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My self-summary
I'm an open, friendly, lifelong lesbian. I value honesty, thoughtfulness, courage, and justice. I'm an empathic person, who has always stood up for the underdog. I've been recognized as an out lesbian all my life, certainly by 8 y.o. My heritage is Czech and Jewish. I immigrated as a small child and then lived with an African American family in a segregated city and a Dutch Reform farming family in rural NY, later, and most of my life orbiting around, or in NYC. I've traveled widely, respect people of many different backgrounds, and have enjoyed long-term interracial relationships.

I grew up multi-lingual...Does that make me a cunning linguist?

I believe good relationships require work, commitment, and a willingness to listen, give, and agree on digging deep to resolve conflict.

I believe "love is making a soul bargain".

Love is meant to heal:

I want to unite with my calling as a healer. I want to feel peaceful
giving and receiving in egalitarian, expansive, and fulfilling relationships.

To renew:
I want to renew my life in giving love to a partner, friends, youth(s), community, and the world.

I want to enjoy all the power of love and the erotic, (paraphrase from Audre Lorde"s , "the Pwer of the Erotic"). I want to join with the love that is the highest manifestation of who I am. I want to fully use all that I have learned... and that love can continue to teach me. I want to live on the deepest levels of life, where only love can take me. I want love's light to banish my fears and pain, as I keep returning to love as my touchstone, my birthright, and my Soul's destiny and purpose.

In general, I've worked hard in my life and made a great deal from what I was given. I was fortunate to be raised amidst books, music, art, and intelligent conversation, all of which I still value highly. In these respects, I'm still very European.

I'm from NYC, then lived in remarkable beauty, for 18 years, between farms near Lesbianville, USA. In 2011, I moved back to NYC, but still looking for a studio in Manhattan. (Aren't we all?) I prefer people to space.

I love being outside in nature: kayaking, taking photos, walking my dog.

I value good friends as much as romance, and give good time to a partner. I'm divorced (6 years ago and done), and would happily marry (a woman) again. I love kids, step-kids, and grandkids; and have helped raise a bunch.

I have a gorgeous, snuggly, dog, rescued from the wilds of W. Virginia. She's my 4th service dog. I'm finally getting good at letting them make me "real". "Who rescues who?"
What I’m doing with my life
I continue a part-time private practice in wholistic healing. I've been a classical homeopath since 1980. I have a lot of free time to travel, sing , dance in a wheelchair, write, photograph, create collages, and be with friends and my sweet dog.

I trained to foster an older kid, perhaps an LGBTQ one- to prevent homelessness. Currently, I see myself as a resource, rather than the primary adopting parent.

I used to walk, but now I dance
I used to hike, but now I sing

I'm an ENFJ (Jungian terms)- don't sweat them. Basically, they mean I like people.
I’m really good at
Imagining the best in people and helping them achieve it. Empathizing, listening, telling the truth, keeping my word, healing (others and myself). I'm smart, love to investigate and bring large amounts of knowledge from diverse places together. Deeply understanding people. And, yes, I am good at intimacy, loving, and kindness, (progress, not perfection:) Any other Imago fans out there? Learning "chesed", or loving kindness, as a deeply Jewish value. (Who nu?)
The first things people usually notice about me
Nowadays: that I use a wheelchair. Lifelong, from grade school on, people have seen me as a lesbian. My intelligence. My friendliness and human decency. My courage. Women do find me beautiful, but it is not a major part of my self-concept. I've also been called loving, affectionate, and steadfast.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I love most ethnic food: Thai, Asian, Indian, Mexican, African, Caribbean. Fresh vegetables bought from farmers. I'm a NYC foodie.

Books: The one that most changed my life was the Diary of Anne Frank. Lately: Courageous Souls and Your Soul's Gift, by Robert Schwartz
Girl with the Dragon Tattoo trilogy, The Da Vinci Code, Bel Canto, autobiographies: Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, Margaret Mead, Maya Angelou, Helen Keller; authors: Alice Walker, Toni Morrison, Oliver Sachs, Rumi-Illuminated, Hafiz, Kahlil Gibran- The Prophet, etc . I borrow and buy more books than I can read, and skim lots of art and picture books. Right now: books about the brain, dog training, service dogs. I love good children's books.

I need to publish my writing.

Movies: many Recent favorite: Pariah
All time favorites: Wild Child, Truffaut;and anything by Jodie Foster
My Left Foot, Rainman, Forest Gump, Mystic River, Sleepless in Seattle, The Incredible Adventures of Two Girls in Love. Elena Undone, Therese et Isabel, Stonewall Uprising, lots of foreign films, including Truffaut.

Music: Life changing, Daily: Graceland
I love Sweet Honey In the Rock, Bach, Vivaldi, Singing For Change, Beethoven, Libby Roderick, Holly Near, Nina Simone, Roberta Flack, world music, reggae, Buffy St. Marie.

I've had the amazing good fortune to have learned, sung, and performed with Ysaaye Maria Barnwell and Evelyn Harris, (of Sweet Honey), Pete Seeger, Jane Sapp, Bobbie McFerrin, and many others.
The six things I could never do without
Never is a long time. I have learned to do without many things. For now: my wheelchair. I prefer life with love, beauty, books, music, people, and animals. For the first time in my life, I no longer need glasses-yeah!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
On a typical Friday night I am
With friends, relaxing after a full week, downloading photographs, dancing, online, at synagogue.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
1) Need an editor. Still learning "Brevity is Best"
2) I find these OK Cupid questions curiously intriguing. My favorite is the Intimacy Test.
You should message me if
You're interested in friendship or friendship first, that might blossom slowly into a romantic, long-term relationship.

You want to share raising (a) child(ren).

You're looking for a swimming, scuba, kayak, downhill skiing, chess, dog-walking, wheelchair, dancing, radical feminist, and/or travel buddy.

You want to network around building disabled, accessible community.

You love exploring NY: its ethnic neighborhoods and beaches, its incredible diversity of culture and creativity.

Nowadays, niceness and character are very attractive to me. They have finally surpassed sexual attraction, thank God:-)