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My self-summary
Broadly interpreted, the life of the mind forms the most important part of my life. I'm finishing my PhD in cinema studies, so that means I enjoy all film, not just avant-garde or silent cinema -- I'm not too fond of the high/low divide in art. I'm looking for someone engaged with and observant of the world: someone curious, trenchant, and articulate about interesting problems. Frontiers of pleasure, knowledge, and inquiry take many forms, colloquial, refined, aberrant; I want a partner in exploration.

For the past year, I have been working as a therapist / case manager / mental health tech for a community mental health non-profit. Maybe re-careering, I don't quite know, but this is the first time I'm really helping people.

Other interests include collecting music, baseball, and enjoying quality television. I'm starting to write for myself again: essays, fiction, journals. I would love to get back into rock climbing. Knowing how to drive a stick shift is a turn-on; liking technology is a bigger one. Oh! -- board and card games are the cat's meow. Speaking of, I love and am good with animals of all stripes, feathers, and fur. Looking for an independent, loving partner who can provide sincere, intelligent, direct intimacy.

Bonus points if you know the reference in my username. Double bonus points if you know what a rhizome is.

I am apocryphal, studied, and a little perverse

N.B.: Totally into the trans* movement, even though I'm cis-male.
What I’m doing with my life
Working towards my goal of becoming a professor; this is a professional goal, but more importantly I want to reach a place where I can devote myself to researching and answering questions that I find interesting. I expect my partner to be engaged with something important to them; I'm beyond people who are merely "working a day job" and in their spare time "living life," "loving every day," "smiling and laughing," or other oblivious platitudes. I think to enjoy life you've got to be more than a little snarky about it. But my skepticism is probably just wallpapering over a sentimental streak. I dare you to show me an animated film and find out.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
MOVIES. OK, seriously, I have a PhD in film, but I am definitely not getting into a 'greatest ever' debate. And just because I'm not listing Ozu, Kubrick, Goddard, or whichever genius 'auteur' rounds out a cine-literate list doesn't mean I'm not a fan. These are just some of the films I love (roughly chronologically):

Sunrise, M, Pandora's Box, Man With A Movie Camera, Greed, The Rules of the Game, Rebecca, Rope, Singing in the Rain, All About Eve, Playtime, The Third Man, Stalker, Treasure of the Sierra Madre, Au Hasard Balthasar, The Night of the Hunter, Safe, Dead Man, Naked, In the Mood for Love, Chunking Express, Sonatine, Eureka, Spirited Away, Princess Mononoke, The Lion King, Lilo & Stitch, The Emperor's New Groove, How to Train Your Dragon (seriously, Hiccup is gay for dragons in that one), and (most recently) the films of Joanna Hogg (esp. Exhibition). But my all-time favorite is Yuri Norstein's The Hedgehog in the Fog.

MUSIC is difficult for me to write about, since it's the only art I experience purely emotionally, without any intellectual understanding.

NOVELS / NOVELLAS / STORIES. If on a winter's night a traveler, Dhalgren, Crying Lot of 49, House of Leaves, Disgrace, His Dark Materials, Darkness at Noon, Catch 22, Lilith's Brood, Angle of Repose, Bastard out of Carolina, The Heart is a Lonely Hunter, The Counterfeiters, Our Lady of the Flowers, "The Overcoat," The Garden Party: and Other Stories, Master and Margarita.

SHOWS. Fraggle Rock, The Twilight Zone, All in the Family, The Wire, Mad Men (I think we take for granted how poetic this show is), The West Wing, The Simpsons, Six Feet Under, 30 Rock, Enlightened, Lost (I don't care that the ending was maudlin), Aeon Flux, Deadwood (cocksucker), Twin Peaks, Freaks and Geeks, Black Mirror, My So-Called Life, Dr. Katz, The Critic, Bob's Burgers, Good Eats, No Reservations, The Mind of a Chef. Obsessed with Game of Thrones and ASoIaF (but who isn't?). And Buffy's kind of just assumed at this point, right? And am I the only one who remembers GUTS and LEGENDS OF THE HIDDEN TEMPLE?

FOOD. Yes; all of it.
Six things I could never do without
The cinema. The Oxford English Dictionary. Fonts, seriffed and otherwise. The interrobang. Baseball. Rain.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Decentering the human. Being mindful. What aesthetic or affect is the way forward? Queerness. Mental health, and access to it for under-served populations.
On a typical Friday night I am
Out at the movies, in at the movies, or reading a book. Or maybe bowling. Damn, it's been a long time since I went bowling.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
-- I still forget on which album any given Beatles song was released.
--I am the karaoke king of Elvis' "Burning Love" -- and the fucking emperor of the fabulous Wynonna version from Lilo & Stitch
--I learned a little bit of Hawai`ian language, and would die to meet someone who speaks it.
--Of the people I've dated seriously, only one was comfortable with my pansexuality. I'm looking for that ratio to improve.
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