I spend so much time in my life taking care of myself and needing to be in control at work that I prefer a respite from that in social situations. I love when others are willing to take responsibility for some basic decisions without needing my every input.
Who am I? I am kind, patient, curious, loving, cuddly, attentive, and some have even said insatiable. I am intelligent, capable, independent, and working on improving myself. I am both serious and silly; calm and energetic; optimistic and realistic; flexible and resolute; feminine and not. I am me!
I do not smoke and truly dislike smoking - my mom has COPD from a lifetime of smoking. I will socialize with others while they smoke but not if I am breathing it in much. I rarely drink and generally choose non-alcoholic beverages. I like some drinks but am otherwise pretty indifferent. A person doesn't need to worry about taking care of a drunken me - not my thing. I am not into other substances.
I am friendly and happy in friendships and serious commitment. I tend to feel cautious and reserved when beginning new relationships. I love intuitively and idealistically. I'm a nerd with a geek side. My favorite social times are with groups of friends playing games or hanging out around a pool or firepit at night talking.
I find I am generally attracted to people who carry their weight well, are comfortable with themselves, intelligent and challenge me to be better everyday, can relate through conversation and touch, and know how to make decisions while also being able to be silly and free.
I have a senior cat - a pet is a lifetime commitment.
I enjoy gaming (tabletop) and socializing.
I am a member of the Society of Creative Anachronism (SCA)
Downtime often includes research in esoteric interests and genealogy.
Movies: fantasy, supernatural, superhero, action, comedy, historical
Television: Grimm, Person of Interest, and Scorpion, Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D., Big Bang Theory, Arrow, Flash
Netflix: Daredevil, Jessica Jones, Hemlock Grove, Sense 8
Music: soft rock, classic rock, folk, occasionally country
Food: Generally, yes.
2. Cuddles with a pet or person
How to help my students succeed and my friends be happy.
My beautiful baby nephew.
What makes the ideal connection for me?