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My self-summary
I am optimistic about the future, though terrified about steps in the interim. I make progress by first projecting the places where problems are likely to crop up, and then work through the problems. Sometimes this approach is misunderstood as negative. Just how my brain is wired to think. I enjoy puzzling through the problems--at least when in a supportive environment.

If we were to meet, conversation will turn its focus to food.

I am a bad gay.

Camp is not my native language, neither dismissive irony. My humor is like a perfect bit of chocolate: dark, layered, nuanced, particular, and just a hint of bitterness to cleanse the palate.

Very social in spurts, but need substantial alone time. I talk to myself about whatever I talk about with others. My life feel like a series of really good conversations. Leaves me intrigued by theories that treat language as a collection of objects. Prefer a good novel to a hard core concept. Theories usually lack humor.
What I’m doing with my life
There are moments after which everything is different. Perhaps we recognize them, but I would like to anticipate them. There is something about that transformation--whether a moment of enlightenment or more likely a slow pathway that serves to change the vantage point--that moves me. I changed the way I see mostly through art. My visual vocabulary is quite distinct from many, and the distance between the esoteric and the everyday has got me thinking it isn't the art, but the shifts that came along with learning it that I value.
I’m really good at
bringing a side dish that works with your main course.
The first things people usually notice about me
I will guess my glasses or the beard
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Cockpit, the Man who Fell in Love with the Moon, Stupidity, the Corrections, Slow Man, How We Decide

Movies: In the Mood for Love, Mysterious Skin, Dogtooth, Match Factory Girl

TV: the Wire, America's Next Top Model, True Blood, Breaking Bad, Friday Night Lights, Nurse Jackie

Music: Beck, Queen, Boomtown Rats, Coco Rosie, Modest Mouse, John Frusciante, Anthony and the Johnsons

Foods: so hard to say. I love food, many many kinds of food. Love cooking, enjoy going to a good market, love going to restaurants. I love Korean-especially the pan-shan. Who doesn't love a good yemisir wat? I have a tendency toward pork tenderloin because chef's know conservative eaters tend to choose the beef. Love a good walleye pike, oyster spiked with kumquat and shallots, lamb masala, and hell, what kind of food don't I like? I am more dedicated to savory food than deserts, am shy about offal and blood though I have tried all of it. Love me an exotic pickle, a spice I never tasted before, and have been known to squeal with delight over a flavor-infused air pillow. I love robust complicated flavor, saucy and spicy, and comfort with flair. I seem to be almost religiously drawn to peasant foods from all over the place. Love the stories that come with the dish.
The six things I could never do without
coffee, good shoes, leafy green veggies, a good argument, a time and place to talk things out with myself, a chance for a do-over
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I wonder why people get all caught up in pursuing the purpose of life. I recently had a flash of insight that I could compare my life to a birthday present. Some gifts do have a purpose, but the ones we treasure most are rarely utilitarian. What if the best version of my life doesn't serve a function either. Aren't the best lives a tad messy?

I have a celebrity crush: Jonah Lehrer. I wonder how watching a video of him feels like flirting. I know his recent fall from grace should change this. Honestly--makes me love him more. He has a set of flaws I can deal with. Makes me feel needed.

I wonder a lot about how to make my familiar ingredients exciting and new, and how to get the perfect crumb in a good loaf of sourdough bread. I wonder where the next flavor revelation is going to come from. I wonder why cuisine has so much more success encouraging health than nutritional science.

I think a lot about teaching. One approach provides access to correct answers and services development toward degrees. Another facilitates encounter with new structures in thinking that change direction and change lives. I wonder why we get so bad at learning at a certain point in our lives (we fool ourselves into thinking we have learned how the world works). I wonder why we keep repeating things that we know have consistently failed before.
On a typical Friday night I am
I haunt my share of gallery openings. I am often out for a casual drink.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am caught between two fears: making myself vulnerable and not making myself vulnerable.
You should message me if
if you value a good conversation. If you enjoy social cooking. If you want to check out some great art. If you want to teach me how to garden. If you need quality time with a beautiful rambunctious dog.