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My self-summary
A friend told me I was doing this all wrong, so I'm taking her advice/help. (0.o) So here's what you need to know about me:

I'm a "nice guy", the kind of guy who "ends up in the friend-zone" and doesn't care. The guy who drives for an hour to visit a friend who was crying, who'll bring you homemade minestrone if you're sick without asking. I'll be the first to tell you something is probably a bad idea, then jump off a 40ft cliff with you. I'll never lie to you, unless you know I'm doing it and don't care.
I dance because I feel like you can express more, in 5 minutes on the dance floor than in an hour's conversation,
I smile at as many people as I can because I know chances are they'll smile back and their brain will give them a little boost because of it.
I'm shy and confident all at the same time.
And sometimes I'll sing just because "I've got sunshine on a cloudy day""and rain drops keep falling on my head, but that doesn't mean that I am dead"and"I can see clearly now"so"I wrote these words in open honesty"."The only problem is, I'm not your ordinary, average Romeo" Sometimes songs are the words I need. I am an unabashed, cheesy, weird goofball with a healthy helping of nerdtastic for good measure

I'm happy, and I know where I want my life to go and I know what stops I want to make along the way. The rest... well I leave that up to the universe and maybe a co-pilot.

At this moment in my life... I'm still enjoying meeting new people, friends and sometimes lovers, living life to the utmost but really in the end...what I want is
And with any luck one of these days I'll run into this: type of girl

So ladies, gentleman, I invite you to join me for the ride, come say hi, stay for a while, pop in for a minute or a season. I want to see the world, and I don't mind if it's one friendly face at a time!

I'm an ISTJ aka The Guardian and I approve this message.
Update, I've been gone from the site for a long time, I just sort of got too busy for it...:( SO I'd like to apologize to anyone I may have left hanging in PMs and I'll try and apologize again more intimately later.

I've found an amazing girl (thank you OKC) And we're very happy together. Our relationship fluctuates but we're generally happy with some form of Non-monogamy.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm currently majoring in economics, I got on this path late so unfortunately I'm alittle behind but I'm deeply enjoying it. I'm also A part time Swim Instructor.
In my leisure time I enjoy being lazy(watching movies/shows), sketching, going for walks, playing Frisbee golf, photographing the city, gaming/hanging out with friends:), singing, crafting kink toys and working on my swing;) but my all time favorite; having a quiet night in and watching a movie, or listening to music and talking.
I’m really good at
Maybe I'm humble or maybe I'm just not super confident but I don't know that I'd say there's anything I'm "really good at". That said there are definitely things I enjoy and have had good reviews on.
I love cooking, doing massage, photography, driving and dancing.
And there are lots of things I've been practicing :) like whip making, Florentine flogging, nonviolent communication, empathy, swimming.
The first things people usually notice about me
My hair, people seem to love playing with my hair, not that i'm complaining:).
My Large, massage prone hands, my smile.
oh and sometimes my camera :)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
hunger games---------------------------A Year of Living Biblically
Hitchhiker's Guide To The Galaxy series-----------Xanth Series
Illusions---------------------------------------The Psychopath Test
The host------------------------Malazan Book of the Fallen series
ultimate guide to cunnilingus:)-----------------------Sex at Dawn
Human Sexuality text book-----------------------------------Bonk
(I was going to school to be a sex therapist at one point )
War of Gifts------------------Going Solo, The rise of single living
When You Are Engulfed In Flames-------------------Hаrry Potter
Advertising Concepts---------------African-American economics

matrix----------------------------------------------Spirited Away
ratatouille------------------------------------------The Dark Knight
James bond movies------------------- The Pursuit of Happyness
10 items or less----------------------------------- 7 Pounds
Hitch------------------------------------------------The Bucket List
Tyler Perry movies--------------------------------Chaos Theory
Five People You Meet in Heaven------------------I Robot
Iron Man--------------------------------------------Mulan
Dr. Horrible's Sing-Along Blog------------------- X-Men Movies
Firefly: move and show-------------------------- Book of Kells
How to Train Your Dragon------------------------Treasure Planet
what dreams may come--------------------------5th Element
Pirates of the Caribbean--------------------------Forrest Gump

White Collar---------------------------------------Bones
how i met your mother------------------------Scrubs
archer----------------------------------------------Dragon Riders
Avatar: the Air Bender--------------------------The IT Crowd
Black Adder----------------------------------------Dresden Files
Doll House ----------------------------------------Mushi-Shi
skins------------------------------------------------Doctor Who

Beethoven----------------------------------------Linkin Park
Coldplay-------------------------------------------James Brown
Mackelmore---------------------------------------Marvin Gaye
Bassnectar---------------------------------------- Al Green
Disney Songs-------------------------------------The Beatles
Musicals------------------------------------------- Chopin
Fort Minor----------------------------------------- Eminem
Atmosphere-------------------------------------- John Mayer
Rebelution--------------------------------------- Sweatshop Union

Savage love-------------------the moth
This american life-------------philosophy bites
intro to psychology-----------radiolab
99% invisible------------------- invisibilia
snap judgement---------------freakonomics
the naked scientists------------Serial
Six things I could never do without
My Friends and Family, Or a "community"

My camera, even when I can't save the pictures I still enjoy taking them:

My Hands, I LOVE to fiddle and tinker and fuss and worry things, so I'm always messing around with my hands. Eventually I decided to put them to good use! I am now a certified massage Practitioner!

Traveling, Somewhere anywhere, doesn't matter where or how long as long as I at least get to a different area code every couple months, otherwise I just get restless. Like a pup stuck in a house.

A Book, don't care if I only read it once a month for 5 minutes, I still need that print.


singing and dancing

I've recently been thinking a lot about my needs as a person, here's what I've come up with so far.
I have a need to feel important in someone's life
I have a need to take care of my friends and family
I have a need for compassion and empathy
I have a need for a sense of community
I have a need for to connect on a deep intimate level with people
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Who I am and where I'm going in life
getting to my homework
what it means to be happy
how to make and meet more friends in the city
racial, sex related, religion related issues (like green lantern being white in the new movie)
who I would "gay marry if gay marriage was mandatory" (i'm watching "totally biased" lol)
what kind of pirate I would be
how to make my kids into ninja/companion/genius
the perfect heist/date/vacation/dinner
how I'm alot like Ted from HIMYM
What I want in my future house
my new motorcycle
zombie apocalypse exit strategies
what my, occasionally, crazy weird dreams mean.

every once in a while I think of and write a bad/cheesy poem
On a typical Friday night I am
hanging out with friends/trying to get them out of their apartments, working, walking/frolfing in GG park, going to the movies, at Friday Night Waltz, doing homework.

These fridays i'm generally working, then volunteering at The Citadel, and crashing in the city.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
that I don't have many secrets if any... I get a little excited when I find a profile on here with a High match (80+), more than 400 questions answered and a fun nerdy profile. It always feels like it could be the start of a grand... something! lol

I'm good friends with all my Exs although a couple of them can still be alittle challenging to be around for too long and most of my relationships have been 8+months.
You should message me if
quick note, history has shown that if you have at least 500 questions answered and we still match at +85% then we'll get along well. So I'm making that a criteria.

you liked my profile and the stuff I had to say on it.
If you are willing to practice compassionate extreme honesty
you want (but don't need) a partner for *blank*

If you find joy in yourself, singing, dancing, adventuring
and if you've got any interest in the world of consensual kinky fun.

These are the big ones:
If you can understand that I have many people in my life that are more than family and who I'm not giving up for anyone.

you're into kinky fun especially pet play
The two of us