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My self-summary
Asami = basically life goals.

Hard femme, I always dress in drag. I'm open to partners of varying genders.

Stranger danger + time deficit means that I am reluctant to sink a lot of time into messaging here. Despite this I am not really open to meeting right away without messaging. I guess I am sorta looking for good chemistry for friends, lovers, dates, whatever. It's hard to describe what that looks like for me until I come across it.
People who are indulgent balanced by integrity and strong personal boundries are a good place to start.

I just came out of a period where I didn't have a lot of spoons and am coasting off that. It feels good, but I'm not really up to much of anything substantial at the moment. I spend a lot of time with friends and reading. Other grounding activities include cooking, fermenting, growing things, making pretty spaces. Creative pursuits.
What I’m doing with my life
I work, I hang out at home. I spend time with my partner and my family, my friends. I read.

I am looking to have more emotionally connective relationships.

I'm trying to listen more and speak less. Working to be present.
I'm fairly anxious and that lends itself to distracting actions. Less screen time would be good. Weaning off of many things that actually don't help me feel posi in the long run (though I am into coping in the moment, but as a pattern I would like to focus on things like) less sugar and escapism habits such as going out to eat and internetting for hours.

I strive toward simple days - obligations, home, making food, reading, writing, drawing, singing.
Historically and at the moment I have a lot going on. Busy days filled with projects, work, friends, errands, whatever. I spend much less time with friends and on hobbies than I woud like, also less time alone and just engaging in the simple acts of staying alive like sleeping, eating, thinking slowly.
Not sure how to move from mania to calmness in a general sense but I am striving to be honest with myself and others. I hope this helps.
I’m really good at
I like to talk about STIs. I am not ashamed of my body, or when I am I push through it. I hope I consistently challenge myself in this regard.

I like fancy clothes, and extravagant outfits. Video games, singing, dancing, Making meals for myself and others (but I don't think of myself as a "cook" in the way that some people do)

Sleeping for hours and hours and hours and then not sleeping enough for days. Feast or famine.

I love my friends.
The first things people usually notice about me
Femmestache, hips, loud voice, hair or makeup.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I read the news a lot. I like r/funny except when I don't #downvote #democracy #lol

News articles, erotica, comics, I like sci-if fantasy. Queer or femme or female characters in general. Politics. Some philosophy. Anarchism and shit.
Blogs. Podcasts. Comix.

I like a lot of terrible and mainstream movies. We will likely not have the same taste. I like to watch things I have already seen before or documentaries about things I don't know about already.

I read a lot. I watch some shows. Again, sci-if fantasy like Star Trek, Dark Angel, Firefly. Nature docs. I have been increasingly interested in animation as a powerful medium in film. Steven Universe, Korra and Airbender. These are incredible examples of animation that creates really rad models.

I like sweet and savory combos and am suuuuuuper into sugars and fats. Yum.
Previously there lived in this space a detailed list of specific things I enjoy eating, this is available upon request.
Sandwiches are growing on me.
The six things I could never do without
My glasses
Chosen peers
Counter culture
Dance music
Weird sex
Dental floss
Sci-fi and fantasy escapism
A ridiculous dress
STI tests
My period-cup-thing
A bed I can sleep on
Some sort of creative outlet
Toilet paper
Boots that are waterproof (cause Portland)
Tacky cell phone charms

I really like tea and enjoy access to the internet. Clean water and clean hot water and being stably inside when it's cold out are pretty meaningful.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I spend a lot of time considering integrity.
How to be A Good Person occupies an unfortunate amount of my head space.
Also insert other circular obsessive thoughts that may or may not be counter productive or self-manifesting here.

Feelings and stuff. Politicized bodies and sex. Heteronomativity, white supremacy and how I perpetuate those in ways I would rather not.

My body. Kink. My relationships.

Fear, compassion, survival, generosity, my friends, my dates. technology and bodies, money, awesome gear, my house, honesty. How to be more compassionate with myself, how to be more compassionate with others. Holding boundaries.
On a typical Friday night I am
Fisting to post-metal or working. I honestly don't know. Reading?

Death before the Friday bar scene.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I sometimes imagine macing random jerks I overhear in public.
Say some annoying shit:
Its just a fantasy.

I think I'm way funner than this profile makes me out to be :/
You should message me if
You wanna say hi if we know one another IRL.

If you want to know my fetlife name or tell me yours (note: if you ask mine I will expect you to share yours).

If you're demi-sexual. TBH I'll date whomever but have a lot of sex in my life right now and it sounds nice to have a demi-sexual or asexual relationship as that's part myself that I feel really good in.

You're not racist, ableist, sexist, homophobic, heteronormative- relationship seeking, femme phobic, misogynist, transphobic, classist, ageist, if the jokes you make are not at the expense of another group of people, etc... If you care about the language you use.
I really don't expect people to be perfect and I know I am not but I would like for people to be actively and openly (read: interested in) being attentive to all of this stuff

Again, you are indulgent balanced by having integrity and personal boundaries.

There is lots of other shit I am interested in but mostly I want you to be kind to me and at the very least not cruel to others.