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My self-summary
"Not everything that can be counted counts, and not everything that counts can be counted." - Albert Einstein

So I guess I should start at the beginning. One fall day, many moons ago, I made my first appearance in the world. Since then its been quite an adventure. Let's see- I love to travel. I know everyone puts that here, but it’s still true. I have been to all 50 states. I also want to see all seven continents before I die (2 down) and my passport could always use more stamps. I have driven coast to coast four times (most recently moving here from NYC) and taken every Amtrak Train line except for the City of New Orleans and the Empire Builder. I am always looking for my next travel destination and still take vacations with my family, which I love.

Speaking of family, we are a tight bunch. I can’t imagine living life any other way. I have a nephew who is the apple of my eye. My family are the most important people in my life and I would do anything for them. That is also true of my friends. I have been described as fiercely loyal and will go to the mat for the people and causes I care about.

Some other fun facts- I always like trying new things, whether it be new food (most recently Korean- not too bad) or exploring new places (love finding old buildings tucked into the nooks and crannies of places). I am a fan of the game of chess- it gives my brain a great workout. I’m not great at it, but I love getting to play. Anyone want to teach me some new moves? I enjoy baseball, especially the Mets (a labor of love since they never win.) I believe strangers are just friends you haven't made yet and will strike up a conversation with just about anyone. I am crazy about animals and will usually stop to pet any dogs I encounter walking around (It's a problem but the first step is overcoming your problems is admitting you have one...) Besides, they usually like me so its ok. I try to find a reason to laugh every day. Usually I succeed.

I stop and help strangers. Sometimes its giving them directions when they are lost. Once that meant using my former EMT training and staying with a man who had collapsed until the EMTs arrived. Some of this is because I believe in the ripple effect/karma and some is because I believe it is our duty as human beings to help out our fellow man.

Lastly, I do have a slight southern accent and have been known to use y’all in everyday conversation. I’m sorry, there just isn’t a better gender neutral third person plural! I was a military brat so I lived all over the place growing up but I spent middle and high school in the south so that one stuck more than any of the others.

So what brings me to a site like okcupid? Aside from the "meeting people at bars sucks" general rule, I'm tired of playing games (I'm no good at them). I want to find someone who is looking for something real that could lead to a long-term relationship. You can't just jump into one off the bat, but if you are looking for less, good luck with your search. I would love to find a partner in crime, a best friend, and a lover all in one.

Overall I am pretty happy with the way my life is shaping up, but it would always be nice to have someone to share it with.

I am curious, caring and loyal.
What I’m doing with my life
Got an MBA in nonprofit management and am now working as a theater producer and loving every minute of it!

In general embracing my nerdy tendencies.
I’m really good at
scrabble and trivia games. I have an almost encyclopidian knowledge of random facts. Sometimes I wonder what I could accomplish in life if I could free up the mental space these factoids hold and use it for something more productive. Instead I choose to be less productive by playing words with friends. Oh so addictive! I just joined a bar trivia league (yes that is as nerdy as it sounds and no I don't care.)

Cooking- especially spicy food. I make a mean veggie stir fry that can set your mouth on fire.

Knowing how to get somewhere even without a gps. It's usually more fun that way anyways. However, it appears that the west village is my kryptonite- I always get lost there. But I can usually tell you which direction we are facing (east, west, etc).

karaoke- I have no fear. I particularly enjoy live band karaoke. If you can't rock out to some Pat Benatar or Journey, what's the point?
The first things people usually notice about me
my eyes or my smile. I'm a pretty happy person so I'm usually smiling and my eyes are two different colors- half green and half blue.

Also that I seem taller than I am. Most people don't realize just how short I am until I can't reach something.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
My favorite books are Jemima J (Jane Green), A Ring of Endless Light (Madeline L'Engle), The Next Thing on My List, The Lovely Bones, The Hunger Games, any of the Harry Potter Books, Anything by Meg Cabot.

For movies- I like most things except for horror movies- they give me nightmares. I love anything with Muppets (the 1987 Muppet Christmas Special is my all time favorite, and the only time Muppets, Fraggles and the Sesame Gang were all in the same movie). I also love tv shows like Futurama (miss that one!) and Outlander, as well as old reruns of tv shows of my youth, like Boy Meets World and Sabrina the Teenage Witch (that's right, I admit it).

Music- everything except whiny country, rap that has to have every other word bleeped out, and metal that is more screaming than singing. I once listened to every song on my iPod (back in the day before your phone had everything on it ) without repeating (about 2800 songs as the time) - it took about three months and four road trips but it was interesting hearing music from my past and remembering where I was in my life when I bought it. Best Day of My Life by the American Authors has been my go to song to make me happy.

Food- the spicier the better! Thai, Mexican, Indian, if its hot, I'm game. If you know of any good Mexican in this area, you might just be my hero.
Six things I could never do without
Aside from the big things of food, water, shelter and family:

- Caffeine, in any form except for energy drinks, which give the the jitters
- A Good Book (loving the iPad for this now!)
- Intellectually stimulating Conversation
- A job I love (so far so good!)
- Great Friends
- A cozy bed (truly couldn't go without this one)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What kind of ads guys see when they log into this site? The ones I see are very girl specific...

My personal philosophy: If, in the course of my life, I have changed the life of one other person for the better, then I have truly lived.

Where my next travels will take me. Maybe Italy? I'm lucky enough to get a good amount of vacation at my job so I need to use it!

What was that thing I just remember that I was going to write down.... sadly this one happens more than I would like it to.

Why the really nice weather days always seem to happen during the week and then the weather turns crummy again on the weekend....
On a typical Friday night I am
Hopefully doing something fun. Or passed out from a long week. But sometimes that's good too.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am terrible at packing. Seriously, I can't do it to save my life. I end up with a bunch of things that I don't need and not with the one vital thing that I really did need, like my tooth brush.

I have a doppelgänger.

Despite my former dance training, I am still a bit of a klutz and often manage to trip over my own feet. I often walk directly into stationary objects that I should be able to avoid.

I own a moderately absurd number of books for a person with a small apartment.

I have had some of my writing published and have even been paid for my writing. But as I write under a pseudonym you won't find it if you google me.

That's probably too many things...
You should message me if
Any of the above is intriguing.
You love learning new things.
You like random adventures to places undetermined.
You have goals in life and are working to achieve them.
You don't smoke- I find it really gross.
You are a nerd.

You smile at strangers on the train just because you're a generally happy person or you take the time to stop and give lost looking tourists directions.

Bonus points if you like to travel, know how to SCUBA or are not afraid to get up and make a fool of yourself at karaoke night.

In all seriousness I'm not looking for a hook up and I'm not looking for casual dating so if that's where you are at in life- good luck but please move on. I'm in a good place in life and am looking for someone who wants to share it with me.

Since you've got to start somewhere, hi is a pretty good opening line.

Also, I'm a sucker for a great smile.
The two of us