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My self-summary
I am a confused and often distressed human-being looking for friends on a dating site while stubbornly ignoring the fact that it's a dating site.

lonely af.


vida-lita.tumblr.com (my art)
What I’m doing with my life
lying in bed.

Dreaming about ways to escape the winter here / trying to make the most of the summer.

doing art-figure-photography modeling for fun and profit / going to house shows / intermittently working on a myriad of projects that I will never finish / lying in bed staring at the internet / slowly starving to death.
I’m really good at
Logical solutions to other peoples' tangible problems. advocacy. Sorting things. Filling out paperwork. Managing medications. Meowing.
Maybe drawing and writing and adventuring.

I can swallow (at least) a dozen pills at once.
The first things people usually notice about me
my clothes are probably dirty. I might pick up food off the ground and eat it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Writers: if I could recommend one book it would be Leslie Feinburg's Stone Butch Blues. others: Steven Brust (Vlad Taltos); P. C. Hodgell (Kencycrath); John Steinbeck (East of Eden); Douglas Coupland (Generation X); Tom Wolfe (Electric Kool-Aid Acid Test); William S. Burroughs; Junji Ito; Roald Dahl; Sherman Alexie; Bill Watterson (Calvin and Hobbes); Richard Brautigan; Matthew Woodring Stover (Caine); Glen Cook (Black Company); S. E. Hinton; Anita Diamant (The Red Tent); Ken Kesey (One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest); Harper Lee; Neil Gaiman (American Gods)...

Movies: Naked Lunch; Enter The Void; Harold & Maude; Requiem for a Dream; Natural Born Killers; Kids; Born Innocent; The Breakfast Club; Thelma & Louise; He Died with a Felafel in His Hand; Falling Down; Dancer in the Dark; The Skin I Live In; The Silence of the Lambs; Amélie; Beasts of the Southern Wild; Serenity; Full Metal Jacket; Airplane; Dead Poets Society; The Dreamers; Jennifer's Body...

Music: Dead Moon; The Mountain Goats; Leonard Cohen; Lhasa de Sela; Nina Simone; Suzanne Vega; Joan Jett; Pixies; T. Rex; Tom Petty; Fastbacks; Sleeper; Nirvana; Avengers; Patsy Cline; Marisa Anderson…

Food: Artichokes. Butter. Lemon. Garlic. Avocados. Fish. Pears. Honey. Beef stew. Blackberries. Kale. Anything free.
Six things I could never do without
‣  A door to close.
‣  My bed.
‣  My psych meds.
‣  Kitties.
‣  Camaraderie.
‣  Sunshine.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
what to do with my day/life. inequality. mental illness. how to not be alone.
On a typical Friday night I am
at a punk show or sleeping or getting high or cooking an elaborate meal or going on a walk or
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm terrified of everything except for cats and conversations.
I don't like having sex. I'm bipolar (with heavy emphasis on depression).
You should message me if
(don't like me, i can't see it. write me!)

if you wanna explore abandoned places
if you wanna do crafts or make art together
if you wanna buy me pretty things
if you wanna travel
if you wanna involve me in what you like doing

Maybe something else! Who knows! Be interesting, be real. Involve me in your project. Teach me new things. Tell me stories. Help me get out in the world. Let's remember the things that make life worth living.

And I am not interested in romance or sexual contact of any kind.
And if all you say in your message is "Hey," you're not likely to get a reply. Please ask questions rather than making statement about what I look like.
The two of us