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My self-summary
About Me

What I'm not looking for: a girlfriend (I have a great one, and she "approved this message" as the political ads say), mindless hookups.

What I am looking for: friends, people okay with open relationships for dating. If dating, then I'd hope the friendship would continue if the dating stopped.

I'm not sure that what I'm looking for is easy to find, but I'm willing to try.

If you voted for Trump, please don't respond - it won't work for me.

The next 4 years might be really horrible. Along with trying to save the world, I think we need to find as much joy as we can in order to keep going.

I'm down to earth, analytical, egalitarian, strong willed and passionate about the things that are important to me but open-minded and tolerant, energetic, youthful, and fun.

I enjoy hiking and world travel, am very active in the abortion rights movement (volunteer-wise) and the local Democratic party, and I'm a vegetarian (I've mostly dated non-vegetarians and don't care what you eat).

I love music (Richard Thompson, Billy Bragg, folk, blues, much more, go to about 20 shows/year) and enjoy good conversation. I love high culture (foreign film like Truffaut, Fassbinder, Rohmer, Bunuel, more) and low culture (South Park).

I'm a really good communicator, though I realize men are graded on the curve. I seem to relate well to women with a lot of male friends, possibly including some of their ex-boyfriends.

First photo is from the DC Women's March January 21, 2017, 2nd and 3rd are from January 18, 2017,4th from February 2012, 5th from October 2010 in Turkey.
I’m really good at
Hiking. I did the "W" (4 days hut to hut in Chile) in 2016, the Inca Trial in 2014, Grand Canyon (North) rim to (South) rim in 2010, a week backpack in Norway, and 4 Great Walks in New Zealand. I've hiked in many of the National Parks in the US.
The first things people usually notice about me
My eyes. I get a lot of comments on them.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Taylor Branch's 2500 page trilogy on MLK and the Civil rights movement. The Power Broker by Robert Caro about Robert Moses and Caro's 4 books (so far) about LBJ. Some of the best books I've ever read.

Some favorite films in no particular order: Godfather 1 and 2
Apocalypse Now
The Marriage of Maria Braun
Belle De Jour
Animal House
Pauline at the Beach
Two English Girls
Raging Bull
Short Cuts
Pather Panchali
Pulp Fiction
Lolita (original Kubrick version)
Annie Hall
Wild Strawberries
Sherman's March

TV: Bill Maher's Real Time, South Park

Music: Richard Thompson, Billy Bragg, Alejandro Escovedo, Loudon Wainwright III, Jonathan Richman, Leonard Cohen, The Mekons, Doc Watson, Paul Kelly, Bill Frisell, old blues (Muddy Waters, Howling Wolf, Sonny Terry and Brownie McGhee), Ali Farka Toure, and more
I spend a lot of time thinking about
That I appear to be one of the few people on here who is not annoyed by spelling mistakes. Or should I say speling mistakes?
Okay, not a lot of time, but it is a revelation.

How many people don't look back happily at past relationships.

Trying to make sure that while I try to make the world a better place in some small way, I'm also good to myself. I learned a long time ago that if you aren't good to yourself you'll burn out and be no good for anybody.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I've been a vegetarian for 24 years, but I won a Whopper eating contest at Burger King in high school. Three whoppers in the fastest time and no chucking for 10 minutes or you're disqualified.

I own about 2,500 CDs.

I've never peed in the shower. Or on Donald Trump.
You should message me if
My profile catches your interest.

Some sense of what attracts me: smart, strong, open-minded, compatible sense of humor, good talker and listener, like time alone and time with others, down to earth, self-aware. At least once in a while you can tell me something I don't know or make me see something from a new perspective. If you liked Bush or Trump, we won't be a good match.
The two of us