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My self-summary
If this works, we will have lots of fun. I'm not really thinking of fun activities (we will do those too). What I'm really talking about is enjoying being together --- finding it fun to converse and interact. The woman I wish to spend time with enjoys repartee and wordplay (perhaps even sarcasm). She wonders about things and likes to share her thoughts about her curiosities.

I wish to amuse and be amused (as well as have serious or deep discussions).I am looking for a meaningful connection where we support, understand, motivate and cheer on each other on our various pursuits. I am looking for someone who really does want to get inside my head a bit and who also wants to be really known.

Ideally you would also be someone who is independent and desires some alone time and who has outside interests and relationships that provide fulfillment. You probably do not get bored frequently

I consider myself basically a "nice guy" though I hope maybe a little more cool and creative. I am quite laid back, accepting, and am very good at not letting the small stuff get to me. I am endlessly curious and find more things fascinating than most folks do. I can find interest in most things people would talk to me about.

I am happy doing just about anything whether its outdoor activities, just wandering or people watching, or going to an a destination or event. There are not many places you could take me where I would be unhappy, aside from events involving lots of small talk.

I go to the gym four or so times weekly and have managed to make that into a habit. Sometimes I am really into competing with myself and sometimes it is just a great release, but overall, I find the gym rather dreary (and all too male) and could easily be convinced to share some outdoor exercise as an alternative to some of my workouts.
What I’m doing with my life
Still adjusting to having a private practice. Finding I finally have time to focus on meeting someone and wishing I were done with dating sites.
I’m really good at
I am a great listener. I have been told many times I have "great hands". I also have an amazing ability to focus on things or tasks that interest me and have a sharp sense of humor. I notice connections between things that others may not. Being direct without offending. Getting worked up about oblivious drivers. Observing things that lots of other people miss.
The first things people usually notice about me
my eyes, my interest in what they have to say
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
(A) What is the What, Water for Elephants, I Know This Much is True, anything by Russell Banks. Currently reading more non-fiction than fiction
(B) Shawshank Redemption, The BigChill, Forest Gump, Superbad
(C) pad thai, sushi, raw bar, pomegranates, steak
(D) Musical tastes are extremely eclectic -- I love my Pandora. Most frequently played stations include Bootsey Collins, Parliament Funkadelic, Arturo Sandoval, Disco Biscuits, The White Stripes, The Raconteurs, Avenged Sevenfold, Black Mountain, Buena Vista Social Club, and some Rap (for the gym). At this point, my Pandora stations have spawned so many generations of babies, that I have no idea how to label what I am listening to, and know only that it spans many genres while offering music that has certain similar qualities that I consistently find compelling.

I love NPR and documentaries. I do not have a tv, but easily find myself engrossed when I am in front of one. There is not much I will not join you in watching even if I might not seek it out myself.
Six things I could never do without
my family, regularly enjoying nature, books, my curiousity, "me" time, intelligent conversation
I spend a lot of time thinking about
-the "big questions" brought up my work as a therapist

-how to create a side biz that will take small amount of effort (after set-up) and reap large rewards

-how the world has changed so much -- and how scary it is that I recall my grandparents saying this

-randomness- for example, why, on trash day, are there so many couches without cushions on the side of the road. Where did the cushions go? Were the owners so mean-spirited that they hid the cushions so that noone else could have their couch for free?

-When will I meet someone who wants to hear my musings?

- How it can be that there are so many women on here that say that they are "always smiling". I am quite sure that I never encounter this proportion of people that are smiling anywhere.

-Why there are so many profiles that are so negative. Ladies, if you don't want to meet guys with certain qualities (or if they have or don't have something in their profiles) why not just not respond to them. Listing what you don't want or don't like just makes you appear negative to even those who might fit your tastes
On a typical Friday night I am
completely mystified -- you will have to ask.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
That I am unlikely to initiate contact with you (even if I find you ravishing) unless your profile gives me enough information about your personality and values to make me think there is a fair chance we will hit it off. I want to start off with better odds than just liking someone's appearance (although I am admittedly very visually oriented). I hope my profile is revealing enough for you to have an idea if we might click. If so, come say hellp

So, if you see a potential connection that I might not recognize in your profile, please write.

Also, if I fall out of your stated age range or height range or some other range, feel free to write. I tend to respect the guidelines that are in your profile, so will not initiate with you if I fall outside of these.
You should message me if
You are single, think of yourself as curious, are an animal lover, and want to meet a truly nice guy with a clever wit

You like the idea of going on random drives with camera in hand

You have guessed correctly, that I might need some encouragement to message you. My profile is pretty long, eh? I figure it would give those who read it a good sense of who I am. If you read this and the profile appeals to you, there is a good chance you will be my type (at least in values and qualities). I definitely want someone who is excited by what they have read.

You feel we might hit it off. (Please let me know why you think this.

You are willing to engage me in our initial discussions (ask questions, further the conversation, etc). I spend my days ensuring that discussion is flowing. If this is my role in dating, it's gonna feel too much like work. I promise, if you throw out a conversation direction, I can take it and run.
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