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My self-summary
I'm still figuring out this whole life thing - I'm just making it up as I go along. I want to get to the most I can out of life, but I tend to keep my feet on the ground even when my head's in the clouds. I'm either an INTP or ENTP if that matters to you (should it? maybe - at least enough to say I'm an introverted extrovert). I overuse ellipses and parentheses (both when writing and speaking) and am easily amused. Music is the fuel in my engine.
What I’m doing with my life
I love keeping up with what's going in this world of ours, seeing concerts, trying new things, thinking new thoughts, procrastinating profusely, sipping a tasty craft beer or homemade cocktail with friends, and being constantly on the look out for adventures and folks to have them with. I'm polyamorous, with a wonderful girlfriend in Austin and several geographically scattered very dear friends. I like getting to know interesting characters and seeing how connections evolve.

But right now? I recently finished grad school (it only took... a few years), and I'm winding down a postdoc and decided I liked Austin enough to stick around for a bit. I moved here by way of sunny San Diego, but I'll always be from New England ('cause I'm wicked cool like that and still have ice and sarcasm running through my veins). I've been doing research in AI and Cognitive Science - I work with people and computers and virtual reality to try to figure out how thought happens. (Of course, it's really all about my plans to take over the world with a robot army... Shhh...) Moving out of the Ivory Tower is going to be a change of pace, but I'm excited.

I've been in Austin over four years now. When I first moved here, I thought it was shiny and fun to bike through. I still do, but it can be a bit frustrating having so many competing shiny things to do in this city. Life is hard.
I’m really good at
I'm *really* good at forgetting things, for better and worse.

Blinking in photos. It's my mutant super power.

I keep my ear to the ground and like to know what's shaking. (But I'm often bad at letting people know until an hour before it happens.)

Other things. Not all things.
The first things people usually notice about me
I have cavernous dimples, and I look like someone they know.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
It's funny, this used to be the first section I'd look at... but I'm not sure it really says all that much about people.

Music: Most of my favorites span genres and are a bit hard to pigeonhole. World/Inferno Friendship Society, Gogol Bordello, Madness, Les Claypool's various projects, TMBG, Jethro Tull, New Pornographers, Caravan Palace, Neutral Milk Hotel, Camper Van Beethoven, Yeah Yeah Yeahs.

Movies: I like movies, but I'm *horrible* at remembering lines, actors, and even plots. I often like movies with interesting twists and turns or which make you think.

Books: It used to be almost anything I could get my hands on, but these days most of my reading is articles (either for work or for procrastination). Tom Robbins, Neal Stephenson, Kurt Vonnegut, Roger Zelazny, George R. R. Martin, Paul Auster, China Miéville, Neil Gaiman, and Umberto Eco.

Food: Some place I haven't been before, and preferably some food I've never had.

TV: I think TV's mostly crap, but I do have a few guilty pleasures like Bob's Burgers and Game of Thrones. A lot of what the BBC does is good (e.g., Black's Books, Sherlock, and unsurprisingly Doctor Who). I had a platonic crush on Jon Stewart (Trevor Noah's slowly growing on me, but John Oliver's better). I haven't opted for cable in years, but I Hulu/Netflix pretty regularly (are those verbs yet? I vote yes).

Podcasts: Radiolab, Savage Lovecast, This American Life, Car Talk, Planet Money, Wait Wait Don't Tell Me, Welcome to Night Vale

I'm also a big fan of Theater. I took a course where we got to see 25 plays in 15 days in London - seeing Alan Rickman perform and being wished a Happy New Year by Judi Dench were highlights. I can be a sucker for musicals. I haven't seen as many plays as I'd like since coming to Austin, though - something I'd like to change.
Six things I could never do without
I'm adaptable and there's not much I really need. But I'll say:
* A tune in my ears (or at least in my head)
* New experiences (foods, movies, bars, people, ideas, songs)
* Good friends, family, and other loved ones - without them what's the point?
* Touch (I'm a sucker for cuddles)
* My laptop/phone (although every so often I'm tempted to never touch a computer again... technology can be the most addicting drug)
* Spark. In its many forms.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I just think too much.
On a typical Friday night I am
... doing things. Or not. Honestly friday's not all that different from other nights (which are also frequently awesome).

Some of those 'things': camping, grabbing drinks with friends (in or out), reading/grading papers, crafting, curling up with a good book, curling up with a bad movie, working in the lab til the wee hours (mad science waits for no one), backyard circuses, themed parties where I'm dazzled by my friends' creativity, game nights, crazy concerts, and moonlit hikes.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
On the open internet? Pretty much what you see here. But I'll usually answer any question someone asks me.
You should message me if
... you want. What've you got to lose? (Except your soul! Bwa ha ha ha!)

I value a balance of independence and strong connections. I'm polyamorous and open with a wonderful girlfriend of almost two years. Good communication, knowing your boundaries, and enthusiastic consent are all important (and sexy).

I like people who enjoy the simple pleasures in life and measure success with their own ruler. I'm looking for an unconventional relationship with an unconventional lady — someone who is intelligent, quirky, a bit of a hippie or burner, and progressive.

OR if you're just looking for someone to go to shows/events with. It's always good to have more adventure buddies, especially with so much shaking here.

The best way to get to know whether you click with someone is definitely to interact with them. So if you're interested in chatting--and potentially grabbing a drink or a show after a few messages--drop me a note.
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