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My self-summary
I am flirty, honest, and compassionate.

Please forgive my poor "housekeeping". I still don't have much room in my e-mail-box. You might be able to reach me directly at:

I'm driving a cab, nights now. My time is extremely restricted, so I look at *any* of my social media very rarely. If I don't get back to you, it's probably not you, I'm probably just ***insanely*** busy.

I think it's safe to say that I have never met anyone like me. Other people I have met (mostly women) simply do not know how to "deal with me". And I have had some people stay at a distance because of it.

I refer to myself as "unevenly socialized". It's the best way I know to describe how I interact with the world. And all I ask is that you take a little time to get to know me, before you write me off.

I am something of a natural and possibly even wild creature. I view the world with a certain amount of innocence. In some ways I believe that I am a bit like a child. My perception of the universe, the world, people, pretty much everything, is intuitive. And I think in feelings and pictures, way more than words. So it is sometimes difficult for me to translate what I'm thinking such that others may understand. I may say things that don't come out as they were intended. I almost never mean to be cruel, it just comes out that way sometimes. But if you look where it came from (or just ask; "WTF?!") I'll try to explain what I really meant.

In many ways I am far from innocent. And I know how to protect myself . . . mostly. But I prefer to keep people near me from whom I don't have to. I hate arguing and drama. I Like things to be simple, but that's not to say that I can't take a challenge.

Oh yeah, I've done it again. I've forgotten to properly introduce myself; . . . Incorrigible Flirt here. *waves*

I am a creature of touch. It is my primary means of communicating affection, empathy, and other emotions. Hugs from me are plentiful. And with someone I care about, there is even more fun to be had with touch.

I probably could just go on and on adding random bits of information about myself, but that would get long and probably boring in short order.

Please view my posts (especially Please Be Considerate . . .). There may occasionally be new information added in that way. And if I add you to my favorites, there are other posts to see.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm currently looking for work. The economy has not been kind to me. Neither has nature.

I want to find a good job that will allow me the financial freedom to live on my own and still maintain my lifestyle. I don't really need much, though a girl has to have standards.
I’m really good at
I don't know about *really* good at, but there are several things I really like doing.

I'm mentoring several young people. This mostly includes lending a sympathetic ear, a supportive shoulder, and occasionally a bit of sound advice to help them through troubled times. And I am certainly not above doing what I can to help any for my friends.

I'm pretty decent at horseback riding. Took classes when I was younger. And I really love horses.

I *love* woodworking, even if my skill is still fairly low. I mostly have structure down. And what's more, I'm willing to learn.

Sewing is lots of fun, and I seem to be reasonably good at it. Not the fancy stuff, mind you, but I'm firm on the basics.

I also enjoy cooking, puzzles (that is jigsaw puzzles, mazes, and the like), games (cards are Ok, also "board games", and RPGs).
The first things people usually notice about me
From a distance, I have slightly wild ash brown hair (with too much gray for my taste), down to the curve of my lower back. I have a well proportioned, voluptuous body. All my male friends (and a few female friends) say I'm *sexy*.
Height -- 5'4"
Weight - ~200 lbs.
Bust ---- 38 DDD
Waist --- 46
Hips ----- 54

I guess that people tend to notice that I'm honest and kind.
I've been told, more than once, that I'm easy to talk to.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I have so many things that I like, I really can't choose favorites.

I prefer trashy romance novels, sci-fi / fantasy, and adventure.

I like romance (sometimes with a dash of comedy), fantasy, and adventure. Some action is occasionally good as well. Classic Horror (vampires and werewolves) is almost a guilty pleasure. And I like all of these in interesting combinations.

I like classical, reggae, rock-n-roll, Celtic & a few other national types of music, some pop, some alternative, and even some country.

My tastes are bland, by most peoples' standards, but varied. If you're interested in taking me out, let me know what you have in mind, and I'll let you know if it sounds like something I'd like and/or can eat. I am doing Atkins now, so carbs are "bad" for me.
Six things I could never do without
1. My family - I'm so lucky to have such great family.
2. Other people to talk to and do stuff with.
3. Love & friendship, preferably together.
4. Reasonably decent food.
5. A secure place to live.
6. Hope for a better life.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How I would like my future to look. Usually it looks like I need to win the lottery. And I try to give the Universe a chance to help me do so (as often as I can afford).
Lately I've been thinking a lot about if I can find a better job, that doesn't hurt the already broken parts of me.
On a typical Friday night I am
I don't get much "me time" any more.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I practice polyamory. If you're actually interested in me, follow these links:
Polyamory - Wikipedia Definition
Polyamory - Wiktionary Exploration
You should message me if
You do not play games in relationships.
You are open to alternative lifestyles.
You are looking for more than a short term relationship.
You are not assuming that "activity partners" translates to casual sex [Not happening! Not interested!] I really do need someone in my life who is willing and able to *help* me remember and take time to exercise.
You have a minimum of 70% Match/Friend AND a maximum of 25% Enemy as it relates to me. [Outside those boundaries, you are just wasting both of our time. I set them as liberally as I am comfortable. And, given dating results, I've seriously considered making them even more strict.]

Please be sure to read the posts you have access to before you message me.

Also, I'm beginning to get bugged by how many people are contacting me that have insufficient information on which to base any interest. Read this post - Please Be Considerate . . . then:
Offer some real information in your profile.
Completing your "The Skinny" (aka. Details) is useful.
And please post a face shot of yourself.
Journal posting is artificial for some, so I won't ask that.
I really like to see people having answered at least 200 questions. It helps me see if we are compatible. To make the process more efficient, between us, you can go to the "The Two of Us" tab on my profile (sometimes called "Y'all Have Issues"). Once there, just answer some of the questions that I already have (I don't insist on you answering publicly, though I do prefer it.). That will also improve your matching with others who have answered the same questions.
I don't think I'm asking too much. And I suspect that we are all here to make dating more efficient. Thank you for making this a better experience for us both.

If you've read this far, you're still interested, and you wish to message me; please send e-mail to:
I am functionally out of space in my OkCupid mail.
The two of us