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My self-summary
Easy to be with, hard to define. I am quick-witted, creative, open and non-judgmental. I believe in conversations--talking and really listening. I have a live sense of humor and can be sensitive and emotionally connected. I try to live the moment--go deep but stay light.

Some of my friends have called me edgy but my teenage daughter just laughed out loud at that comment. Separated for many years, living in different states, and expect proceedings to end in not too distant future.

I know how to have fun and generate good humor. I believe in living each day with love, living life with courage, and being joyful now--this moment is all, so we might as well enjoy it. Enjoying it now down in Rosarito Beach...
What I’m doing with my life
Rounding it out--softening the edges, finishing old business, starting new ventures, meeting new people, looking for a sweet connection to join me on a long ride on this winding road.
I’m really good at
Connecting with people, generating fun. I'm starting to do what I really like creatively--invent board games, write, play golf...meeting you?
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm outgoing, fun, good to be with
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Way, way too many to list--some samples:
Books/Authors--Shantaram, The Shipping News, Resurrection Men, The Prophet, The Harry Potter series...The Fifth Woman, The Bat, The Leopard, and The Girl who Kicked the Hornet's Nest (and similar--love those Scandinavian mystery/crime procedural/thriller writers)...The Power of the Dog, Queen of the South,, Life of Pi...Numerous books by expatriate Indian writers--Salman Rushdie (Midnight's Children, The Satanic Verses, The Ground Beneath Her Feet, Shalimar the Clown), Rohinton Mistry (A Fine Balance, Family Matters), and Latin American and Portuguese authors, particularly those writing in the Magic-Realism, folk and "anti-regime" genres--Paolo Coelho (The Alchemist), Mario Vargas Llosa (Aunt Julia and the Scriptwriter), Jorge Amado (Gabriela, Clove and Cinnamon, Jubiaba) Junot Diaz (Oscar Wao), Isabel Allende (House of the Spirits), Gabriel Garcia Marquez (Love in the time of Cholera, One Hundred Years of Solitude), Laura Esquivel (Like Water for Chocolate), Eca de Quieroz (The Sin of Father Amaro), Julia Alvarez (In the Time of the Butterflies), Luis Alberto Urrea (The Hummingbird's Daughter), and the romantic spy genre, John Le Carre...eclectic

Movies--All the Usual Suspects, Amadeus, Ghandi, Groundhog Day, Dead Poet's Society, Four Weddings and a Funeral, Skyfall, The Blind Side, Manhattan, Gran Torino, Quentin Tarantino movies, Coen Brothers movies, Sophie's Choice, Invictus, Casablanca, Anatomy of a Murder, The Verdict, Nobody's Fool, Atonement, Blood Simple, No Country for Old Men, Chariots of the Gods, The World According to Garp, Forrest Gump, Sleepless in Seattle, All the Pretty Horses, The Gods Must Be Crazy...and way more...Wow, where did I get the time??

TV--Downton Abbey, Foyle's War, X-Factor (sometimes), Sunday Football, SNL (sometimes), other occasional late night shows, and random checks of various TV series

Shows--Phantom of the Opera, Rocky Horror Picture Show, Jesus Christ Superstar, Oliver (Really Oliver?--yes, surprisingly so), Tommy, Cats (bit not as much as I expected...), The Lion King (that was FUN!)...Ipi Ntombi, Jacques Brel...Les Miserables

Music--Mozart, The Scorpions, Led Zeppelin, The Doors, Rodrigo y Gabriella, Adele, The Who, Tiesto, Vivaldi, Jim Croce, Lady Gaga, Dylan, Enigma, Rolling Stones, Pink Martini, Spice Girls (they're just so upbeat...), Steppenwolf, Radiohead, part of the Jupiter movement in the Planets Symphony, Cris Isaak, Sheryl Crow, Marvin Gaye, Michelle Branch, KT Tunstall, Dido, Neil Diamond, Beethoven, The Beatles, Johnny Cash, Gershwin, Regina Spektor, Sade, Santana, U2...ahhh heck...

Food--Mario Batali recipes, pretty much anything good from French to Vietnamese, Basque to Indian, good Kona coffee, caviar to frijoles, Hole in the wall breakfasts, some take-out...English fish 'n chips (wrapped in newspaper) to sashimi and sushi and beyond...Food, the final frontier...
Six things I could never do without
Good friends
Good food
Sleep would probably be up there too
I spend a lot of time thinking about
attracting good people and enjoying life--it's what there is
On a typical Friday night I am
eating out or cooking in (depending on what you are up for), then movies or dancing, or playing a board game I invented.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm real and ready
You should message me if
you know how to have fun, have a decent self-image (believe you're smart, pretty and/or interesting--all three?) and want to meet a man with a good self-image too, are willing to be real and sometimes random
The two of us