34Sacramento, United States
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My self-summary
Experienced, competent, nested polyamorist seeking shiny new humans for romantic connection and outdoor adventures!
What I’m doing with my life
Working in healthcare, visiting far flung friends, killing the houseplants, making soup.
I’m really good at
Making dinner, being calm under pressure, networking people who will like each other, rolling with the punches. I can also have fun almost anywhere, given the right crew.
The first things people usually notice about me
Realistically? I have blue eyes and a firm handshake.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Fiction by Neil Gaiman, Francesca Lia Block, Alice Walker, Tom Robbins, Kurt Vonnegut, and Herman Hesse. Nonfictionally: Kate Bornstein, bell hooks, Heather Corinna, Tristan Taormino, Jackson Katz, and Deborah Tolman. And everyone loves a David Sedaris essay, right?

Movies: Frida, Vicky Cristina Barcelona, Junebug, Volver, City of Lost Children, Inception, Brick, Benny and Joon, Boondock Saints, Kill Bill, Mystic River, The Departed, The Piano, Once. Die Hard is the best Christmas movie.

TV: Just another Joss Whedon fangirl who also likes Battlestar and Doctor Who. I am an internet stereotype.

Music: Sufjan Stevens, Brown Bird, Jeffrey Foucault, World/Inferno Friendship Society, The Dresden Dolls, The Decembrists, Gogol Bordello, Talib Kweli, Janelle Monae, The Devil Makes Three, Mirah, Kate Nash, M.I.A., Lupe Fiasco, Union Station, The Mountain Goats, and any music being made in my presence on a porch.

Food: Simple, home-cooked, and full of vegetables. Then there's the chocolate, cheese, and wine pyramid. I also have days where I eat only burritos. Because I'm BUSY and they are DELICIOUS.
Six things I could never do without
Brilliant friends, strong coffee, a cast-iron skillet, dancy tunes, new ideas, and occasional quiet.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Obstacles to harmonious diversity in the world. What kind of snacks to make next. Ways to fix healthcare. Peoples' responses to crisis. Whether sweaters are ugly-cute or just ugly, and why. My wacky family. What I would do differently if I was Buffy the Vampire Slayer.
On a typical Friday night I am
At work or out with friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I like to think of myself as a pretty open person; I will disclose most things about myself most of the time, if asked politely.
That said, I am unwilling to have explicit sexual conversations until I've hung out with someone in person and had a pleasant time doing so.
You should message me if
You're a smart extrovert.
You make a solid effort not to be racist, sexist, or homophobic.
You've lived in a few places, had a few jobs, and can manage your life with a decent attitude at least most of the time.
The two of us