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My self-summary
About me: These are the adjectives that were given when I asked my close friends: vivacious/energetic, open-minded, artistic, free-spirited, funny, loyal, direct and intellectual. ( I don't agree with intellectual. I am quite smart, though.)
I work with adolescents and I still love my work after many years. I was married for 22 years, divorced a few years ago and have a 25 year old daughter and a 22 year old son. I'm ready to open my heart again and while I'm comfortable on my own, I would like to have a partner to explore life and have adventures and fun with; a man who knows himself and who can be strong and reliable as well as soft and loving.
I love making things, drawing, gardening, reading, exploring new places, looking at good art, listening to music and dancing with my dog, working out...actually, sometimes I love working out and sometimes I dread it but I feel so much better when I do that I keep on going. I love the water and have almost always lived on one coast or another.
What I’m doing with my life
Serving others has always been a motivator in my life. I always see several people in my practice for a low fee or no fee and I consult to agencies that serve underprivileged families.
I'm thinking about moving out of the Bay Area in the next year or two. Thinking about Albuquerque! I'm fed up with the traffic and San Francisco is no longer the city that I love. Prices are obscene and lots of interesting people have been priced out. This city that was known for diversity, tolerance and freakiness is no longer. It makes me sad...but change is part of life and it's apparently time for a new adventure!
I’m really good at
my work
finding humor in the absurdities of living
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm 6 feet tall and have red hair. I am not inconspicuous.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Lots. Too many to mention but I'll say a few: For music: blues, some jazz, some classical. I'm pretty eclectic. Michelle Peyroux, Bonnie Raitt, Mark Knopfler, Annie Lennox, Pablo Casals, Pat Metheny, Ralph Stanley, Aretha, Patty Labelle, The Radiators, YoYo Ma, many others. I like food but I'm not someone who remembers restaurants by the wonderful meals that I've had there. I cook occasionally and can make some great meals but I'd usually rather do something else. So if you can cook, bring it on. I do like to eat.
Films: I like documentaries and lots of different genres - The Beast of the Southern Wild, anything with Betty Davis, The Silence of the Lambs is one of my all-time favorites, Searching For Sugarman. ...right now I'm blanking on films so I'll add more later.
Six things I could never do without
my kids
good books
good friends
working out
living near an ocean-I did live in New Mexico for a while and may again, so I can do without living near an ocean. All of the water that was swimmable often had rattle snakes lounging about but the desert and sky and sun are beautiful to look at. No fog horns, however.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I wrote the following pre-Trump. Even more worrisome now.

Worrying that Republicans will set womens' rights back 400 years and that big banks and people with lots of money in those banks are ruling our country. I also think a lot about how people work, how our brains work and how some weeds in my garden have amazingly prolific root systems. I worry about my kids. Yesterday I was wondering where does all the garbage we produce go? Does it go on barges that are littering the seas? I'll have to google that...I did and MIT has started a tracking program to figure this out! I was wrong about the barges. I also think about ways to save more water and about shoes..
On a typical Friday night I am
There are no typical Friday nights. Anything from dinner, movies, whatever with friends, Art Murmur, walking with my dog, hanging out with one or both of my kids, drawing.......
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
You should message me if
You have a good sense of who you are and you're looking for someone to spend, hopefully, the rest of your life with. You must like to laugh. I am looking for a partner and a friend, which to me is that both of us are able to talk and really listen, we both enjoy having outrageous fun but can also be serious when it's time for that, we have independent lives and respect and value that in the other. Also, you don't take yourself too seriously and you're okay with each of us telling the other when they're being a jerk.

Deal breaker: Also, don't message me if you only want to talk about yourself and have no curiosity about me.
The two of us