47Oakland, United States
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My self-summary
What I love:

Music. My tastes are pretty eclectic.

My dog and cat - the loves of my life

Nature and the outdoors, gardening

What's important to me:


Progressive politics, environmentalism

Being busy (swim, hike, run)

What's fun:

Dancing - 70s funk, 80s.

Hot tubbing/ Hot springing

Parties with the peeps

Beach runs with the dog. We like Stinson best. She's a terrier. She keeps me busy.

I'm a bundle of contradictions. I'm generally drawn to other functional misfits.

I'm an atheist Jubu. I'm also Swedish.

I'm allergic to the precious.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a classical choral conductor and teach various music subjects at the university level, like voice and music theory and history. It's a pinch-me job and I'll keep doing it as long as they let me. My department incorporates social justice into our work with the performing arts.

I'm making a documentary film about Izzy Young (the Greenwich Village folk music promoter, presenter of Dylan's first NY concert; it's getting me really into early blues & folk musicians like Rev Gary Davis, etc.)

Playing my wineglass organ. Lots of instruments in my house - grand piano, several guitars which get the folk guitar treatment (1925 Martin parlor guitar!), ukulele, nyckelharpa, various recorders and such. Wish I could play them all.
I’m really good at
Singing really high. Listening. Massaging. Following through on ideas and projects. Honesty. Throwing dinner parties.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m petite. My eyes are two colors, sometimes three. People tend to think I'm about 10 years younger than I am.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Reads: Rushdie (Oh you fabulous spinner of fables!), Michael Chabon (Yiddish Policemen's Union), Jonathan Franzen, Virginia Woolf, James Baldwin, Annie Proulx (Shipping News), Confederacy of Dunces, Nabakov's Pnin, Catch-22. W.H. Auden. Tove Jansson and Astrid Lindgren. Sholem Aleichem.

Music: Joni Mitchell, Britten, Weill, Bach, Sigur Ros, Sleepytime Gorilla Museum, Mahler, Bartók, Reich, Radiohead, Stevie Wonder, Schubert, Mozart, Prokofiev, Beatles, Harry Nilsson, Cocteau Twins, Kate Bush, David Bowie, Prince, Rufus Wainwright, Richard Thompson, XTC, Prince, Elvis Costello, Parliament, Swedish folk music...

Theater: Angels in America and all things Kushner, Shakespeare, Becket...

Movies: M, Fanny & Alexander, Synecdoche New York, Life Aquatic (and anything by Wes Anderson. Love the Moonrise Kingdom soundtrack - Britten, French 60s pop!), Cohen Bros, Mel Brooks, oldies, Rosencrantz and Gildenstern are Dead. Youth...

TV: The Prisoner, The Wire, Brideshead Revisited, House of Cards, Sherlock, Transparent, Hannibal.

Food: Tapas, Japanese, Middle Eastern, homemade delights, seafood, etc, etc. I cook and can food that I grow in my garden.
Six things I could never do without
Soft things (pets, blankets)
Hot water
My peeps
Nature (preferably out of reach of civilization) and getting dirty in the garden
Culture – theater, music, literature – things that make me think, feel, giggle
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Overpopulation. We used to talk about this. Why did the elephant in the room become taboo?

Misogyny. In all the corners of our society - the reason Trump is president. The reason women are still paid less than men for equal work. And (sorry, but...) the reason so many of you are willing to date someone 30 years younger but no older. Time for the mirror?
On a typical Friday night I am
At a concert. Making dinner with friends. Checking out a film. Or cuddling with my cat and dog. On the sofa reading or watching a film or series on Netflix.

Listening to my housemate spin 45s - 60s soul, 70s psych, 80s power pop - you get the picture. Pretty great to have your own private DJ.

Would rather be camping. Would rather be dancing. Would rather be at the theater.
You should message me if
There's something here you resonate with.
You're not polyamorous or politically conservative (I've tried that. Live and learn)
The two of us