35 Rochford, United Kingdom
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My self-summary
Hi, I may be from Essex but I'd like to think I'm not an Essex-boy!

Standard stuff first: I work as an architectural designer which is....a job, and I have a 7 year old son who is the greatest thing that has ever happened to me. We come as a package so, while he's got a mother already thankyouverymuch, if you don't want to date someone with a kid then I'm not for you and vice versa. Unless we can arrange to sell him to the circus for like £1m or something. I love him to pieces but business is business, right?*

My brain doesn't necessarily compute all the time and I often think abstractly. This can lead to interesting situations, and I'll be damned if I don't enjoy them. Other times I can be painfully logical - though that's mainly if I'm working on an excuse to get out of something.

I can be fairly outspoken in company I know (and love, aww) and tend to be fairly blunt with the people closest to me. It's just how I am and it is (mainly) meant affectionately as I have almost zero tolerance for bullshit. Basically, If I care about you I'll tell you exactly what I think about something....unless I think the truth may end with you causing me physical pain. I mean I'm not a complete idiot, right? Right??

I'm a huge music fan - I've an eclectic taste and tend to like stuff from most genres. Also, I don't believe in 'guilty pleasures' when it comes to music - if you like it then have the courage of your convictions to say so, no matter how awful you suspect other people may think a song is!

I love to read, with my some of my favourite authors including: Haruki Murakami, Paul Auster, William Gibson, & Neil Gaiman.

I'm very much into film and (good) TV and love trips to the cinema or lazy evenings working through a series on Netflix.

I'm a big sport fan, football etc..yada yada. But my favourite sport is basketball and I'm somewhat of an NBA fanatic.

I'm an easy-going, open-minded guy who loves the odd adventure when the opportunity presents itself.

*DISCLAIMER: I have never attempted and never would attempt to sell my son to the circus. Unless I get to have a drive of one of the clown cars.
What I’m doing with my life
Enjoying as much as possible and not getting caught up in, or with pettiness.

Oh, and trying to get the hell out of Dodge.
I’m really good at
Working out who somebody's doppelgänger is.


I'm a good cook, and I have a good musical ear (just the one, the other side is RUBBISH).
The first things people usually notice about me
Is how much they'd really love to message me if they saw me on a dating site.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: American Gods - Neil Gaiman; Kafka On The Shore - Haruki Murakami; Idoru - William Gibson; Pronto - Elmore Leonard; From The Mouth Of The Whale - Sjon; Matterhorn - Karl Marlantes; Moby Dick - Herman Melville; Vanity of Duluoz - Jack Kerouac; The New York Trilogy - Paul Auster; Hyperion - Dan Simmons.

Movies: The Sting; Butch Cassidy & The Sundance Kid; Big Trouble In Little China; I Saw The Devil; Dark City; La Haine; The City Of Lost Children; Blade Runner; Wall-E; The Blues Brothers; Hana-bi; Grosse Pointe Blank; Chungking Express.

TV Shows: True Detective; Community; Justified (Raylan Givens is my fictional hero); Deadwood; Battlestar Galactica; The League; Flight Of The Conchords; Supernatural; Firefly; Farscape; The Wire; Game of Thrones; Person of Interest.

Music: Prince; Steely Dan; Andrew Gold; Cody ChesnuTT; Bilal; Roy Ayers; Todd Rundgren; TV On The Radio; She Wants Revenge; Harry Nilsson; Mr. Bungle; Aereogramme; Interpol; Scenario Rock; Depeche Mode; Tears For Fears; Stromae; Jacques Brel; Sebastien Tellier; Miike Snow; Apparat; Shinichi Osawa; Jeff Buckley; The Avett Brothers; Outkast; Refused; Metronomy; CunninLynguists; De La Soul; Roots Manuva; Tegan & Sara; Serge Gainsbourg; Explosions In The Sky; Prefab Sprout; Phillip Glass; Ben Folds; Janelle Monae; M83; 1995; Yann Destal; Zoot Woman; Everything Everything; SomethingALaMode; Jaga Jazzist; Against Me!; Coheed and Cambria; Circa Survive; Run The Jewels; Röyksopp; Childish Gambino; Toro Y Moi.
The six things I could never do without
John Carpenter's The Thing.

That hand from the Addams Family.

That dude from The Fantastic Four.

Umm...and those 3 things over there.
I spend a lot of time thinking about

World domination (not for me, asking for a friend)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have a nasty habit of air drumming along to songs if I think that nobody can see me.
You should message me if
- I'm looking to meet people who share a similar outlook on life as myself. I tend to look at the world in a positive manner and try not to sweat the small stuff, so someone with a similarly relaxed manner would be ideal. That isn't to say that I lack drive or ambition however, and those are also attractive qualities.