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My self-summary
What can I say? I am intense, aware, warm and funny (just unclear on the haha vs weird) and see a lot of beauty in the world. I don't hide from the ugliness either, or rather, don't pretend it's not there. I desperately try my best to take care of everyone within range. When the inevitable hits the fan, I relax. this composure in a storm is responsible for a fair bit of my self-confidence. I 'm jewish and it is a part of my identity, well, in the ex-Soviet way: atheist, scientist, etc. Spent a helluva lot of time in school, and, luckily, there's so much more to learn. Outdoorsy, and I love to play, but not with people. I make my best effort to be like Horton, and saying what i mean and meaning what i say. The words "I love you" mean something and everything, and I will never go far in a relationship if it's not there.
What I’m doing with my life
Well, I'm atoning for the decadence of 16 years of physics in the bay area by doing something a bit more useful, somewhere a bit more, well, un-bay-area-like. I am a research assistant professor in nuclear medicine instrumentation at Rush. It's a cool field, perhaps made cooler by the fact that 5 years ago i had no idea what nuclear medicine was. Somehow I always build imaging equipment that gets abused: sometimes in liquid helium, sometimes in concentrated sunlight, now irradiated. Overall, there's been some drifting through the addictive self-indulgence of basic science towards more applied stuff, I know that it is considered very cool to say "my job doesn't define me" but it'd be a lie. i've always wanted to figure out how things work and to pursue every line of thinking as far i can. and to make cool stuff that helps the world. there is a degree of seriousness in this work, but there is also a childish curiosity and idealism, along with deep feelings of truth and honesty. and grad school for me was a search for myself as much as a search for knowledge about the world. I'm still far from actual patients, but working in a hospital does feels nice.
But at this point, and for quite some time, creating a home and family is the real ambition.
I’m really good at
over-analyzing things. going on tangents but coming back very quickly. napping
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I have to feel a strong connection to something (well, music/movies/book, this is less important for food) for me to like it. it seems that for music and movies, mid-seventies is the time period i'm particularly drawn to. maybe the same would be true for literature, but i tend to read mostly non-fiction.

Nashville (definite #1), Rashomon (not so much for the subjectivity of truth, but for the humanity of the characters), Paths of Glory, Barry Lyndon, Manhattan, The Player, Blood Simple, Clerks, Donnie Darko, Pulp Fiction, The Conversation, Adaptation, 'Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow', Dog Day Afternoon,Hudsucker Proxy, Blues Brothers, Slap Shot. My favorite documentary is 'The Bridge'. TV: Cheers (to me, Sam/Diane is the most authentic love story told on screen, movies included), Newsradio, 30 Rock, Barney Miller, Twilight Zone (some favorites: 'five characters in search of an exit','the hitchhiker', 'the grave', 'the after hours', 'the passerby', 'he's alive',"come wonder with me". Outer Limits "Borderland"

Russell's "History of Western Philosophy", "Guns, Germs, And Steel", "Little Prince", "Brideshead Revisited", "War and Peace", "The God Delusion", "Origin of Consciousness in the Breakdown of the Bicameral Mind", " The Guns of August", "Japan's Longest Day", "Inferno", "The Unfolding of Language", Pinker's "How the Mind Works", "The Great Gatsby". Favorite childhood author was O'Henry

Let there rock: Deep Purple (Pictures of Home is my favorite song along with Lazy it always gets lost behind Smoke on the Water on that album), Dire Straits, NIN, System of a Down, Hound Dog Taylor, Doors, GNR (Don't Damn Me is one underrated song), Queen. Simon/Garfunkel and the Russian guitar bards, Vysotsky, Okudzhava and Nikitiny for my more lyrical side. "i Chimgan osveschaet dorogu moju, i bezumno prekrasen soboju..." In fact, Pictures of Home + Okudzhava's 'Francois Villion's Prayer'+ "Ballada o Bor'be" by Vysotsky, with its 13-year-old-like idealism and romanticism, describe a big chunk of how i feel (we left ussr when i was 13, so it's a breakpoint). Flamenco/classical guitar too, Paco de Lucia, Sergio and Odair Assad, and their sister Badi, she's just magical, find a youtube clip of her, you won't be disappointed
The six things I could never do without
clarity of thought, philosophy/neuroscience podcasts, love, sunlight (does that make me a plant? or just a misplaced californian?), interesting/meaningful job, silliness
I spend a lot of time thinking about
squirrels. and whether idealism is taking me anywhere except itself. and where is my liz lemon, a talented girl who wants to have it all, meaningful life, meaningful relationships, meaningful work
You should message me if
You are looking for a relationship where each can be themselves to the fullest. Where while two become one in one sense, each becomes even stronger in being an individual. Where we are responsible for one another, and yet are more free to be ourselves in the world knowing that someone who knows us well will stop us from falling and catch us if we do.

And if you want to build a home with a person who, despite the rantings here, doesn't take himself very seriously, and who puts his heart fully into everything he does.