Also while I like cats and seem to be attracted to guys who like them, I'm deathly allergic 😔
I live in Brooklyn, NY but I do have long stretches of time I spend in St Maarten/Martin throughout the year.
I'm open to dating and meeting all kinds of people. I love learning about people. I may not click with everyone I meet but I still find people interesting and usually come away from the encounter with something (whether that something is good or not is up for debate :p ). On this site, I would love to meet people to hang out with or to become long distance friends with. BUT if you are very religious then I'm not the girl for you although maybe we could be friends as long as you know I will NOT be swayed from my heathen ways.
What I've discovered from a few interactions with people is that I'm more serious than most while also being sillier. I think that's because I understand just how serious things are in the world right now while still retaining the child like wonder I've had since I was young.
What am I looking for:
I want to have fun (don't we all?). I want to have coffee/tea/drinks, visit Museums, find little hole in the wall restaurants with "to die for" food, explore the city and stumble upon places I never knew existed and find really cool interesting people to do that with. That isn't too much to ask for is it? But alas it seems to be elusive so we've all come here. Finding someone you connect with and have chemistry with is HARD even amongst the millions of people in this great city. So I figured I would up my odds of finding someone by putting myself online.
Me: I'm imperfect (I know shocking right) but I try everyday to be and do better. I'm not skinny and I'm not fat. I'm just right (like Goldilocks said of Baby Bear's things) but again that just right may not be your just right. I try to keep my pictures as current as I can and to give some body shots so there are no surprises if we do meet. Looks matter. It isn't the main thing but anyone who says it isn't a factor is lying to themselves. I've been disappointed before so I try to be honest.
I'm intelligent, knowledgeable, funny, sarcastic and those are my bad traits :p I try to read a lot and keep up with what is going on in the world because I consider myself a citizen of the World first and an American 2nd. My parents are both from the Caribbean so I grew up with a world view different from my friends whose parents were several generations "American".
I'm compassionate and generous. I try to give back if I can whether that is monetarily or emotionally. Monetarily has been a little more of an issue lately since I no longer have a high powered job. Having said that, I support myself quite well and am not looking for a guy to take care of me! I'm really not one of those women who is looking for you to financially support me. In fact, in the past I've been the one who has given more financial support to my significant other. So Ideally I'd like someone who is my partner/friend/equal. If you see something I like (a book I mentioned or a shirt I saw), then I would appreciate it if you bought it for me but I'd also appreciate it if you sat down, talk to me or even give me a back rub. I'm easy going like that.
-Staying up too late (which is part of the reason I'm good at sleeping ;))
-Listening (Really I'm great at this...I just spent 2 1/2 hrs listening to a Girlfriend talk about her love life...Geez)
-Being the wing-woman for my two BBFFs (best boy friends forever....We've been friends for over 25 yrs now and I've helped them get many a date over the years)
I also get a lot of people who think I look younger than I am; And I mean really younger....Like 10 yrs! (Some even say 20 yrs but I think they are smoking something :p All I can say is Thanks Mom & Dad).....And no it is not just Men who are trying to get in my pants who tell me this. Women tell me all the time and ask me what moisturizer I use :) I'm really cool with this fact!
"Too bad there isn't a body type for "smoking hot"... and this is coming from a straight woman!" - This is a quote from my friend cmejennie who put this on here back when you could give props to your friends. I've kept it for sentimental reasons. So when I'm 90 I can remember once I was "smoking hot".
The last great book I read: This Is Where I Leave You
by Jonathan Tropper
Favorite Books: The Alchemist, The Prophet
Books I like: Siddhartha, Demian, The Dante Club, Life of Pi, Running with Scissors, Einstein's Dream, The Master and Margarita, Dry, Lovely Bones, Fahrenheit 451, Atonement, Hey Nostradamus, Veronica Decides to Die, Celestine Prophecy, Candide, Handmaiden's Tale, The Blind Assassin, Da Vinci Code, Catch-22, 1984, A Million Little Pieces, Slaughterhouse-Five, Metemorphosis, Middlesex, The Stand, The Stranger, The Red Tent, Sophie's Choice, The Alienist, Interpreter of Maladies, She's Comes Undone, The Kite Runner
Reading Now: I'm reading Fingersmith by Sarah Walters. It was hard to get into at first but after the first 50/75 pages it grabs you & won't let you put it down.
TV: Lost, The Daily Show, Real Time with Bill Maher,Battlestar Galactica, Fringe, Star Trek (all versions), Weeds,The Tudors, Dr Who, Torchwood, MI-5 aka Spooks in UK, Downton Abbey, The Newsroom, Game of Thrones, Orphan Black, Legion, Westworld......These are just a few of my favorite as well as various News Programs from different sources EXCEPT FOX NEWS! If you watch Fox for anything but a laugh, we will not be compatible.
Food: Thai, Italian, Japanese, Indian...I'm an adventurous diner.
Movie: The Usual Suspects, Dogma, Good Will Hunting, Shawshank Redemption, The Wizard of Oz, Serenity, The Matrix, The Birdcage, Blade Runner, The Sound of Music, Sin City, The Fifth Element, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Slumdog Millionaire........these are just a few of my favorites
I was just watching the movie The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel and a quote in the movie struck me as true.
Evelyn says: Nothing here has worked out quite as I expected.
Muriel says: Most things don't. But sometimes what happens instead is the good stuff.
That last one surely reflects my life. How about yours?
Why I'm attracted to men who have cats when I'm allergic to them
Why men think starting off online chat with sex talk or sexual innuendos is a good way to go. We will get there guys I promise but lets start out getting to know one another. We can do the sex talk the 3rd time we talk. ;)
Or hanging with some of my friends
Secret #2 - I'm not perfect :o....Shhhh don't tell anyone I told you....It can be our little secret ;)....LOL
"Dare to be imperfect and one day there will tug at your sleeve a soulmate." ~Robert Brault
I do love a good quote ;)
If I've passed by your profile and liked what I read & saw, I "liked" it (starred your profile). I know neither of us can see "likes" BUT if you "like" (star) me back then OKC will send a notification that the liking is mutual and we can work from there.😊
Another quote from the movie Best Exotic Marigold Hotel that speaks to me is:
"The only real failure is the failure to try and the measure of success is how we cope with disappointment, as we must.....Maybe what we fear is that it will be the same so we must celebrate the changes. The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing. All we know about the future is that it will be different."
Are you willing to risk messaging me and maybe meeting? Maybe you will meet a friend. Maybe more.
PS It says I'm more Sloppy and less Romantic! I wholeheartedly disagree OKC algorithm. Seriously how do they calculate these things lol
PPS I changed my age to fit into more searches but I'm really 50yo. Again my pics are current so you know what I really look like.
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