updated 6/18/10. Happily in the arms of young love with a beautiful, fascinating, exciting lass I met here on OkCupid. Hurrah!
Myspace profile and blog: http://www.myspace.com/llorenth
I am a firm believer in honesty. That said, I believe in the power of tact. So I will be straight with you all the time, but if I sugar-coat it, it's only because I care about your feelings.
Feelings. Yes, I'm compassionate and empathetic and romantic and sensitive and all that stuff women supposedly want. It's wasn't getting me anywhere with the ladies really, but I keep at it because it is who I am.
Politically I'm on the radical, left-leaning side - a libertarian socialist (see: Noam Chomsky). I hate the two party system, both ruling parties, and their corruption of our government. Ethically I follow secular humanism, and philosophically I hew towards Taoism. I have strong beliefs and high ideals about life, humanity, and our world. I hold myself to a strong standard of honesty, fairness, and kindness.
I used to be very shy, but I've learned to overcome it, unless an attractive woman is involved. I'm not crazy about huge crowds. Must be the ninja training!
I'm a geeky guy with eclectic tastes and hobbies. When I really like or love something, I become very passionate about it, and become a sponge for knowledge on the subject. I'm a friendly, innocent know-it-all: I love knowledge, love to share it, and I'm only doing it because I think knowledge is awesome and needs to be shared. I'm not trying to make you think I'm smart. I know I'm smart -- not super smart, not genius, just smart -- and that's enough for me. I scored 82% nerdiness on the nerd/geek/dork test, and OkCupid seems to think I'm geekier than almost everyone else in the world
I am endlessly curious. Wikipedia has become an addiction, letting me get answers to all my idle curiosities. That might just be dangerous.
From my mind comes a wellspring of goofy insanity, which I call humor. I draw from wacky Monty Python-esque absurdity, wit and sarcasm, obscure and morbidly dark humor, and even punnery. I generally draw the line at slapstick of the cruel nature, or cruel humor of any sort. Or cruelty of any sort really. Laughter is the best medicine, and the world needs a BIG injection of it.
I had been searching, with varying degrees of enthusiasm, for someone to fall in love together with, someone smart and passionate and creative, someone funny and kind and deep-souled. I want someone who makes me say WOW, from first glance to years down the line. Women have submitted too much, for too many years; I want an equal, never a slave or master. I know 'what' I'm looking for, and now it seems I may have found my 'who'. I'm a hopelessly hopeful romantic and I am completely excited that I've found someone who matches me wonderfully.
I am often misunderstood, irrationally hopeful, and insanely curious.
I spend my free time playing games(table top, console, computer, etc.), reading, listening to weird music, going to concerts, watching the occasional movie/TV series on DVD, writing the odd crappy poem when the muse strikes me, and keeping in touch with my friends as best I can.
Physically I'm a little on the plump side. I have big brown eyes; my mother the artist calls them 'burnt sienna'. Big nice lips, or so I've been told. I wear lots of band shirts that happen to be black. If they make other colors, I do wear them. I guess I can look pretty dark sometimes, but I'm mostly harmless and bright about as often as dark. I'm very intense, honest, and I try to make people (including myself) laugh.
b. Strange and interesting movies like Memento, Brazil, or Kafka. Funny zany movies like Monty Python or Man Bites Dog. Intense dramas (Schindler's List) and unusual romances/romantic comedies (The Princess Bride, Grosse Pointe Blank). Action movies like Bruce Lee films, Kill Bill, Boondock Saints, Sin City. I really like movies in general. TV, on the other hand, I'm not too into, mainly due to lack of content control. Changing the channel only does so much for you! I have found a kinship for a few TV series, but I prefer to wait for the season DVD so I can dodge the advertisements.
c. I love (real) heavy metal, progressive rock, progressive metal, and downright eclectic music. I have a STRONG distaste for redundancy and for electronic drums. Favorite bands: Genesis, Rush, Opeth, Orphaned Land, Echolyn, Redemption, Fates Warning, Symphony X, Yes, Iron Maiden, Megadeth, Mr. Bungle, Saviour Machine, Savatage...the list could go on. I adore live shows, even by bands I might not be crazy about. Example: I loved both Bright Eyes' and Tori Amos' live performances. I also really enjoy symphonic orchestral music (mainly soundtrack composers and 'modern' Russians like Mussorgsky, Shastakovich, Stravinsky), video game music, and live musical theater (or any theater, really)
d. Thai (curry!), Mexican, Indian (CURRY!), Vietnamese (pho!), Japanese (sushi!). Name an ethnic food and I probably like it. All that and I still love a good steak/burger. I can cook, and I frequently get compliments on my cooking. Food is necessary for life, but it doesn't have to be boring!
e. Yes, e. Another big hobby of mine is electronic gaming, both on consoles and PCs. My favorite series is Castlevania by Konami, so much so that I ran a weekly Castlevania RPG for 2.5 years! I have a great love for many games in the Final Fantasy series as well. Capcom makes some great games too. I like 2D old-school shooters (AKA shmups) like Gradius and R-Type, 2D fighting games like the Street Fighter and Guilty Gear series, and I have a very soft spot for the Kunio-kun series of games, almost all of which were made for the NES/Famicom by Technos and include classics like River City Ransom, Super Dodge Ball, and World Cup Soccer. I even like numerous Nintendo series, such as Zelda and Mario, but my favorite from them is the Metroid games. PC games I adore include Lookingglass/Ion Storm's Thief series, Black Isle/Bioware/Obsidian RPGs like Dragon Age, Baldur's Gate, Icewind Dale, and Neverwinter Nights, Irrational Software's System Shock 2, Bullfrog's Dungeon Keeper 1 and 2, Monolith's No One Lives Forever and it's sequel, etc.
Music, LOVE, fun, GOOD food, CLEAN water, CLEAN air. (Can you tell how I feel about the environment?).
I'll add more, six is too few: Sex. Good friends. Inner tranquility. Inner chaos. Beauty: of natural things, of art, of women.
And what the hell, six things I can live without: Smokers (and drugs period). Spite. Religious zealotry. Willful ignorance and apathy. Deception (self or others). Killing and violence.
Everything. Sometimes that gets REALLY irritating, but my brain goes nearly non-stop, and my personality is a bit obsessive. Thinking is a constant habit for me, and I wouldn't give that up for anything. I think strange thoughts, practical and impractical, wild and entirely mundane. I find humor in most everything, somehow, even my own most desperate and depressing moments. I don't obsess over any one thing for very long, though I often come back to it. My attention span is much longer than normal, I think. If I loved something (or someone) before, I rarely cease loving it/them, though my focus wanders, looking for fresh stimuli.
Lately I've been thinking about my life, and about the people who have influenced it. From each strong connection we make, we take away little pearls of wit and wisdom, stamped with the image of that person. These pearls change us and shape us in ways we seldom expect.