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My self-summary
An old friend from college recently visited me and noted what a fancy, grown-up, lady I had become. "We all look the same under our costumes," I replied. Because while I can be startlingly professional now, I'm generally the 1st on a dance floor, can swear like a sailor, like to play Twister, collect thrift store ball gowns, take walks late at night, and will sometimes be prone to emo listening moments.

I'm fiercely independent, opinionated but open to debate, loyal, talkative when I'm tired, passionate about lots of things, a list maker, an adventurous pragmatist.

I am also a proud intentional solo mama to a beautiful little boy.
What I’m doing with my life
Being a mama. At 40, I no longer stress out about this question. Oh, you couldn't pay me to go back to my 20s. After over a decade in arts administration I've recently stepped into my 1st adult career change. I now own a small massage business and teach yoga (and dabble in grant writing for arts orgs to keep my left brain happy and the bills paid). I absolutely love it. It's been a fairly life-changing few years for me. But lest you be misled, I'm still a slightly sarcastic, often too intellectualizing, cocktail drinking, east coast Jew.
I’m really good at
Lending an opinion. Planning, and sometimes over-planning. Making cocktails. Leftie political rants. Instigating a dance party. Pretending to be a professional, but staying true to my riot grrl roots.
The first things people usually notice about me
My curls.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Interpreter of Maladies, White Teeth, Written on the Body, Middlesex, Alice in Wonderland, The Inheritance of Loss, A People's History of the United States, Anna Karenina, whatever I'm reading at the moment.

Movies: Okay, I'm kind of a snob about this. I'm not proud of it though. I've tried to enjoy the romcom that everyone loves, or the laugh until your gut hurts comedy that's killing at the box office. I think I took too many film theory classes in school. I genuinely love French New Wave films, Film Noir, Cassavetes, foreign films and documentaries. I recently fell in love with Beasts of the Southern Wild. But my all time favorites include: Umbrellas of Cherbourg, Wings of Desire, The Thin Man, Singin' in the Rain, Velvet Goldmine, Funny Face, Barbarella. I also have an absurd addiction to costume dramas based on classic literature. It's kind of embarrassing.

Music: Radiohead, MIA, Serge Gainsbourg, White Stripes, The Kills, St. Vincent, Bowie, Lou Reed, Nina Simone, Ana Moura, Pixies, early 90's hip-hop, French music, whatever's on the radio that makes me dance around the kitchen table on a Sunday morning. Also, I'm convinced that Pandora knows too much about my life, as the week after watching two different movies about Joy Division it started playing a lot of them on a channel that really shouldn't.

Food: Indian, Ethiopian/Eritrean, Japanese, fruit, vegetables, legumes and grains... and gin. I'm mostly vegan, but it's so not an issue for me what others eat. Go on, eat your bacon if you really want. It just means we won't get to share.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Theatre, cocktails, yoga, Mexico... ways to combine theatre, cocktails, and yoga trips to Mexico.

Amended to say, I now spend a lot of time thinking about nap schedules. Alas, not my own.
On a typical Friday night I am
Lately it's been at restorative yoga classes. But I realize that makes me sound horribly boring on a dating site. Drinking wine with friends is also a frequent option. I'm really much better with Saturday or Sunday nights though.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I don't really know how to ride a bike, but I'm slowly warming up to the idea of learning again.

Update: I have the cutest blue mixte that I'm learning to ride!
You should message me if
You generally show up to things on time, you don't take your phone out at the table, and you think it's cool that I have a kid on my own. Everything else is negotiable.

Bonus points if you are available for weekday coffee or lunch dates.
The two of us