64El Cerrito, United States
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My self-summary
I'm looking for sweet deep connection with a good man, who is warm, affectionate, sexy and willing to be open and honest about his life and himself, who is also seeking a life long partner. I value and offer emotional courage to face our own demons together. By this I mean clear communication, good listening, complete compassion, no blame. I like to laugh, love closeness, communication, intensity, fun.

I am passionate about my work in education, social justice and research, and have an active social life with a lovely circle of friends. I like dancing, working out, bike-riding, movies and an eclectic range of music. I'm energetic, warm, direct. I love conversation, listening and sharing thinking, challenging frontiers in our minds. I've been widowed a few years.
What I’m doing with my life
I work part time as a university lecturer and full time in civil rights work. I have the privilege of being in charge of my own schedule.
I enjoy conversations with friends, and write in my journal, so I guess self-reflection gives shape to my life. I like to challenge myself at the edge of my comfort zone: public speaking, meeting people with different views and ways, learning from my students. I've written and published, made several films.
I am fortunate to do what I love: teaching, writing, social justice work with interesting people, about cutting edge issues. I have family in Europe, so, lucky me, I travel to see them occasionally.
I’m really good at
Connection, listening, talking, laughing at life and myself. I hold high hopes for direct and honest communication. I make patchwork quilts and fun knee patches on jeans. I'm a pretty good cook. (I've published a cookbook!) I cut my own hair and can offer to do yours too.
The first things people usually notice about me
approachable, warm, have a quick smile
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I enjoy an occasional piece of fiction, constantly reading on the web, non-fiction, pop science, culture, memoirs, biographies. An example I love: "The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks," by Rebecca Skloot. I greatly recommend everyone read "This Changes Everything," by Naomi Klein, about climate change and capitalism. I eat healthy, love the ethnic restaurants around here; enjoy museums, quirky movies. (I teach a film course.) I love jazz, classical, some pop and oldies.
Six things I could never do without
Six? I could probably do without a lot of stuff I have. Would miss my cats a lot though. Okay, dark chocolate, my hot tub, swinging in playgrounds, checking email too often, my sewing machine, Netflix. Oh, that's seven, but I'm admitting there's more.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
People I love, how to make things go well, justice, my to-do list (how important is this?) what I can't wait to tell my best friend. I enjoy pictures of galaxies and star nurseries; I like history, imagining the future, getting the big picture.
On a typical Friday night I am
usually with friends, seeing movies, sharing dinners, hopefully laughing, sometimes talking seriously or ironically about important and pretentious issues. Have you heard about Laughter Yoga?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
That I won't answer this silly question.
You should message me if
You are affectionate, enjoy intimate sharing, are honest, direct, passionate about your work or volunteer work, can listen well, have progressive politics, and hope for people and the planet.
The two of us