Does anyone remember how it feels to be in love? you know: cuddles, "stolen" kisses, walks hand in hand, beautiful words and gestures shared by both, fulfilling intimacy actually caring for togetherness? I'd certainly want to retrieve all that; hope there are great guys up there and the special one would share that with me, eventually.
I, in turn, promise to love, trust and respect him, the way he deserves.
I am active, childlike, and romantic
How are you?
With Easter gone it's time again to take the bull by the horns. Are you tempted to find excuses? Here's why we shouldn't:
Let's enjoy life!
I hope all is well with you and you enjoy the sunshine.
Things change all the time; it is better to embrace change, rather than be afraid to live:
'Don't sleep your life, dance through it!'
Just finished submitting ALL exam paperwork, perfect timing, as... Look at the weather outside! It's calling us out and I can't wait to go dancing in the park again (1st event 22 April- can't wait; and May rhymes with holiday- Republica Dominicana here I come! (we, actually- there's about 100 people from the UK and Ireland)
Time to trim this a bit
Lately I've been juggling things, but my relationships have been a priority. I see a relationship as a garden given to us with beautiful flowers, that we both need to water: respect, communication, mutual support and positive reinforcement, physical appearance, communication, tact, patience, trust and sparks or butterflies. For me, watering the garden is important and the 2 gardeners would either do it together, or, at least take turns, if there isn't enough water or one forgets. But if one forgets constantly and the other can't find the time, then, it is perhaps the moment to move on and take the surviving flowers with them, so that they grow beautiful in another fertile ground. Still, flowers shouldn't be ripped off, just patiently waited for until they are ready to come out and either be watered by the same caring gardeners or be transferred to another fertile ground.
1) I've been on this site for about 5 years and while in a relationship didn't delete my profile- I see my profile more like a blog, as this website used to run one. (of course, I wasn't using it as much, but that was not because I was prohibited, but because we experienced more beautiful moments offline)
2) I met someone here, fell in love, stayed together for 2 beautiful years (I prefer to remember the beautiful moments)
3) We broke up during engagement, 10 days before marriage- no cheating involved, just too different takes on life and a LOT of 'good friends' influence'
4) We were in love but have not been in touch at all
5) Myself- Available only for a new relationship, short or long, based on compatibility (When I say short I don't mean being 'the other woman' -No woman in a relationship should be the 3rd member- it points to either lack of dignity or to unhappiness for the one being cheated on). I'm a bird and I'll fly the nest with no happiness, after unsuccessfully trying to save it if we both believe it's worthwhile, rather than cheat or offend.
I am making my own money, so the material aspect is sorted. I have been going through a career change, while still practising based on my qualifications and experience, am flexible and adaptable, I enjoy the journey to fulfilment, not just the outcome.
6) My partner: close to my age; living in London (I have plenty of online friends); emotionally stable and available, sociable, good looking, intelligent and with professional background, non-smoker or minding his oral hygiene after smoking
After a relationship with cultural clashes, I would prefer someone from my own country, or, at least with a Latin background, but who envisages his future in the UK. I would also see that person, not only as a partner, but a good friend.
The Rat Race...may be ok in the beginning or when changing jobs. But how much should it control our lives after? Really, dear friends, look after yourselves before it's too late. Life is meant to be lived and danced through, not be enslaved by it. We need to find time, if we care about ourselves.
Listen to this...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YXnjy5YlDwk- Vivir Mi Vida (Live My Life)
I need to bring this closer:
How can I put this? I'm not very religious, but I am a Christian and this is how I wish to remain. I'm not saying any religion is better than the others, it's just that I was born and raised in a certain way, filtered things through and in the end...
Sorry, I have friends from many cultures and backgrounds, I have lived with them, dined with them, we hang out together, but I'm not attracted to them. In fact, after a relationship with cultural clashes, I would prefer someone from my own country, or, at least with a Latin background, but who envisages his future in the UK. I would also see that person, not only as a partner, but a good friend.
Why do we cheat?
(don't be fooled by the title, watch the video- it's about avoiding routine, but not with an outsider)
Same tactics, different approach
I hope I can say Congratulations to all those who no longer have an account and I hope it means they have found their match. I made quite a lot of friends on this website. It's not just any dating site, but I consider it a quality social platform.
Did I mention, I have great friends and teachers?
I've been told I look younger than my age and that's true, I look and feel younger thanks to dance and to the people that surround me and I'm sure that you, my special one, are just round the corner...:)
I dance and I love it, but not only that...it has taken me to another level, where we meet and dance in the park, have picnics and go to the barbecues of those involved on their birthday or just because....we are a big family.
But before we get to this point, let's just be friends. I have my lifestyle and you have yours. The first step would be to accept we are two people, not one, and we shouldn't try to change a partner to suit one's needs. Neediness in a relationship is hardly a good thing...
I also know about 'less is more', but sometimes less is not enough and we end up discovering that we wish we had known certain details before getting too involved.
I KNOW I have a very long profile. That is because I know who and what I want, but it may not be mutual. I am also aware I make mistakes, we all do.
Hm...Qu'est-ce que l'amour?
Also, I love animals, had pets when I was younger, but do not approve of them being kept indoors and certainly not sleeping on beds. That doesn't mean I approve of them being chained or harmed in any way. It is just a personal choice.
I can reinvent myself...time and time again. I believe that finding a guy who does the same, yet remaining charming, playful and attractive, would suit me best.
I believe in people and in their ability to fulfil their potential, no matter where we come from.
As for the rest, still into dance, still enjoying life to its fullest and, of course, meeting companions alike is still on the agenda.
Enjoy life, no matter what: from what I hear, nobody has ever got out alive from it. :)
My time is divided between personal and professional development.
On a personal level I endeavour to meet people, virtually or in real life and develop my personality and skill-set just by sharing experiences and networking. On a professional level, I am good at finding the hidden potential in people and motivating them to use their transferable skills to achieve their desired results.
I'm not the type that does no matter what for the money, nor am I a money slave. I either do what I do with passion and enthusiasm or don't do it at all.
London life suits me, as I enjoy organising and participating in outdoor and indoor events with professional and educated people.
After a busy/bad day at work, I go and dance Bachata and every bit of worry/tension vanishes into thin air. It's like alcohol and drugs, except it's good for your health. It might look immature of me in the eyes of the others, but that's who I am, I enjoy life to the fullest and hope to find somebody like me...one day. Or, at least someone who accepts my lifestyle, because it's not cheating and I can still be responsible and dedicated in the relationship. Tens of couples are either both in dance, or have separate hobbies, and they are in love with each other, but accept that their partner has other hobbies and that eliminates the neediness in the relationship.
I love Bachata, Salsa, Zouk and Kizomba in the company of my new and old friends and teachers at Pasión (Latin Passion), Salsatricity, Ritmo Latino, London Dance Cartel, Latin Mix and Bachata Spice.
I feel like I'm in a family there, as these are venues where people greet each other with smiles, hugs and kisses, alcohol does not take over the evening and elegance and politeness are of essence.
I used to get bored quite easily and those who know me ask me how come I'm still doing it. I guess all of the above and the sheer atmosphere are the answer...
All this makes me appreciate the beauty of life in its entirety.
Would you like to try? I am not the jealous type and nor should you be. It's just dance...
An interesting article to read:
If not, no worries, we don't need to share all of our hobbies if we can find time for each other. Neither would I impose my hobbies on you, nor would I have you change what you like, just so you can please me. I would prefer it, though, that we have some activities in common...the fact is, in trying to fill my time after the breakup... with something, I have found this and it has proved to be more than a filler...a resumption of the passion I developed 13 years ago, quite strong at the time, too.
Still single, independent and complete.:)
So, my life is sweet and full and will be only more sweet and full with a wonderful man –you? Believe me, if you are the right man, I will make life sweeter for you every day and every night. We are here to enrich and celebrate each other. Let’s explore and enjoy and play and see what wonders we can create together.
I work and study to be the best careers adviser. :P.
Seriously, I love what I do, and when paperwork puts me off, my clients' satisfaction makes me smile and I enjoy their success as if it were mine.
I have a language degree and am also a tutor, because I love children and their creativity, and an interpreter and translator on the National Register of Public Service Interpreters (NRPSI), as I have a genuine desire to help; a thirst for knowledge and truth; and am passionate about foreign languages and cultures and, of course, dance.
I'm rather small, but not chubby, green-eyed and some say I'm even cute and sexy. I'm 38 now, but I'd like to think of myself as stylish and modern (in some ways).
I guess what I'm saying is that I am pretty feminine, I feel good in my own skin and I'm confident that once you get to know me better and we fall in love you will appreciate this the way I do.
I'm a friendly, sociable, active, bubbly lady, but responsible when necessary, looking for friends and...true love.
I'm confident and assertive, but not in an intimidating way, and I look for the same in a partner. I'm passionate about love, while in-control when it comes to managing my life. I am also comfortable relinquishing control to those that have earned my trust. I love to have fun in many different ways, from cooking/sharing a nice dinner, to salsa dancing, or travelling to exotic places. I want to continuously grow as a person with a strong man by my side to grow with me. I would be happiest with an intelligent, sexy, educated, romantic, attractive man whom I can respect, admire and adore. During the day, I expect you to go out and conquer and you will have my wind at your back. If you need to work late, I promise, I won't shrivel up and cry. Do your thing and do it well! Then, when you've taken care of business, come take me dancing, make me laugh, tell me your truth without fear and I will make you feel like a king every day of your life.
So, as I said, I'm on the lookout for an educated and intelligent man, a bit good-looking, romantic, sociable and responsible when necessary, non-smoker and with European values and traditions, preferred- respect, trust and family orientation are among those I value the most. Nothing turns me on more than a man who knows how to be a loving, thoughtful, creative, playful father! I'm an extremely open and honest communicator - so be ready for that! A secure, sensual man who is an open and skilled communicator... the ability to express oneself well means everything to me. An ultimate gentleman in public and a passionate lover in private. An educated man who has many diverse interests, has control of his life and achieves his goals. Someone who can take pride in his lady and above everything else is HONEST.
Please do not feel offended, but it is important to me to find a guy who is strong enough to <<make decisions by himself>>, and doesn't feel so insecure that he has to check everything he does with his peer group to see if they approve. Furthermore, it is important that he <<lives on his own>>, either renting or owning the place, but definitely by the age of 30+ he would have flewn away from the parental nest.
Due to the fact that I'm 'wild at heart', but mature when it comes to real life situations and profession, I'd rather my sweetheart was close to my age, please see my age boundaries- and that, I'm afraid, includes being involved in a distance relationship.
I'm not here to marry into a fortune...I believe in sincere love, but BOTH parties must "click", both physically and personality-wise.
I am happiest when I am dancing, and can feel the pulse of music travelling up and down my body, setting me free. Come dance with me and we will make the dance floor disappear as we flow right into each other…
I love all kinds of music, but when I hear Salsa, nothing in the world can stop my hips from swaying, my heart from singing, and my hands from reaching out for a man who can feel the music too.
If you haven’t yet tried Salsa, don’t worry. Come join me –we’ll get into the groove together!
"La vida es un carnaval" y una fiesta, and should we decide to waste it, it may take a loooooooooooooong time, if ever, to get a fresh one.
And...because we both love the snow, you and I will hop on a plane some weekends and head to where the powder is. We don't have to splurge on an expensive hotel. Just being together, weaving paths in the snow by day and cuddling up at night is what really matters. And because we celebrate each other rather than pick on each other (why do so many couples do that!?) every meal will feel like an 8 course gourmet treat, even at some diner, because it will be spiced and flavoured with listening, laughter, kindness and kisses.
I like sharing good humour, too. We're only human...so let's give this a funnier side.
You've been patient enough to read this, so here's your prize: some "true" jokes- I may update later:
LOVE, AFFAIRS AND REVENGE
A woman comes home and says to her husband, "Remember all the headaches I've had in recent years? Well, I no longer have them. "
'No more headaches?' husband asks, 'What's happened?'
His wife responds: 'One of my friends recommended me a hypnotist ... He told me to stand in front of a mirror, stare at myself and repeat 'I have no
headache, I have no headache, I have no headache. ' And it worked! Headaches are gone .. '
The husband replied, 'Well, this is amazing.'
Then his wife said to him, 'You know, you have not really been a' macho 'in bed in recent years. 'Why don't you go to the hypnotist and see if he can help you in this matter? '
Husband agreed to try.
After the appointment, the husband comes home, tears off his clothes, picks up his wife and takes her to the bedroom. He puts her on the bed and says to her: 'Do not move, I'll be right back.' He goes into the bathroom, comes back after a few minutes, jumps on the bed and makes passionate love to his wife as he had not done before.
His wife is amazed, 'Honey, that was wonderful!' The man says 'Do not move, I'll be right back.' He returns to the bathroom, stays there for a few minutes, returns to the bedroom and round two was even better than the first time. His wife remains dizzy and ecstatic.
The man tells her again, 'Do not move, I'll be right back.' And returns to the bathroom. This time, his wife quietly follows him and there, in the bathroom, she sees him standing in front of the mirror and repeating: 'She's not my wife. She is not my wife. She is not my wife ...! '
The man's burial and funeral will take place tomorrow.
A married man was having an affair with his secretary. One day they went to her place and made love all afternoon. Exhausted, they fell asleep and woke up at 8 PM.
The man hurriedly dressed and told his lover to take his shoes outside and rub them in the grass and dirt. He put on his shoes and drove home.
'Where have you been?' his wife demanded.
'I can't lie to you,' he replied, 'I'm having an affair with my secretary. We had sex all afternoon.'
She looked down at his shoes and said: 'You lying bastard! You've been playing golf!'
A middle-aged couple had two beautiful daughters but always talked about having a son.
They decided to try one last time for the son they always wanted. The wife got pregnant and delivered a healthy baby boy. The joyful father rushed to the nursery to see his new son. He was horrified at the ugliest child he had ever seen.
He told his wife: 'There's no way I can be the father of this baby. Look at the two beautiful daughters I fathered! Have you been fooling around behind my back?'
The wife smiled sweetly and replied: 'Not this time!'
A man walked into a cafe, went to the bar and ordered a beer.
'Certainly, Sir, that'll be one cent.'
'One Cent?' the man exclaimed.
He glanced at the menu and asked: 'How much for a nice juicy steak and a bottle of wine?'
'A nickel,' the barman replied.
'A nickel?' exclaimed the man.. 'Where's the guy who owns this place?'
The bartender replied: 'Upstairs, with my wife.'
The man asked: 'What's he doing upstairs with your wife?'
The bartender replied: 'The same thing I'm doing to his business down here'
Right- Enough talk about me and my dreams, I'm interested to know more about you: what you like doing, how you spend your time...your dreams...
Care to share? :)
Still want to contact me? :P
The SUN SHINES from now on...:)
Thank you. Bonne chance a tous!
PS I'd like to (re)take upballroom dance classes. Anyone into that? As you know, I already do salsa and bachata and love it to bits.
-helping and teaching others (my private students are regretting me already and want me to find "equal replacement"), moved on to adults and improving their lives professionally - according to feedback from clients and my seniors I offer a 'perfect service'
I wish there were less paperwork, and yup, that I don't like, as just 'ticking boxes' is not my thing...
On a personal level, being a friend without interfering with anyone's personal issues, just being supportive- I believe we should be entitled to make our own decisions without outside influence.
-I'll let you discover the rest :)
I'm the 'petite mignonne' type, frail and delicate, but once you get to know me, you'll learn that I'm a strong fighter.
'a willow in the wind' :)
"Les Miserables" - V. Hugo
"What men secretly want":) -relationship guide
Films: ''Operator'', "Before Sunset", new liking, though oldie "Breakfast at Tiffany's", "Pay It Forward", "21", "The Social Network", "The Accidental Tourist"..."Now You See Me"
Healthy food of all cultures
Ballet: I've seen 'The Swan Lake', 'The Nutcracker' and 'Romeo and Juliet'
Plays: used to be a member of 'Up in the cheap Seats', so watched a few: 'Great Expectations', 'The Canterbury Tales', 'The 39 Steps'...
Musicals: I've seen 'Les Miserables', 'The Lion King', but have yet to watch 'The Phantom of the Opera'.
Music: Latino, reggae, reggaeton, classical, rock, pop, hip-hop...a selection of all sorts except for "no message and logic" ones
Favourite singers and bands: Frank Sinatra, Cesaria Evora, Celia Cruz, Aerosmith, Bon Jovi, Natasha Bedingfield, The Corrs. The Cranberries, Dido, Eminem, Shakira, Keo, Mandinga, Guess Who, Robbie Williams ,Snow Patrol, Don Omar and many others.
I lovebachata and Latino dance and music in general.
I've been doing it for more than 3 years now, though not as intensively, and it still feels great.
The more the merrier...from dancing (latin, R' n'B, etc, sorry,not into house and loud rock- ballads are the exception) to classical concerts and ballet, musicals, theatre, festivals...anything and not necessarily expensive activities, just fun...
I suppose, if in good company, I could try anything once, twice, but no more than 3 times in a row...otherwise it's called routine, isn't it?
I prefer walks in the park, eating a sandwich or salad take-away when hungry, rather than fancy restaurants and loud, vulgar pubs.
I like group activities: bowling, pool or skating, not because I'm good at it, but because I enjoy them and enjoy the company.
I also spend time:
-staying in- internet socialising or watching a movie, some TV broadcast (on the internet)
-taking care of/ pampering myself
I reserve time to go out on Saturday and Sunday, mostly, but you can also find me taking Salsa, Kizomba and Bachata classes and practising dance moves in London's various dance venues.
I love cooking...but only with you, under your direct 'supervision'. (Remember "Nine weeks and a half "? If not, watch it! You'll presently see what I mean. :P)