53San Miguel de Allende, Mexico
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My self-summary
Do you know the theme song from Snuff Box?

I can't fall in love if it's plastic
To live by myself would be tragic

That right there covers a lot of ground.

Some important things you should know:

• I'm terrible at long term romantic relationships. Almost always ends in tears and retraining orders.
• Just kidding about the restraining orders.
• I'm told that I'm good at friendships.
• I'm good at other things. ;-)
• Really, I'm mostly looking for friendship, particularly with someone who shares my interests.
• You must love dogs in particular and animals in general.
What I’m doing with my life
I've got something big in the works, but I'm keeping it under wraps. (Don't take this as sexual innuendo. Although it's true that I have something big I'm keeping in my pants.)
I’m really good at
Lighting for film, video, still photography.
Carpentry and fixing things.
Learning new skills and experimenting with new interests.
The first things people usually notice about me
You'd have to ask people that notice me. I'm not good at these kind of questions.

Maybe it's that I look a lot younger than my age, but I don't know if that qualifies as a "first thing" that people notice.

Perhaps it's that I am friendly and talk to strangers.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books movies shows music food

Books: I'll just throw out some names, some of which I have been reading lately and some of which are all time favorite authors.

Phillip K Dick, Doris Lessing, Margaret Atwood, Nick Harkaway, David Foster Wallace, Pablo Neruda, Octavio Paz, Jim Thompson, James Elroy, John Scalzi, Elmore Leonard, Pynchon, Iain Banks, Chuck Palahniuk, William Gibson, Bruce Sterling, Neal Stephenson.

Really, there are too many to list, so consider that a sampler.

In comix, I like indie stuff, but I am a HUGE fan of Los Bros. Hernandez. Also, Graham Chaffee (former roommate).

Movies: I love smart movies, but I don't actually watch a lot. I tend to like low budget and indie films. I'll mention some DVDs that I own to give you an idea: Being John Malkovich, Buffalo 66, American Astronaut, Scanner Darkly, Mulholland Dr. I like classic black and white movies (Casablanca and Treasure of the Sierra Madre are long time favorited) and I also like European Directors: Antonioni, Truffaut, Herzog, Fellini, Goddard, Wenders, Bertolucci, for example. I adore Tarantino, it should go without saying.

Interesting tidbit: I worked for Iñaritu on a tourism commercial shot in Guanajuato in 2004. It's a funny story.

Shows: Nothing current as I don't have a TV. There are some really great shows, but the thing is, when I have a TV and cable, I start spending way too much time on the couch watching the History Channel. Ever notice how they use the same footage over and over for the World War 2 documentaries? They always use that one clip of the tank rolling over a tree for example. Oh, Arrested Development! Man, I need to sign up for Netflix!

Music: Instead of saying I like all music, let's just say I like all GOOD music. I like a wide variety of music and musicians. I am pretty knowledgeable, but at the same time I have a lot of gaps. This means that I'd be happy to both learn from your musical tastes and teach you about mine. I think this is called sharing. My biggest passion is PUNK ROCK, and my favorite punk band is X, closely followed by The Clash. I like a lot of post punk. Beyond Punk, my tastes are wide ranging, and I find that there is usually a few artists in any genre that I like, i.e., in Country Western I love Johnny Cash and Willie Nelson.

Some artists/bands on my recent playlists: David Bowie (pre Let's Dance), Tom Waits (especially his new album), The Breeders, Joni Mitchell, Charlie Mingus, Duke Ellington, Jane's Addiction, Elvis Costello, Radiohead, Cat Power, Jose Alfredo Jimenez, The Clash, Hope Sandoval and the Warm Inventions, Iggy Pop, The Ramones, Joan Jett and the Blackhearts, Jonathan Richman and the Modern Lovers, Leather Hyman/Listing Ship, Leonard Cohen, Miles Davis, Monk, Mississippi John Hurt, Red Hot Chili Peppers, Roy Orbison, Steely Dan, Supergrass, Todd Rundgren, The White Stripes, and X.

Food: One of the things I miss about Los Angeles is the food. World cuisines are everywhere in L.A., and often the best food is found at little hole-in-the-wall restaurants located in strip malls. Japanese, Chinese, Vietnamese, Thai, Middle Eastern, Italian, French, Indian, (of course) Mexican. I am sure I am forgetting something. (I tend not to like menudo or buche, however, but I like sesos.)

I occasionally like to cook, but when I cook for myself, usually I am making something simple. I like to take packaged foods and customize them. I have a few set dishes that I am good at cooking, but I would like to expand my repertoire.
Six things I could never do without
There are a lot of things that might go on this list, but I have been learning (sometimes the hard way) that there are many things that we think necessary that really are not. Life may strip away so-called necessities and we will survive and perhaps even be happier for it when we come to terms with the loss.

I am one of those tyranized by things. Objects, cosas, boxes and boxes filled with junk that seems difficult to let go of. In answer to this, my normal solution is to acquire even more stuff. Of course my essays from 30 years ago are *important*! Thus I need to buy a scanner to digitize them so I can get rid of the paper copies. But the originals are the originals, so I must keep them, too. (I didn't actually do this, but this is the way I think, and all to often, act.)

The narrative turn my life has taken over the past few years has involved the stripping away. I am trying to embrace this. I seek freedom from the possessions that ultimately seem to possess me, chaining me to the earth, weighing me down. I want to fly.

I still miss my motorcycle.

My dogs. Lots and lots of free time. Plenty of sunshine. Lamotrigine. Internet porn. Pen/paper or computer with which to write.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Writing. I spend more time thinking about writing than I do actually writing.

I think about all kinds of things. But I spend ALOT of time just thinking. A lot. Be very very careful asking me what I am thinking if you don't have a lot of time to spare.
On a typical Friday night I am
Eating a quesadilla. Down the street from me on Calle Cinco de Mayo, this lady sets up a stand on the sidewalk in front of her butcher shop. It's only on Friday and Saturday nights. She makes the tortillas right there, stuffs them, then fries them. She offers a variety of fillings. Price is 18 pesos, which is like $1.50 U.S. Just one quesadilla is sufficient for a meal.

Sometimes I go out to listen to music.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I suffer from clinical depression for months at a time. This is the main reason I am shit at long term relationships. When I'm depressed, I'm profoundly depressed. I disappear; you won't see me or if you do, I'm probably not really there.

However, friends do manage to coax me out for short periods. I am eternally great fun for this. It usually happens like this: Mitch or Lena or Vicki will just show up on my doorstep and say, "Go take a shower and we can get some coffee."
You should message me if
• Want to go walking/exploring in SMA, have dogs, want to hang and drink coffee and spend hours talking, listen to music and talk about the lyrics, grab a bite to eat, or do crafts with the neighborhood kids.

• Live in DF, Mexico and: are into punk rock and the DF punk/alt scene, will take me to gigs, and will let me crash on your couch.

• Same as the above, but anywhere in the state of Guanajuato or in Queretaro.

• Will be visiting San Miguel de Allende and want a friend/guide while you're here.
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