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My self-summary
Reader. Late bloomer. Deep-ender. Fresh-air-finder. Aesthete. Philomath. Introvert. Bluestocking. Reflective, sensitive, perpetually curious one. Good heart cultivator. Swooning nerd. Rara avis. Adoring Auntie. Blessed daughter, sister and friend. More both/and than either/or. Comfortable in grey areas. At my best in water. On a quest for balance. Work-in-progress seeking same.
What I’m doing with my life
Working & playing & connecting & creating. I spend my days striving to learn, grow and contribute to meaningful acceptance & growth. I'm interested in meeting a new fellow with whom to share active adventures, hedonistic pursuits, deep thoughts (!) and romantic companionship. I enjoy film-watching, reading, swimming, daydreaming, cooking, music-listening, tai chi chuan, yoga, bike-riding, hiking, and being outdoors. I practice meditation. I appreciate stories and value book and street smarts, both. Trying to work more with my hands, in dirt especially. Open and curious by design, I am interested in new amusements. Meeting a potential cooking partner is appealing. Vegetarian tendencies a plus, though not necessary.
I’m really good at
Connecting the dots. Feathering nests. Repurposing. Wondering. Wandering. Feeling. Appreciating. Map reading. Being present. Thinking things over. Asking questions. Sweating the details. Ideas!
The first things people usually notice about me
That I'm paying attention.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Currently reading: LaRose (Louise Erdrich), Just Mercy (Bryan Stevenson), Letters of Note (ed. Shaun Usher) & Far and Away (Andrew Solomon). Last read: When Breath Becomes Air (Paul Kalanithi), On the Move: A Life (Oliver Sacks), GRANTA: The Map is not the Territory, Colorless Tsukuru Tazaki and His Years of Pilgrimage (Murakami) & To Rise Again at a Decent Hour (Ferris).

Reading Highlights: The Dictionary; The Sun; Saveur; Harper's; Granta; Cook’s Illustrated; New Yorker; The Atlantic; Cloister Walk; Open City, Boulevard, Tin House, Pleiades and Others Bearing Resemblance; On Love & All de Botton; Bel Canto; Bone People; Blindness; The Giant's House & All E. McCracken; The House Of Sleep; Geek Love; Diary Of Anais Nin; Mark Bittman’s Cooking Collection; By The River Piedra I Sat Down And Wept; Bridge To Terabithia; If On A Winter's Night A Traveler & All Calvino; Written On The Body & All J. Winterson; Prodigal Summer & All Kingsolver; Chorus Of Stones & All S. Griffin; Birds Of America & All L. Moore; Interpreter Of Maladies & All J. Lahiri; Immortality & All Kundera; Ann Patchett collection; Choose Your Own Adventure.

Films: Rust & Bone, World of Tomorrow (short), Oslo 31 August, The Up Series (7 Up, etc.), Higher Ground, Another Earth, Jack Goes Boating, Waste Land, Weekend, Away From Her, Still Life, Eagle vs Shark, Animal Kingdom, Coming Home, The East, Mother and Child, Cairo Time, Winter’s Bone, All The Real Girls, House Of Sand And Fog , Miranda July’s Creations, George Washington, Quick Change, To Be And To Have, Walking And Talking, Charlotte Sometimes, Betty Blue, Hal Hartley Collection, Moon, The Parking Lot Movie, Limbo, Sleep With Me, The Gleaners And I, Butterfly Kiss, Genghis Blues, Mean Creek, In The Mood For Love, Crash, What About Bob?, The Dhamma Brothers, What’s Eating Gilbert Grape?, Kicking And Screaming, Slam, Yi Yi, Waiting For Guffman.

TV: Lady Dynamite, The Americans, Mr. Robot, Luther, Bob's Burgers, Bojack Horseman, Catastrophe, Getting On (UK/US), Burning Love, Key & Peele, unReal, PBS, MythBusters, Chopped, Party Down, Enlightened, Nurse Jackie, The Wire, Last Week Tonite w/ John Oliver, Arrested Development.

Music: Sharon Van Etten, Anonhi / Antony & The Johnsons, The National, Bonnie 'Prince' Billy, Esperanza Spalding, Sigur Ros, Gillian Welch, Bon Iver, The Low Anthem, Arcade Fire, Electrelane, MIA, Fleet Foxes, Mariza, Devendra Banhart, Blackstar, Ida, Low, The Gilbertos, M. Ward, Cure, Magnetic Fields, Jolie Holland, Be Good Tanyas, Yeasayer, Sufjan Stevens, The Watson Twins, Jeff Buckley, Regina Spektor, Cat Power, DeVotchKa, Nina Simone, Edith Piaf, Nick Drake, Neko Case, Velvet Underground, Rilo Kiley, Azure Ray, Lamb, Mariam & Amadou, Rodrigo & Gabriela, Great Lake Swimmers, Yo La Tengo, Karen Dalton, Okkervil River, Oliver Mtukudzi, Patty Griffin, The Smiths, PJ Harvey.

Radio/Podcasts: StoryCorps, The Moth, Radiolab, The Story Collider, The Bugle, Smiley & West, Smart Girls at the Party, PRI, BBC.

Food: Pescatarian-friendly, Fresh, Local, Simple, Spicy, Sweet, Umami, Fruit & Veg.
The six things I could never do without
1. Family
2. Fresh Air
3. Movement
4. Meaning
5. Love
6. Thinking Cap
My library card is also indispensable, though it wouldn't replace any above. Hmmm... I'll sub-classify it under #s 4 - 6. Yes, that works.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Everything! * Why? Or, motivation. Like, people: why they think and feel and do what they think and feel and do. * How things work. * What goes on inside? * Where does stuff come from? * What do people do all day? (With credit due Richard Scarry and friends). * Mistakes. * Redemption. *Healing. * Scars.* Expression. * Intimacy.* Human development. * Rituals & Traditions. * Meaning-making. * Design. * Systems. * Substance. *
On a typical Friday night I am
Cooking and sharing dinner and drink with friends. Or film-watching, talking, reading, writing, or sleeping. Sometimes decompressing from the week.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Hmmm, an interesting query for one who thinks privacy is generally underrated. I'm far from a closed book, but have grown to value stepping slowly, with intention and toward a chosen other. In time...

Wait, here's something to spark curiosity: I was once contacted by a bounty hunter on this site. Make of that what you will :)
You should message me if
You are as interested in categories such as "I'm really bad at...", "I want to learn how to..." and "On a typical Tuesday afternoon I am...", as those above. You are inspired to do so. You're not a "player" (dated term, I know), but you like to play. You feel the feelings. You suspect we are simpatico.