64 Montreal, Canada
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My self-summary
It seems i must preface my profile with this:

We are likely here for the same reason---a man seeks a woman, a woman seeks a man.

Label Warning: i am not here for a hook-up.

Desire, sex.... marvelous! But a gentleman makes eye contact, does not hesitate to offer his name, invites me for good strong coffee, perhaps a meal, you know, nice things, the way two people might begin to talk, get a vibe.

And if we find each other inspiring, then, maybe, we will see each other again. And, THEN, when the time feels right, we can reach (as Anais Nin said) for "le merveilleux!

***I am in Montreal for Oct 2016, after which i will be based in NYC. I am open to meeting someone while 'north of the border' as I am winding down from work as I have known it and a relationship of meaning could occur and be nurtured, even at this distance from home.***

Until then....

I am an athletic, accomplished, thoughtful, deeply-caring, happy and poetic woman-of-a-certain-age. What is important to me is friendship, family, travel (in the inner, deeply intimate and erotic world, as well as outer) where tourists don't go, diversity and culture, human connection. At this 'no BS time of life' I dare myself to be transparent. I seek the same in others.

I have made a heartfelt effort to try 'ethical polyamory'. It didn't work for me. I am wired to be monogamous, of course not at the onset of dating, but at a point where mutual intent is expressed to go deeply. I appreciate the level of deep communication that polyamorous people recognize is needed in relationship. I have yet to fully understand 'compersion' on a feeling level. My monogamy is not 'assumed,' but a place born of 'intention.'

I am not in search of an affair. I do seek a man, who is happy in his chosen work; perceptive, clear, open-hearted rather than jaded; adventurous (and maybe--sshhh!--a little 'dangerous') in the ways of love, as well as how he likes to travel the world. One who welcomes, and invites transparency and communication; who might move to relationship; an alive and evolved man. This is who will make me look twice.

*A literary way with a sentence is seductive to me.
*please read Addendum.
Thank you.
What I’m doing with my life
waking up.
enjoying the beauty of my 60s.
I’m really good at
thinking outside the box.
reading people.
cooking whole foods.
dancing salsa.
submitting (complicated by a rebel nature)
making things beautiful.
seeing beauty.
being real.
navigating the healthcare system.
catching babies.
looking intriguing.
The first things people usually notice about me
i don't look like anything they can pinpoint as in "what are you?"
my warmth
my breasts and my "guns"
my height, changing hair, my Style
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
garlic greens, good olive oil, Marlowe and Daughters, Park Slope Food Coop, Isabel Allende, My Name is Asher Lev, The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao by Junot Diaz, Les Parapluies de Cherbourg, Neruda, John Cassavetes, salsa, brazilian, Abby Lincoln, Bobby McFerrin, Jon Hendricks, Ana Carolina, Piaf, Gregory Porter, Billie, Thelonius, Joni, Seu Jorge, Cecile Mclorin Salvant, Jose James, the 60s, When Breath Becomes Air by Paul Kalanithi, A Man and A Woman
The six things I could never do without
1-my kids and mom
3-my tribe of close friends
4-good food
5-authenticity, honesty
6-creative expression through writing
I spend a lot of time thinking about
-my body: its health, its strength, its pleasure, its fragility
-love in its myriad forms
-this next stage of life
-how to communicate effectively using active listening, perhaps nonviolent communication.
-why do so many men announce, as if it is a commonly-held good quality, that they like "all music except Rap"?
-why are grammatically-challenged, "God-fearing," military, very young and far-away men attracted to me?

On a typical Friday night I am
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
You must be evolved, brave, honest, strong, confident to enjoy the contradictions and beauty in me.
You should message me if
You are ready for an unusual relationship, based in deep honesty, your heart is open, you know how to love and, moreso, how to be a friend, your life and experiences have taught you much yet not left you too broken, or broke, you believe in something, have a passion in life, have some financial stability, you delight in the dance of 'growing up,' you still have a rich sense of adventure, you are willing to be honest, and you live nearby, close enough so we can realistically get to know each other realtime....AND... You are prepared to actually talk, meet, not stay behind a computer screen via email and text too long. i am 'old-school' that way.


1--Please write a thoughtful paragraph of introduction like a real gentleman. No "hi pretty"--- i will erase this immediately.

2--Please note that "God-fearing," or "Republican/Conservative" or "Active Military man" and even Long Distance, will NOT be a match.

3--I ask that you answer at least some of the OK Cupid questionnaire. It offers something about who you are, perhaps sparking my curiosity. I call it "reciprocity…."