We are likely here for the same reason---a man seeks a woman, a woman seeks a man.
Label Warning: i am not here for a hook-up.
Desire, sex.... marvelous! But a gentleman makes eye contact, does not hesitate to offer his name, invites me for good strong coffee, perhaps a meal, you know, nice things, the way two people might begin to talk, get a vibe.
And if we find each other inspiring, then, maybe, we will see each other again. And, THEN, when the time feels right, we can reach (as Anais Nin said) for "le merveilleux!
***I am in Montreal for Oct 2016, after which i will be based in NYC. I am open to meeting someone while 'north of the border' as I am winding down from work as I have known it and a relationship of meaning could occur and be nurtured, even at this distance from home.***
I am an athletic, accomplished, thoughtful, deeply-caring, happy and poetic woman-of-a-certain-age. What is important to me is friendship, family, travel (in the inner, deeply intimate and erotic world, as well as outer) where tourists don't go, diversity and culture, human connection. At this 'no BS time of life' I dare myself to be transparent. I seek the same in others.
I have made a heartfelt effort to try 'ethical polyamory'. It didn't work for me. I am wired to be monogamous, of course not at the onset of dating, but at a point where mutual intent is expressed to go deeply. I appreciate the level of deep communication that polyamorous people recognize is needed in relationship. I have yet to fully understand 'compersion' on a feeling level. My monogamy is not 'assumed,' but a place born of 'intention.'
I am not in search of an affair. I do seek a man, who is happy in his chosen work; perceptive, clear, open-hearted rather than jaded; adventurous (and maybe--sshhh!--a little 'dangerous') in the ways of love, as well as how he likes to travel the world. One who welcomes, and invites transparency and communication; who might move to relationship; an alive and evolved man. This is who will make me look twice.
*A literary way with a sentence is seductive to me.
*please read Addendum.
enjoying the beauty of my 60s.
cooking whole foods.
submitting (complicated by a rebel nature)
making things beautiful.
navigating the healthcare system.
my breasts and my "guns"
my height, changing hair, my Style
3-my tribe of close friends
6-creative expression through writing
-love in its myriad forms
-this next stage of life
-how to communicate effectively using active listening, perhaps nonviolent communication.
-why do so many men announce, as if it is a commonly-held good quality, that they like "all music except Rap"?
-why are grammatically-challenged, "God-fearing," military, very young and far-away men attracted to me?
ADDENDUM---IF INTERESTED, PLEASE READ:
1--Please write a thoughtful paragraph of introduction like a real gentleman. No "hi pretty"--- i will erase this immediately.
2--Please note that "God-fearing," or "Republican/Conservative" or "Active Military man" and even Long Distance, will NOT be a match.
3--I ask that you answer at least some of the OK Cupid questionnaire. It offers something about who you are, perhaps sparking my curiosity. I call it "reciprocity…."