32 Palo Alto, United States
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My self-summary
I had a profile up here for a couple of weeks that I thought perfectly represented my outlook on life and more importantly my sense of humor. Then I showed a friend and she said, "I read through your profile. You sound like a bona fide psycho."

So now I've changed it... but just keep that in mind.

I think the most interesting things about people when I'm getting to know them are their contradictions. Here area few of mine: I have a phd... and an obsession with Eminem. I like to talk about serious things like books and politics and humanity... and to gossip and talk about sex. I've taken part in serious athletic competitions at the international level... in the sport of ultimate frisbee. I love to cook and eat delicious food from all over the world made with high quality local sustainably produced ingredients... and then on some days I just really want a slim jim. Even though I'm not sure it actually counts as food.

I am a grownup living a grownup life in the grown up world. But I'm also a little nostalgic for the days when it was ok to be earnest and not cynical, and yet to see the humor in even the things we take seriously. And when it was always ok to sing out loud.
What I’m doing with my life
Shaping the minds of tomorrow's leaders. Well... they are for sure (for better or for worse) the leaders of tomorrow. Whether I'm actually shaping their minds is up for debate.
I’m really good at
Laughing. Arguing. Throwing frisbees. Lifting heavy things. Living in the moment. Singing songs. Writing emails. Math.
The first things people usually notice about me
At work: That I don't look like I have any business shaping the minds of tomorrow's leaders
At play: That I am a curious mix of clumsy and coordinated - I will accidentally throw my phone across the room and trip over nothing, but give me a team and a sport and I become graceful like an antelope
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I'm currently obsessed with everything Ann Patchett has ever written. I grew up on Canadian Literature mostly, so I've always enjoyed Margaret Atwood and Ian McEwan and Robertson Davies and people like that. And I'm developing a taste for non-fiction. Most recently I read Nickel and Dimed and got really depressed about the future of this country.

Music: A wide range. As I mentioned before I am a total badass gangstar who loves Eminem; I have the obligatory soft spot for some classic gays (Indigo Girls, Ani Difranco, kd lang); and I like a lot of mainstream indie stuff like Metric, Fun., and Florence + the Machine. Oh, and I always love oldies - anything from Bob Dylan to Elvis Presley. If you know Gary Puckett and the Union Gap, then you should definitely message me because we have an unbreakable bond.

TV: Just finished the Wire, now I'm working my way through It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia. Up next: Breaking Bad. When I watch TV it's most often comedies (Parks and Rec, Community, etc.), but I've been known to use Bachelor Pad to distract me from work.

Movies: I don't watch a ton of movies, mostly because I'm impatient and busy. I like movies that make me laugh or cry or think - or basically feel anything strongly.

Food: I love it all. Literally. All of it. It's the quickest way to my heart.
The six things I could never do without
Music. Bodies (my own and others', for different reasons). Passion. Curiosity. The Internet. Things to wear on my head when I'm frustrated with my hair.

Friends and family are a given.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Absurdity. Relationships (romantic ones, ones between friends, ones between professional associates). Social inequity. Why on earth anyone eats milk chocolate. Moral relativism. Plans to do fun stuff like bike through forests and climb up rock faces (usually artificial ones). Sexual diversity. My younger sisters. Whether I am in fact a bona fide psycho. The fact that I am not a bona fide psycho. Why my friend would say such a thing about me.
On a typical Friday night I am
Either hanging out with friends or enjoying a relaxing night to myself with possibly some wine but not too much because once it becomes known that you drink alone, people start to worry. On a Friday night that is less typical than I would like, I am heading off on a weekend or discovery and adventure.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
The truth is I'm pretty open about everything you could imagine, but it does feel a bit strange to let it all hang out online for people I may never speak to at all. Even more so it feels strange to pick just one thing out of all the possibilities.

I used to steal stuff when I was a kid (like younger than 10). I don't like to dress up for Halloween. Two of my favorite people in the world are my best friend's 8-month old and my 94-year-old grandmother. Sometimes when I'm bummed out I listen to music like Taylor Swift and Halo by Beyonce. How do you feel about any of that? Completely irrelevant, you say? I know. Let's just have a conversation like normal people.
You should message me if
If you want to play with me outside doing fun and / or challenging things. If you want to play with me with words and ideas. Words and ideas are almost always what make me feel connected to people. I also like people who know how to spell. It truly makes my eyes bleed to see "definitely" spelled with an a.

Seriously, though, the reason I'm here is to find meaningful connections with other human beings. Ultimately I want to find for someone to share a life with, but I'm open to that happening any time between now and the next several years. In the meantime I'm interested in other kinds of connections as well:-)