Life-long fascination with linguistics—from 4th grade to college, and beyond. Violinist (also since 4th grade). Guitarist (vaguely), and erstwhile a cappellist. Polymathic dilettante. Tangentialist (!).
(Maybe I should add parethenticalist (?))
I love intimacy & connection; I'm reliable, accountable, and I do what I say I'm going to do—a trustworthy man.
After some years of fun in glorious Northern Arizona, returned to the Northeast seven years ago. A wealth of strong connections here—family, friends, Yale & Columbia alum.
Vegetarian for about 30 years—health, compassion, clean living strong motivators for me.
Differences and disagreements can be fun and enlightening, and they’re welcome!
I also appreciate being aligned on some stuff that's pretty central to me, mostly political and ethical stuff, in that I’m pretty left of left.
For me, it seems it’d be best if we could see eye-to-eye on all kinds of egalitarianism—including women's rights (big time!), minorities' rights (including LGBT folks), and the essential task of governments addressing poverty, hunger, education. Also: the barbarity of the death penalty, the broad reach of the first amendment (including flag-burning), and that Ayn Rand is useless.
Also, I'm unrestricted in terms of race and ethnicity when it comes to who I’d date/am attracted to; I strongly enjoy dating people who are like that too.
Gettin' in the bike saddle (as in road cycling—purely for pleasure).
Finding wonder & gratitude.
Noticing the periphery.
Staying strongly positive.
And, hey, how about what a good friend (she happens to be a couples therapist) noticed in the last decade or so:
"You are honest and loyal and smart and caring. Giving and funny and play guitar and are fit and handsome.
You're psychologically-minded, attuned to the world around you*, and open-minded.
You are empathic, and appreciative, and enjoy sex in a connected way. [note, that last bit is by my account 😬]
You are health conscious and have no addictions. You enjoy experiencing a broad range of culture"
*I particularly enjoy the opportunity to attune to a wonderful woman!
perennial touchstones: Didion & McPhee.
Marie Howe. Brautigan.
The Last Station, The Royal Tenenbaums, and Mumford.
Cookie's Fortune, Big Night, and You Can Count on Me.
And . . . Stranger than Fiction.
Van Morrison, Ravel, and Sam Cooke.
Etta James, Alison Krauss, and Bach.
And, some favorite poetry:
Plena mujer, manzana carnal, luna caliente,
espeso aroma de algas, lodo y luz machacados,
qué oscura claridad se abre entre tus columnas?
Qué antigua noche el hombre toca con sus sentidos?
I do strongly appreciate the following:
a musical instrument
the riches to be had from knowing people
who've known me for decades
or extremely willing to explore being that way!
You are warm, and kind—
and comfortably affectionate towards your partner. 😇
If maybe you like to wear shoes you could walk a mile or more in, and are comfortable with minimal makeup (turn on for me)—sounds great!
"It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye."