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My self-summary
When you and I have lips and voices which are for kissing and to sing with, who gives a damn if some one-eyed son of a bitch invents an instrument to measure spring with? extra credit if you can identify the poet. hint. it's not me.

Just now re-writing my old bio, which was several years old and from my so so much wiser aerie of age and experience, way too pseudo philosophical and artsy. In fact one might even say it didn't say too much about me. Allow me to be more direct. I'm just a regular guy (not really) who wants what everyone here wants - a special connection, a deeper experience of love and intimacy, a partnership that elevates and deepens our days - a glimpse of the divine, an ecstatic coupling, from the bedroom to the kitchen to the concert hall to the dance floor to the gatherings of our tribes. I'm not here to waste our time with anything less than a truly soul stirring chapter in our lives (although I don't mind making friends along the way, if we can remind ourselves to be kind in the process and respect each other's willingness to be vulnerable).
I'm a writer (no really, was a journalist, just finished a novel, I actually do write from time to time). I'm reasonable smart and well-educated, cultured, and at the same time I'm not so refined some of the time and have spent a lot of time in the outdoors. Relevant fact: my son was a whitewater rafting guide and ran the ski patrol at one of the Tahoe area resorts. He had to learn those skills somewhere.
I can be snarky and I do not suffer well bigots, war mongers, religious fundamentalists, climate change deniers and other fools of that persuasion. To paraphrase Einstein: you can't solve the problems of the world with the same mentality that created those problems in the first place. My apologies, Albert. Seriously people. It's the 21st century, not the mid-20th or the 19th. Do we want to leave a livable planet for our children or not? Are we all going to be safer when we all carry concealed weapons?
I play the guitar (just for fun, never been in a band). I've done a lot of swing dancing. I speak English sorta well and I can get by in three Romance languages. I love to travel and plan more in the future. I grew up in San Francisco but lived in the northern Rocky Mountains for 13 years, so I can do urban sophisticate and outdoorsy equally well when necessary.
Obviously, I could continue, and will, when the spirit moves me.
What I’m doing with my life
Writing, playing music and listening, dancing, working as a health care consultant for the first time in 13 years, enjoying my grown children and two grandchildren, traveling, doing yoga, studying meditation, philosophy, language. I'm self-publishing a novel I wrote. Will be out by March.
I’m really good at
communicating, trying to transform drabness, trying to find the humor in any situation
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Seriously? Almost any well-prepared food. I have no food restrictions for reasons of health. I'm omnivorous but I don't eat a lot of meat for health and political reasons (see saving the planet for future generations above). I eat bag loads of vegetables and frequent the Sunday Fort Mason farmer's market.

The arts, music, movies - who doesn't like these things? Literature: one of my fave authors of recent years is Mohsin Hamid (The Reluctant Fundamentalist, Moth Smoke, How to Get Filthy Rich in Rising Asia). Brilliant writer.

I'm adaptable. For instance, I've been a skier since I was a teenager. My son has been a professional skier (ski patrol). That is to say, I'm a pretty good skier. But there have been times when I have been with a partner who was not a skier when I have given it up completely, only to happily return to it later.
My favorite things are those presenting in the moment which bring the greatest amount of shared satisfaction, contentment, inspiration, etc. into my life.
Six things I could never do without
Nothing material. My wits. My health. Beauty. Love.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to make the world a better place for future generations, including my own kids of course.
On a typical Friday night I am
we'll make it up as we go along.
You should message me if
You are looking for a partner in fun, discovery, travel, discourse, the exploration of what it means to be alive and to love more. And if something about me kindles some spark of curiosity, there is no danger in conversation. I promise to be kind and considerate.
The two of us