29St. Louis, United States
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My self-summary
This profile is OKC-take-three for me. I guess, like a lot of people, I delete and rebuild my profile as my relationships change. Currently I'm mostly interested in keeping an eye on my husband photozenic and my boyfriend lucaslawkin. Somebody needs to keep them out of trouble.

So, about me. I am polyamorous, and currently have two incredible life partners (mentioned above) as well as a boyfriend. Sooo, I'm a bit busy. But I'm totally ready to vett any of them if you came to my profile to see if they're creepy and weird.

Oh, one more thing. I can't find a place to put this, so I'll throw it in the catch-all box. I love talking, and listening. If you can make me laugh, teach me things, tell me stories, I will be your elated and attentive student. I like to know what other people know, because it shows me what they care about. I don't know a damn thing about computers, but if you want to tell me about some minutiae of programming because you're really fascinated and excited about it, do it! I want to know because you want to tell me. And if you feel the same way, I'll talk your ear off about literature/literary criticism and existentialist philosophy.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm currently conducting a socio-economic experiment to see how long it takes me to pay off four years of college with a job making coffee.

I work at a coffee shop in Benton Park, the only sex-positive shop in the Midwest, as far as I know. I am a barista, and run the human sexuality lending library. (Get it now? Librar-ista?)

I also write a blog, and am working on convincing myself that my memoir won't write itself.
I’m really good at
Writing, pulling a mean shot of espresso, cooking, forgetting why I walked into a room as soon as I get inside.
The first things people usually notice about me
I am, I shit you not, an exhibitionist, extroverted, shy person. What that means is that I love to get noticed, love to get looked at, I love to laugh and be around the people I love. However, if you're a stranger I am probably terrified of you. So you'll often find me scantily clad, but with a less than welcoming facial expression.

The tl:dr version - I suffer from chronic bitch-face.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Oh my, this list is always the hardest for me because I don't want to create a tl;dr dilemma. So let's go with genres instead of specific items, shall we?

Books:Victorian, postmodern, science fiction, fantasy. Fun fact: I have never read LotR or Harry Potter. Memoirs

Ok, I've gotta throw some authors in here too: Thomas Hardy, Jane Austen, George Eliot, Don DeLillo, Jim Butcher, Terry Goodkind

Movies: Musicals, horror, animated films, science fiction, fantasy.

Shows: Science fiction, supernatural (the genre, not the show - well, the show too), drama

Music: Pop, Broadway, thrash metal, power metal, acoustic chick music (think Ingrid Michaelson....but NOT Regina Spektor), dance, dubstep, classical solo piano, smatterings of classic rock, rap, and country. Really, I've never met a genre of music that doesn't have SOMETHING I enjoy.

Food: I'm a pescetarian, so the majority of the animal kingdom holds no appeal for me. Sushi, on the other could call me up at 5AM out of a dead sleep, and I will get my ass up for some sushi. I also love cheese, but with less fervent dedication.
Six things I could never do without
My boys, coffee, blankets, shoes (Have I mentioned the shoe fetish yet? I should mention that.), parenthetical statements, and something else.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The generalized blindness of most people and how frustrating it is to try to tackle racism/sexism/various isms when it's so completely normal almost no one realizes it's there.
On a typical Friday night I am
Alternately with the spouse or the boyfriend, depending on the week. Maybe we're home, maybe we're out.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have a tattoo that is an album/song title.
You should message me if
You're a tatted-up alternative sex-positive kinda girl who really likes coffee and conversation. If you dig the nerdier side of life (dice-chucky role-playing games, Star Trek, that sort of thing), or just think that kind of girl is hot.

If your personality has a generous dose of snark and you think you can make me laugh until I can't breathe, feel free to jump to the front of the line.
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