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My self-summary
I lead a very simple peaceful life - I'm very happy most of the time
but I do get lonely sometimes and I do like to hibernate at times.
I am very grateful for all I have and express it regularly.
I LOVE NYC - lived here my entire life - can't get enough of it
I LOVE walking/biking around town and deep philosophical talk.
I LOVE central park and museums. My favorites are the Metropolitan and the natural history.
When i am talking to you my cellphone is off, I will give you my full attention, look you in the eye and I will hear every word you say to me - life is more fun when you are paying attention. Am I the only one who feels that way ?
My relationship to our mass culture is very Love/Hate High/Low
I meditate, I am a great cook and I know the best hole in the wall ethnic restaurants ( but always willing to learn of a new one ) and the most beautiful peaceful little hidden gems in this incredible city
What I’m looking for –
Loves relaxing at home – yours or mine - at least as much as running around town; Prefers – calm to hyper, peace to conflict, substance to style, and serenity to excitement; Has the desire and the time to have a new person enter their life; Doesn’t use or manipulate people, you are not bossy; you want intimacy; you are capable of communicating honestly and deeply; you Like giving and receiving affection, massages, touch and pleasure in a healthy loving way. The rest is pretty negotiable … SURPRISE ME
I am FOR the pursuit of freedom, authenticity and happiness.
Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardners who make our souls blossom - Proust
What I’m doing with my life
Semi retired - architect and contractor - taking time to slow things down even more and really enjoy each day in ever greater awareness as I redesign my daily life and try to see the world better and clearer. I go walking in central park and to the gym and swim and sauna almost everyday and I am in really great shape - been eating really healthy too.
I LOVE my life. I stay in the moment.
this sums up my philosophy beautifully :
I’m really good at
anything creative, being me, giving and receiving massages, anything in business, management, investing, cooking, building, fixing things, solving problems, being a great friend, seeing through the bullshit, listening, reading, advising and helping people, relaxing, finding the best thing on the menu or on tv
The first things people usually notice about me
I don't know - I don't ask and they don't say
I tend to think that someone's opinion of me is none of my business - but people do seem to calm down around me and
people tend to trust and open up to me
or that I am a bad mamma jamma
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
BOOKS : a gradual awakening; remembrance of things past; the metamorphosis; catch 22; the mezzanine; the female brain; the peter principle; Nabokov on literature; Capotes short stories; confederacy of dunces; the power of art- schama; cats cradle; Isaac Bashevi Singers short stories; Gogol; Maus; & harold and the purple crayon

MOVIES big lebowski, fargo, sullivans travels, duck soup, you can't take it with you, some like it hot, a nous la liberte, unforgiven, what about bob ?, american splendor, groundhog day, a fine madness, hud, Little Murders. capt corellis mandolin, no country for old men, producers ( original ), Girl with Pearl Earing, ninotchka, coconuts, my blue heaven, Gigantic, for your consideration, Mary Poppins, the third man, true grit, idiots delight, the misfits, jesse and celeste forever, 5 year engagement, Fading Gigolo

MUSIC dylan, the roast beef curtains, notting hillbillies, emmylou harris, leonard cohen, tom waits, nick lowe, lucinda williams, mark knopfler, van morrison, nina simone, the band, johnny hartman, melody gardot, armstrong, Elvis, fiest, benny goodman, ludwig von, the dead. thelonius monk, valerie june, john coltrane, klezmer

FOOD = Thai, jewish deli, szechuan, chinese, indian, crazy salads, sushi, ramen, healthy, great pizza, soup, anything very hot and spicy
Six things I could never do without
I would like to think I can do without anything but to play along - streets and parks; nyc; culture, nature, mental/physical health, good people, friends, good foods, freedom, happy thoughts, positive energy, peace and quiet, museums, good books, music, meditation, paper and pens and pencils, hot sauce
I spend a lot of time thinking about
how lucky and grateful i am
how stressed out and unhappy a lot of people look
where the world is headed - and I'm strangely optimistic but I do think it is going to be very messy and painful
why tourists don't know how to walk in the city
how i can help people and be a better man
whats so funny about peace love and understanding ?
whatever became of the Little Lebowski urban achievers ( and proud we are of all of them ) ?
and whats for lunch or dinner and snacks
should I take a nap - if not now when ?
Did I use enough cliches on this page ? Should i add some ? ok here is one more = I enjoy ALL the city has to offer ( what does that mean ? )
On a typical Friday night I am
I do not recall but here are some quotations I like that you may find amusing -

I don’t know where to start, so for now Please accept from me this unpretentious bouquet of very early-blooming parentheses: ((()))
Favorite Advice: Show Up, Be Present, Share Your Truth, Enjoy every moment and Have No Investment in the Outcome
The child is in me still and sometimes not so still – Mr Rogers
I wanna hang a map of the world in my house. Then I'm gonna put pins into all the locations that I've traveled to. But first, I'm gonna have to travel to the top two corners of the map so it won't fall down - Mitch Hedberg
One day someone is going to hug you so tight all of your broken pieces will stick back together
I would say that the thrust of my life has been initially about getting free, and then realizing that my freedom is not independent of everybody else. Then I am arriving at that circle where one works on oneself as a gift to other people so that one doesn't create more suffering. I help people as a work on myself and I work on myself to help people. Ram Das
Only one letter divides the comic from the cosmic – Nabokov
I put my talent into my work, but my genius into my life - Wilde
You can't join the strong till you write your own song
Let no one ever come to you without leaving better and happier - Mother Teresa
To the mind that is still, the whole universe surrenders - Lao Tzu
Discovering the truth about ourselves is a lifetime’s work, but it’s worth the effort – Mr Rogers
I have decided to stick with love.
 Hate is too great a burden MLK
“Your problem is how you are going to spend this one and precious life you have been issued. Whether you’re going to spend it trying to look good and creating the illusion that you have power over circumstances, or whether you are going to taste it, enjoy it and find out the truth about who you are.”
― Anne Lamott
I used to want to change the world now I just want to leave the room with a little dignity - Lotus Weinstock
Life is short and we have never too much time for gladdening of the hearts of those who are travelling the dark journey with us. Oh be swift to love and make haste to be kind - Henri Amiel
People intoxicate themselves with work so they won't see how they really are. Aldous Huxley
“No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.” – Aesop
When can I go into the supermarket and buy what I need with my good looks? America after all it is you and I who are perfect not the next world. - Alan Ginsburg
“If the world were merely seductive, that would be easy. If it were merely challenging, that would be no problem. But I arise in the morning torn between a desire to improve the world and a desire to enjoy the world. This makes it hard to plan the day.” ~ E.B. White
Do not pray for an easier life, pray to be a stronger man - jfk
Old age comes to us on silent feet
We are all a little weird and life’s a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.
On really romantic evenings of self, I go salsa dancing with my confusion. - Speed Levitch
To be nobody-but-yourself - in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else -- means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting - e e cumming
And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom - Anaïs Nin No one ever broke your heart – they broke your expectations kyle cease
A hundred times a day I remind myself that my inner and outer life depend on the labors of other people, living and dead, and that I must exert myself in order to give in the full measure I have received and am still receiving
Life is too short to be little. Man is never so manly as when he feels deeply, acts boldly and expresses himself with frankness and with fervor - disraeli
Be kind to every one you meet for they too are enduring a great struggle - philo
In the most successful relationships, both partners are givers - Psychology today
I am a member of the Black Sheep family - We are sheep with no shepherd - We are sheep with no straight & narrow We are sheep with no meadow We are sheep who take the dangerous pathway thru the mountain range to get to the other side of our soul. We always speak our mind and appreciate differences in culture and we'll fight for what we believe. There's always one in every family Even when we're surrounded by bodies we're always alone - You're born alone and you die alone was written by a black sheep. You can't take it with you - written by a former black sheep. Black Sheep folk look different from their family It's the way they look at the world. We're a quirk of nature - We're a quirk of fate - Usually our family, our city, our country never understands us - We knew this from when we were very young that we weren't meant to be understood. That's right. Thats our job. Don't worry -- get used to it - Karen Finley
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
my cultural role models as a kid were Groucho & Harpo Marx, ( Chico not so much - go figure ) Gomez Adams ( I think his relationship with Morticia was inspiring ), Maynard G Krebs ( the G is for Walter his aunt ), Alfred E Newman, Yogi Berra and Mickey Mantle - but not in that order - because there is no order
I sometimes like a drink but I don't like meeting for drinks I might drink coffee with you but i will not meet to drink it
I hate small talk. I wanna talk about atoms, death, aliens, sex, magic, ghosts, intellect, esp, the meaning of life, books, faraway galaxies, what you ate for lunch, music that makes me feel different, memories, poetry, the lies you’ve told, your flaws, your favorite scents, your childhood, what keeps you up at night, your insecurities and fears. I like people with depth, who speak with emotion, from a twisted mind and a wounded heart. I don’t want to know ‘ what’s up ‘
I get happy when the yankees win and i get sad when they lose - I can't help it and it amuses me
I have no idea what people mean when they write they are living life to it's fullest but I suspect they mean they are very busy and don't know how to stop
I have a pet fly named Phil I have known for years - he is more of a friend than a pet - I enjoy his company and love it when he lands on me
I really am a bad mamma jamma
I have a roll of Hello Kitty Duct Tape you can't use or borrow - ever - don't even ask - no means no
You should message me if
you feel like it - even to just say hello ...
or if you want to learn to meditate - i will teach anyone a simple effective method in 10 minutes - free of charge
you get extra credit if you have listened to these interviews =
and if this doesn't sound good to you I don't know what will =
oh yeah and FYI & BTW =
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