A lot of women may read this - but I am talking to you, and only you now.
First of all, we are going to have to come up with a better story of how we met.
Like... you and I were parachuting and we accidentally collided in mid-air. Or You got kicked out of the Tardis onto my front lawn. Or you nursed me back to health after I rescued a cat from a burning building... you know something like that. "We met online" is a little lame.
And I sure am glad to meet you. I've been through a lot of learning experiences and I am really ready to have found the one who I can grow a lasting relationship and family with. I'm glad that you, like me, are at a place in your life where we don't need more kids but can love deeply and raise those we have. I'm glad you, like me, take care of yourself - exercising and eating right to keep your body healthy so we can enjoy all the wonderful adventures and possibilities life has to offer us. I can't wait to explore Europe with you one day. Spend time splashing in crystal blue waters. Hiking through the trails and by the river here in Virginia. Out dancing now and then. Living a physical lifestyle.
I'm glad you, like me, enjoy the closeness of dear friends we can laugh with. And that we both might be the kind who recharge cuddled up in each other's arms at night - but also like to get out and be social.
It's great that we both have our own varied interests - but also appreciate each other's. So we always have something to bring to the relationship. Things to talk about. Do. Explore.
We are both so lucky to have found another kindred soul that has nothing to prove. We both know that we are enough. We can excel for the pleasure of it and because it grows our wealth of possibilities in life - but not because we have to prove our own competence. We can celebrate in gratitude the love of our families and friends but don't worry about fitting in or being left out. We appreciate our freedom but don't have to run from anything. We keep each other safe - but don't let comfort keep us from adventure.
We are both mature enough that we can trust each other to always be acting for our mutual best interests. So we can discuss anything deeply without offense or the need to be "right." To come to understandings rather than wallow in the pig stye of self-righteousness. We both can balance compassion and responsibility; seriousness and humor; acceptance and manifesting.
I am so glad that we both hold optimism and passion for living as core values and work hard to live those values every day.
We both enjoy the feeling of creating - whether it's a joke, a date, playing a game or enjoying a music or crafty kind of project. Being participants in life.
We trust each other deeply. You have the emotional power in the relationship and I would do and will do anything to make you happy. But you have so much trust and faith in me that you have gifted me with leadership of our family. I won't let you down.
Neither of us is perfect. But we can both forgive. We can both grow - and we do - because both of us hold personal growth and relationship growth as a value.
Oh, and the sex is un-fucking-believable.
I have missed you without even knowing you. I love you.
I own a burgeoning brand new escape room. It's an attraction where people have to find clues, solve puzzles and escape in 60 minutes. Rooms are themed like you may have to diffuse a bomb, avert the apocalypse or dodge a laser obstacle course to steal a priceless work of art. Most of my time lately is put into growing that and designing more fun for people
I am also a clinical hypnotist and spend some hours every week helping people quit smoking, lose weight and achieve other goals.
I am also a part-time traveling entertainer at colleges and theaters. I work to help people
manifest a better life in one and laugh in the other. I'm veryblessed.
Personally: I spend time with my two boys whenever I can (two days a week plus every other weekend) playing, taking them to the river, to movies, museums, etc.
The rest of the time I spend time playing games with friends, read, play
guitar, laugh, play in a drum circle rarely, perform
comedy with hypnosis, magic or (rarely) sketch comedy
or performance art. I go to theater productions and to enjoy
live music to see my artistic and creative friends. I
enjoy getting together and talking spirituality, philosophy or psychology.
I more spiritual than religious - but very much so.
I like laughing about life, wandering down Cary street, or the river, riding
bikes, enjoying nature and seeing movies.
Or that I like to wear a tea towel as a cape and large yellow booties as I run around in the house in my underwear pretending to be a superhero.
And sometimes my eyes.
Books: Harry Potter, A Course in Miracles, the Power of NOW, Tony Robbins stuff, Hitchikers guide to the galaxy, Tao te ching, Dean Koontz
Movies: life is beautiful, raiders of the lost ark and star wars (the originals), something about Mary, blues brothers, hangover, oh lots of stuff...
Music: again, lots of stuff... Jack Johnson, Smash Mouth, Sting, Beatles, Al DiMeola, Coldplay, Grateful Dead, Amy Winehouse, Etta James, Clapton, John Mayer, Five times August, Kings of Convenience, Regina Spektor and generally brilliant and creative artists of all kinds...
the rest of my family
the ability to ignore instructions and put down seven or eight if I damn well feel like it