lotsofcurl
51 Manhattan, United States
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My self-summary
I share stories. I take lots of pleasure in narrative details. I'm not concise. I tend to be playful, silly, and sensuous, and occasionally I manage them all at once. Touching, cuddling, stretching, tasting, tickling, teasing, splashing. I'm often moving to music—salsa, around the house, to almost anything with a good beat. I tend to be intense, but also sometimes sentimental. I pay very careful attention. I am drawn toward people who say what they mean and also laughter. I smile when I’m happy. I appreciate gentle, lingering hands and lots of generosity, compassion, and intellectual engagement.

I am generous in spirit and have a desire and capacity for intimacy.
I think critically about society's norms and embrace living differently.
Both of these ways of being are important to me.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm pursuing ways to create community here in NYC. I teach literature; so I spend a lot of time reading and thinking about the many ways our world can be imagined and re-imagined. As a teacher, I'm committed to helping my students find new ways of thinking about what matters to them most.

I've also been spending a lot of time in Cuba, especially Havana, in the last few years, and it's starting to feel like a second home--even though I am much more often in NY. I haven't quite figured out exactly how my life there fits into my life as a whole. But I am starting to see some connections, and I am interested to see how they will evolve.
I’m really good at
I love being in water, and I'm an excellent floater (my swimming is not bad.)
Walking slowly (unless it's cold outside)
Moving to music
Talking and listening
Being tender
The first things people usually notice about me
Unmanageable curls, my eyes, or my voice—my animated self-expression
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Chaplin, Modern Times; Jonze, Adaptation; Fassbinder, Ali: Fear Eats the Soul; Juan Carlos Tabio, Lista de Espera (Waiting List), Sara Gomez, One Way or Another. Some of Santiago Alvarez’s newsreels from the 1960s are just astounding; I'm a huge fan of Almodovar, and thought Wong Kar-wai's In The Mood for Love was stunning. I loved A Separation.

Books: Edward Jones, The Known World; Naipaul, In A Free State; Diaz, The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao; I like lots of Amitav Ghosh's writing. I've read some great short story collections recently: by Dagoberto Gilb and Tania James.

A couple of years ago I came upon a collection of music from Angola in the 70’s and then coincidentally got introduced to more contemporary music from Angola through a dance community. Some other favorites: Roxy Music, Alfredo de la Fe, Orishas, Patti Smith, Neil Young. I never cease to be moved by Miles Davis, Kind of Blue.

I thought The Wire was powerful. I watched the last season with Spanish subtitles so I could practice my Spanish. But watching some of it again recently I wasn't entirely comfortable with its representation of race.
The six things I could never do without
deep understanding
playfulness
honesty
thoughtfulness
sweets (I could live without them but don't want to)
That's only five but four of them are pretty significant.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
--Why it's important to value being thoughtful rather than being smart.
--I'm working on a project on the beginnings of colonialism in the Caribbean, so I'm thinking a lot about how slavery was first imagined and practiced and how capitalism developed in relationship to it.
--Spending time in Havana, I am struck by the absence of advertisements and the space that opens up for other forms of artistic expression.
--How to imagine and communicate forms of social justice.
--How to be more creative and open.
--Ways to deemphasize productivity and instead focus on possibilities for creativity, engagement, and a more equal distribution of resources
On a typical Friday night I am
sometimes happy to go home and watch a movie; or, more likely, I'm out with friends: eating, sharing stories about our weeks, seeing a movie, listening to live music, or at a dance performance.
You should message me if
I count on myself in many ways. And I want a warm, loving, mutual relationship grounded in generosity and thoughtfulness. That might take time to develop. I'm fine with that. But I would like the spirit of these desires to be present in the intention from the near beginning.
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