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My self-summary
I am an intersectional queer feminist. I hesitate to start with this, and I certainly don't go by the insipid moniker of "male feminist," but as many people on this site (of various genders) seem to disavow feminism it seems like I should address this. As for the intersectionality of this feminism, to me it means that there will be no dismantling of the patriarchy without a dismantling of the white supremacist, ableist, neocolonial, and heteronormative structures that prop up this patriarchy.

I'm adjusting to life in Cleveland after some time away from home. My plan is to enter a licensure program so that I can teach high school English, lest I be confined to precarious adjunct work.

I'm hoping to meet someone with passions and interests that aren't tied entirely to fetishized consumer-objects. It's important for me to have stimulating and challenging conversations with people, and I certainly don't think formal education is the only way to get there. Basically, I'm trying to avoid stagnation, and I'm hoping to grow as a person through whatever form of interactions this dating site affords me.
What I’m doing with my life
Finding another career path, now that I'm no longer a grad student in philosophy. There's a lot I can do with my life, but really I just want to continue to explore certain ways of thinking that have been important to me, particularly the intersection of the aesthetic and the political, and how such figures as the image and narration have shaped the ways in which art interacts with the shaping (oppressive or libratory) of social and political bodies.
I’m really good at
cooking. We should talk about this, and exchange recipes!
The first things people usually notice about me
For my entire life, I've been growing my hair into a rat tail which is now the length of a blue whale. I conceal it, with varying effects of subterfuge, beneath my shirt, in a bundle, so that there is a massive hump beneath the back of my shirt. I herniated several discs this way, and yet I refuse to cut it, because into this rat tail is woven my very soul.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I like lotsa things! Top three for each category. In a bit, I'll expand to five:

Film: Ikiru, 8 1/2, What About Bob

Music: Tom Waits, David Bowie, Minutemen

Books: Brothers Karamazov, The Trial, in the Heart of the Country

Shows: MST3K, Bit of Fry and Laurie, That Mitchell and Webb Look
The six things I could never do without
1. Not making lists
2. Not making lists
3. Not making lists
4. Not making lists
5. Not respecting list-parameters
I spend a lot of time thinking about
alienation, and how to avoid it.

Mostly, though, I think about food. And the other thing, of course.
On a typical Friday night I am
singing karaoke, eating, attempting to dance, or watching a DVR recorded TCM film at home.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I need to rant about people's answers on this question, but without any bitterness...it's just an idle rant, half-smuggery and half edgy-pretense. Why are there so many people saying "It woudnt b private if i posted it"? Before exploring the psychological question, I'll explain why I find this answer to be inane: 1) The prompt is not asking for absolutes...it's not asking for the "most private thing in my life" but rather the most private thing you're willing to admit...it's something that is private in a relative sense (meaning it could be something only nominally private, something that is invariably less invasively public than the things you've already posted about yourself (age, gender/sex, orientation, location), 2) the question is not mandatory. Now, if you honestly feel uncomfortable sharing anything even slightly private (but, again, everything you post on here is private relative to not having an account), then you needn't answer it.

Moreover, to the psychological problem behind this phenomenon: The reason you're posting such a reply is most likely either A) You honestly think that you're maintaining some kind of sanctum of privacy while having an online profile, or B) You think it's a joke...a brilliant joke. Like, you have your finger on the pulse of our hypocritical notions of privacy in the internet age, and you're ribbing without reprieve at this bloated bourgeois behemoth of self-contradictory contemporary mores (okay, I'll grant you, that's too much alliteration...if this were a writing class, I'd mark myself off a few points for that, as well as this over-lengthy self-interrupt) by pointing out that this website is asking for a logical contradiction, in which case. But I contend that you would be mistaken, either way.
You should message me if
You're Judith Butler, and you like coffee.