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My self-summary
A kind man.
What I’m doing with my life
Trying to get my kids to eat meals that are less cheese based. Trying to crack them up. Trying sometimes to carve out a non-parent identity for myself.
I’m really good at
Scrabble. My job. Calming dogs and people. Tolerating that I can't generate a long list for this question.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Some Writers I love: Alice Munro, Tobias Wolff, Isaac B. Singer, Pete Dexter, George Packer, Timothy Egan, Frank Rich, Jill Lepore, David Remnick. I'm kind of a Civil War buff.

Putting kids to bed has greatly interfered with night reading over the last many years, but audiobooks have stepped in to fill the void. I like going in to whatever library I happen to be around, and checking out what audiobooks they have, and this turns out to be a good way to "read"; I've discovered so many gems (e.g., "Sense of an Ending"). In a similar vein, I've loved the NYT "By the Book" column: I'd like to live to 150 so I could sample everything mentioned there!

I'm not totally highbrow: just submitted a letter to Bill Simmons' mail bag. Bonus points for knowing what that is.

Movies: American Beauty, Thin Blue Line, Vanya on 42nd Street, Cold Mountain, Making Mr. Right, Totos Le Heros, Married to the Mob, You can Count on Me, the Truth about Cats and Dogs. It's a Wonderful Life had a huge impact on me when I was a kid, long before it became a Christmas cliche. It still kind of kills me, how funny and dark it is, how perfect the script and acting is. A lot has to do with who I saw the movie with, or what I was feeling when I saw it, i.e., maybe it was exactly the movie I needed at that exact moment of my life, so I remember it warmly, but if I saw it again...? More will come to me.

Shows: I really like watching the NFL playoffs in January. Other than that I could very easily live without a tv and have. Sometimes I watch Daily Show clips online. I used to like The Office and 30 Rock and Modern Family.

Music: Joni, James Taylor, Springsteen, Loudon Wainwright, Paul Simon, Dylan, Patty Griffin, Rhett Miller, Jill Sobule, Steve Earle, Chris Smither, Greg Brown, Bob Schneider, Yo Yo Ma, Philip Glass. Guilty pleasures: Michael jackson, Tom Petty. I could go on and on. Lots of solace and joy for me in music.

Food: Sushi. Cookies. Good Split Pea Soup with Ham.
Six things I could never do without
The woods
The New Yorker
The Times
My music (thank you spotify and pandora)
Time to think
Time to just hang with my kids
Outstanding cookies
Exercise, leading to sweating a lot
Fresh salmon nigiri (sake)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How do I want to live?! Where will I put my energies?! What's on my bucket list and how do I start pursuing those things (while still feeding my kids).?
How to be a better dad.
How to be a better healer.

I want to be a good cook, a good swimmer, be really proficient in a foreign language and on a musical instrument, be active in a political cause I care about, have a meditation practice, and maybe a writing routine. A long list. I've spent a lot of my life pursuing a career, and it's a great career, and I'll continue giving a lot of myself to it, because it feeds me emotionally and feeds my family literally, but I want more of this other stuff in the time I've got left. I spend a lot of time thinking about that.
You should message me if
You know if you should message me(!) because you know yourself a bit and what I've written resonates...;) (I can't believe I just used an emoticon).
The two of us