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My self-summary
So I've figured that I am not like most guys in the East Bay; for I am neither Tech Bro nor a FiDi wannabe master of the universe and I'm not looking to be a "disruptive innovator," at least in a professional sense. Originally from Chicago. History nerd and semi-reformed political junkie. A sometimes kind of writer, armed with a set of keenly observant eyes. A vigorous yet respectable debater, rooter for the underdog, attentive listener, INFP, GGG, and passionate advocate for the use of the parenthesis, ellipse, as well as the semicolon (within reason of course!)...; and an occasional schadenfreude vampire.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm at an interesting point right now. I've been around long enough to figure most of my shit out, find my general place in the world, and be able to see the future as something bright.

Here's the accompanying theme song for my page that fits well here:
I’m really good at
-Being able to find the subtle humor in the seemingly mundane.

-The ability to be a thoughtful, though not too devilish of an advocate if being contrarian strikes my fancy.

-Thinking about problems and scenarios from multiple perspectives and being able to appreciate the different nuances involved in the different actions, communications, and potential conflicts between multiple parties.

-I usually possess, what has been referred to by others, as "super-human levels of patience."

-Pontificating on passable prose. (Which upon instant examination I'm not sure is a good example, but I'm also not changing it.)

-I'm fully confident that my pasta carbonara is better than yours.
The first things people usually notice about me
My hair. It's the one thing I allow myself a level of vanity over (but hey, at least I'm not posting bathroom mirror selfies!) I'm confident that I both have better hair than your ex, or anyone in your inbox.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books- I'm a history nerd, so I've read a bunch of varying histories, biographies, and political books. Lots of articles and current events type stuff; understanding the world around me as best I can is kind of important to me. I haven't read much in the way of novels since college, not as much my interest unless I get a really good recommendation.

Movies- I really like movies of most kinds, though I don't get out to as many new ones as much, but I love me some Netflix. Some that randomly come to mind that I really enjoy: Dr. Strangelove, The Big Lebowski, Usual Suspects, In the Loop, The Blues Brothers, Slacker

TV- Arrested Development, Parks & Rec., Game of Thrones, Freaks & Geeks, Wilfred, Doctor Who, Breaking Bad, Louie, The Wire, Orange is the New Black, House of Cards, Last Week Tonight

Podcasts- Democracy Now!, This American Life, Dan Savage, Judge John Hodgeman, Jordan Jesse Go!, Radiolab, Risk!, Men in Blazers, Dan Carlin's Hardcore History

Music- Hardly an exhaustive list, but here's a reasonable cross-sample of my tastes I would think: The Beatles, Jefferson Airplane, Miles Davis, Muddy Waters, The Velvet Underground/earlier solo Lou Reed, David Bowie, Grateful Dead, James Brown, Bob Dylan, Spirit, Pavement, Talking Heads, Pixies, Phish, De La Soul, Pulp, Primus, Silver Jews, Medeski Martin & Wood, Cornershop, Kula Shaker, Jurassic 5, Beastie Boys, Radiohead, Luna, Galaxie 500...

Food- I'm open to a lot of things, but being out here I have been able to learn and come to a new appreciation for what an experience good sushi can be.
Six things I could never do without
I really don't like this question because answers to it feel either totally impractical, or entirely too practical.

Therefore instead I'm going to list the 6 old school Doctor Who VHS tapes I'm going to be stuck with (because yes, my desert island has yet to go to digital, it didn't sell out and like everyone else):

-The Sun Makers
-City of Death
-The Caves of Androzani
-The Mysterious Planet
-The Happiness Patrol
I spend a lot of time thinking about
-The way that complicated systems work (or fail to).

-How often people will say easily and perhaps even unknowingly say many things that they don't really mean. For example: most everyone will say that they're an open-minded person; but I find myself wondering how true such often rote statements about themselves bear any resemblance to the truth given their actions and the motivations they display.

-Everton football

-Was that guy really riding a tortoise on that cloud over there? I'm pretty sure it would be a better world if people could ride tortoises.

-What is my cat doing? How much am I a sucker for playing in to his master plan?
On a typical Friday night I am
I really don't like this question either, I guess because I'm getting old and the answer gets less exciting as to what's "typical" over time. Probably just making a tasty meal and watching Netflix.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Do any of the embarrassing above admissions count?

If not, I just recently sold two of my most prized childhood possessions for $40. I could feel the 14 year old inside of me stamping his feet, cursing me, and calling me a damned Judas.
You should message me if
You're looking for someone else like me who is also ready to try to laugh at life, isn't ashamed of their own past or personal peculiarities, are patient and understanding - yet also capable of knowing when to call someone on their shit when they need it, and all-in-all looking for something real and mutual in another person... just want to or something. :)
The two of us