me be 100% clear: The very definition of polyamorous (look it up) means that all relationships are fully above-board, no secrets at all. I will not consider anyone who is not also fully above-board with their relationship partners. That means no cheaters! Also, being poly and kinky does not mean that I am not selective about my relationship partners. Rather, I am quite selective. Ignore this warning at your own peril!

I am sensual, intelligent, and thoughtful
What I’m doing with my life
When I'm not working as a marketing professional in the renewable energy field, I can be found crafting, cooking, reading, or playing with my kids. I really enjoy music(playing or listening) and travel. One of my life goals is to visit every continent on the planet (well, maybe not Antartica). So far I just need to hit Africa and Australia.

My spiritual practice is an increasingly important part of my life. I practice Tantra and yoga, meditation and mindfulness. I am looking for people who have similar experiences and outlook.
I’m really good at
I'm a really good listener. I'm a good communicator. I get along well with a wide variety of people. I'm empathetic. I'm smart. I figure stuff out pretty quickly. I'm also very spiritually attuned, and I'm told that I am *very* good at running energy.
The first things people usually notice about me
Usually my long blond hair or my friendly smile. People tell me that they can tell by just looking at me that I am easy to get along with.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I'm a big fan of Jane Austen and Charlotte Bronte, but I also enjoy reading contemporary novels in a wide variety of genres: romance, science-fiction, historical, and more. My favorite movie of all time is "When Harry Met Sally." But I also enjoy romance, comedy, drama, historical, and sci-fi. I don't enjoy suspense thrillers or horror movies, though. As for food, my favorites are Indian, Thai, Chinese, and Mexican. I like it spicy! ;-)
Six things I could never do without
intelligent conversation
meaningful hugs from good friends
intimate, sexual connections of all kinds
moments of silent meditation
the sound of laughter
erotic and vital energy
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Straight answer: friends, family, travel, music, cooking, kink, sex (not necessarily in that order)

Philosophical answer: I spend a lot of time thinking about what is my purpose of my life, what is it that I want to look back upon in my twilight years with satisfaction... When I was younger I assumed that career and financial success were central goals for me. And now, I've been significantly re-thinking that and done some re-prioritizing and shifting things around in my life, putting my life into better alignment with my spiritual goals. It's an ongoing process.
On a typical Friday night I am
Out to dinner, a party, a movie, or a concert with my husband, boyfriend, or friends. Or at home with the family.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm really into tantric energy exchange. With the right partner(s), this is better than sex (no kidding).
You should message me if
You are a female looking for BDSM, tantra, and/or sexual threesomes. Short-term or longer-term.
The two of us