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My self-summary
One time a drunk friend described there being--in addition to the metaphorically typical two sides of the coin--a third side which combined both of the other two, and usually that is the side I'm on.

A concisely representative self-summary is hard, it turns out.
What I’m doing with my life
Nursing: community health RN at a rad place
so: Learning about radical compassion and trauma stewardship; also science, bodies, shame, and p-o-w-e-r
Feeling shit through and figuring shit out
Remembering how to use my time
Being a renaissance person
Making art but not Art
Sticking it to the man
Making space
I’m really good at
Making lists
Truth (> tact)
Reading aloud
Sidewalk races
Low harmonies
Being enthused
Righteous anger
Packing and inventory
Reflecting and mirroring
Asking pointed questions
Being gullible and/or earnest
Indoor bouldering, it turns out
Creating spaces/interior decorating
Appreciating puns, limericks, dad jokes
Metaphor, especially body and science metaphors
The first things people usually notice about me
haircut duh.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Most currently: gilead/marilynne robinson; americanah/chimamanda ngozi adichie; future sex/emily witt; I've been trying out poetry and I like it: bodymap/leah lakshmi piepzna-samarasinha; salt/nayyirah waheed. also: graceful simplicity/jerome segal; my brilliant friend/elena ferrante; cruddy/lynda barry; on beauty/zadie smith; notes from no man's land/eula biss; the fifth book of peace/maxine hong kingston; autobiography of red/anne carson; 7 nights/jorge luis borges; the ethical slut/easton&hardy; trauma stewardship/van dernoot lipsky;
Always: Just So Stories/Rudyard Kipling and other picturebooks; The Phantom Tollbooth/Norton Juster and other young adult fantasy fiction; many by Pema Chodron; the NY Times, but with some grains of salt.

Fur; Cradle Will Rock; The King of Hearts; Disney's Robin Hood; Wet Hot American Summer; Into The Woods (old versions 4evr);The Brave Little Toaster; Newsies; the Marat/Sade; nature docus (D. Attenborough); Target Women; videos of Brene Brown and Alan Watts; Last Week Tonight w JO; The Simpsons; Steven Universe.

Folk, blues, soul, hip hop, canto popular, new weird america, 'indie', 'world music', rockn'roll, rough jazz, classical, people/ladies who don't always try to make their voices sound pretty, people who speak truth to power and feelings, radio top forties, Radiolab, TAL, Reveal, 2 Dope Queens, Invisibilia, Hidden Brain, et al. Democracy Now!
Six things I could never do without
Alone time
being Seen
Eating with my hands
The idea of praxis/All the processing
Outside and sunlight, every so often bodies of water
TLC (the band, the care, the love, and especially the tenderness)
Listening to, moving to, and making music
Not choosing only six things
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What are the right fucks to give?
On a typical Friday night I am
oh you know
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I sometimes know it could be useful to be good at lying, but I am not (but then I guess, how would you know, amirite.)
You should message me if
You have something of interest to say; you care enough about shit to be real.

You're pretty queer, regardless of who you do.

You're familiar and experienced with non-monogamy/whatever you wanna call it.

You wanna be casual but present.
The two of us