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My self-summary
I'm having some ongoing health issues and am not looking to date or go out to socialize until I get my health under control. So basically all I can offer right now is a fun, fabulous online penpal.

When I date, I'm open to monogamy or polyamory on a case-by-case basis. I've been satisfied and sated in both dating styles.

I'm strongly liberal, and my feminism is all-inclusive. I hold myself to a high standard and expect the same of my friends. I don't want anything to do with either misanthropists or misogynists. Smoking cigarettes and/or vaping is another total turn-off for me.

My favorite quote comes from Joseph Fort Newton: "People are lonely because they build walls instead of bridges." I also have a particular soft spot for the Latin phrase "Dum spiro, spero" (While I breathe, I hope).

I grew up in a small town by Sugar Land, TX, so I'll say things like "well butter my butt and call me a biscuit." I also spent two years living with friends in Berlin, Germany and can sometimes still muck through simple, conversational German.

I have some fabulously muscular legs from cycling and other activities, and I'm fat. If you think someone weighing about 170 lbs. and wearing a size 14 in women's clothing is outside of your criteria for personal attractiveness then I am definitely not a match for you.
What I’m doing with my life
I studied computer science and sociology college courses until my financial aid unexpectedly dried up; then I upgraded from volunteering within the public library system to working there for the past 3+ years. It's my dream job, and I'm so fortunate to have it.

I currently live alone because there aren't any co-ops in north Austin, but I spent a year living in two co-op groups in east Austin. I have a strong interest in sharing resources and responsibilities (cohousing, co-ops, etc.). I'm a budding (har har) gardener that had a plot at a community garden until I lost eligibility by moving.

I play a lot of mobile games like Pokemon Go and rarely card games like Dominion, Magic: the Gathering, Hearthstone, and DiXit. Cribbage is my favorite card game.

I volunteer online to proofread scanned books for Distributed Proofreaders to digitally preserve older literature and also volunteer to index old public records with Family Search to assist in genealogy searches.

I'm all about linguistics. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xW4hI_METac

I like to share videos!
I’m really good at
... the ability to make terrible puns and retain bad jokes. It's the gift that keeps on giving even when one would rather it didn't.
The first things people usually notice about me
I giggle-snort; if you see it then you'll definitely hear it. I have a septum piercing that folks tend to notice. The hair on the left side of my head is slowly growing out after getting shaved for a while. Apparently I dress a bit eccentrically as well. I tend to stand out. *shrug*
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Book recommendations:

Do you have a favorite book? Tell me about it! I devour sci-fi and fantasy anthologies, and I'm especially fond of most writings of N.K. Jemisin, Nnedi Okorafor, Terry Pratchett, Neil Gaiman, James Alan Gardner, Mary Roach, Jasper Fforde, Patrick Rothfuss ...

I watch TV shows online like Steven Universe and Adventure Time. I watch some fantasy, action, science fiction (naturally) and darker movies as well. I also like nature/science shows and documentaries Ex: David Attenborough

Anime: Food Wars!, Kill la Kill, Knights of Sidonia, Osomatsu-san, Yuri on Ice, Samurai Champloo, Miss Kobayashi's Dragon Maid, Paprika, Another, Cowboy Bebop

I like most music; give me some drum and bass, and I'll shake what my mama gave me. My playlist consists mainly of folk music, pop, EBM, industrial, and musical hits from the 1960s forward. Lately I have In Love with a Ghost, A Great Big Pile of Leaves, Tove Lo, and Lorn on repeat. I like music mashups that theoretically shouldn't mesh well but do in practice Ex: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ft9BAClTh0M

I also like bands like Ordo Rosarius Equilibrio because they have song titles such as "Three Is an Orgy, Four is Forever" and "Who Stole the Sun from Its Place (In My Heart)" and I cannot tell if they're serious or it's all a big joke.

I cannot think of a food that I wouldn't try once. I tried switched from a social vegetarian to a full-time pescetarian but found myself less happy and healthy, so I'm researching ways to address that.
Six things I could never do without
(Please replace "could never do without" above to "prefer not to do without.")

a bicycle in good, running condition
needle and thread
computer+Internet access
a desire to learn
ginger milk tea - I'd put ginger in everything from cereal to birthday cake if I thought it would improve the taste.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
- how to make library policies and practices more efficient
- the digitization of literature, libraries, and databases
- linguistics
- bartering and non-standard forms of currency (Ex: tacos!)
- transhumanism
- kinetic sculptures
- biospheres; co-housing; tiny house; underground living
- spelunking; ocean exploration; space exploration
- old technology Ex: Antithykera mechanism
On a typical Friday night I am
... error, does not compute
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
There's very little off-limits to me. I have an active Fetlife account. I have been known to sing the theme song of Schnappi das Kleine Krokodil complete with hand gestures.
You should message me if
Some more points that raise compatibility but aren't deal-breakers:
... you don't use the terms "boys" or "girls" to refer to men or women respectively
... you wear pragmatic, comfortable shoes (or rarely wear shoes)
... you often have a good time without drinking alcohol
... you voted in both your local and national elections
... you don't carry or own a firearm

I love hearing from people outside of the greater Austin area as well as inside of it.
The two of us