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My self-summary
OK, here goes...

I am: mostly extroverted, a foodie, sweet, stubborn, often cynically optimistic (if that's possible), and loyal. I'm Italian at heart (and most proud of the culinary aspects of my heritage). I think I have a good sense of humor, but sometimes I'm the only one laughing.

I love to cook and travel, and I do both as often as possible, but not nearly enough.

I have little interest in traditional gender roles.

I respect people who run or swim or go to the gym, because I am trying to be one of them. I've been playing soccer in a rec league, and I love it more now than when I was a kid. It's a way to run around that's not boring like the treadmill. But I don't take it all that seriously (hard to when your team never wins :)

In a partner, I think I'm often comfortable with a "secret-extrovert" -- someone who may not be the first to open themselves up to the crowd, but once comfortable, they can become the life of the party - at least a dinner party. I find someone who likes to analyze behavior and is attuned to the subtext of a situation very attractive. If you regularly find yourself hypothesizing about what motivates other people to act the way they do, we'll have lots to talk about.

You are probably also affectionate, intellectually curious, honest, funny, self-directed, passionate about what you do, and comfortable in your own skin. Of course, as I typed that I realized: who doesn't want all that?

I am very attracted to someone who thinks creatively about and then joyously dons their Halloween costume, and I admire this immensely because I am uncomfortable wearing costumes.

I have pretty stridently held social and political views. I think society is structured in ways that privilege some and deny others. I think we should all be doing something, even if just by our vote and our general posture on the issues, to change this.

I make movies (mostly as an editor) for work, and I'm regularly hatching ideas for my own big projects. Someday soon I'll embark on making a dream movie.
What I’m doing with my life
I make movies. Mostly I edit them, but I shoot, write, direct and do whatever I need to to get a project done. I love what I do.
I’m really good at
Having opinions. Cooking. Eating. Movie stuff. Listening. Conspiring. 65 year old man humor. 15 year old boy humor (I know it's not PC, but I am glad The Office re-legitimized "that's what she said." C'mon, sometimes those are funny.
The first things people usually notice about me
My laugh (it's loud). My eyes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Shows: The Sopranos was the best thing ever. Still looking for something as good. Breaking Bad. I gave up on Mad Men, but I'll probably go back. Damages is a guilty pleasure for sure.

Movies: 70s American classics (Coppola, Scorcese, Bonnie and Clyde, Midnight Cowboy, etc.); Wong Kar Wai's movies, The Sweet Hereafter, Cohen Bros, PT Anderson...

Books: 100 Years of Solitude is an all time favorite. Recently read The Ask and liked it. Currently working my way through Blood Meridian. It's bleak.

Update: left Blood Meridian in a hotel room. Gotta buy a new one to get back to that dark, hateful place. Now I'm in the middle of Americanah, which is wonderful.
The six things I could never do without
friends/family; Animals to hang out with; great food; something unknowable to ponder; my bed. that's five. so what.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Movies I want to make. What I want to cook next and for whom. The sad state of American politics. Race/class/gender issues. Whether I not I buy the idea of the multiverse (leaning toward believing it because I want to).
On a typical Friday night I am
Having dinner, seeing a movie and/or playing a nerdy game with friends (Settlers of Catan, anyone?)

Going to the bar for drinks. Maybe getting up to NYC to see people there.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm actually ready to find someone who I love, who I'm happy with, who knows relationships are always supportive and wonderful, and always hard work. I'm looking for someone unafraid of that work. I am not clingy, and I don't want to rush into anything, but I'm feeling like I've learned how to be single. Mastered that. I could move on happily, confidently into something like a partnership now - if it felt right. Maybe that's too corny and too vulnerable for this site. But I don't give a shit :)

Oh, and I'll admit, I think the judicious use of emoticons is totally great. It prevents tonal confusion :)
You should message me if
...ummm... if you want to. No other criteria needed. What do we have to lose?