38 Hove, United Kingdom
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My self-summary
I am a video game developer, living in Brighton and Hove.

I am polyamorous, have been in an open relationship for about 15 years, married for most of it, and I am especially interested in comparing my experiences with similar people. Even if you're just starting out, it would be great to hear your take on it all!

I like the "relationship anarchy" concept, and I think a lot of those principles match the attitudes of my wife and me.

I am recently partially vegetarian, and would be very interested in eating out with vegetarians and vegans who can help me to discover new great things to eat in those cuisines! I am not really interested in "fake meat" though, I am more interested in from-the-ground-up meat-free dishes which have their own natural balance.
What I’m doing with my life
Socially my main focus is experiencing polyamory more and more deeply. I have met some wonderful people - friends as well as partners - and hope to meet many more!

Other social interests include playing board games, card games and video games with like-minded friends. If you have any suggestions then I'd love to hear them, and hopefully play them with you too!

For exercise I like swimming, ice skating and rollerblading. I used to play ice hockey until I moved to a city without a proper ice rink.
I’m really good at
I am very good at computer programming, debugging, and mathematics. The first two are what I do for a living.

On the artistic front, I play the piano. I have a couple of recordings I made on SoundCloud:

Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I'm not really fussy about these kinds of thing - diversity is good and I enjoy a lot of different things depending on my mood. Mostly I enjoy things other people recommend - I like to think about why they liked the book/game/movie/etc, and to try to enjoy it in the same way they might have done.

Shows - since I was young I've always wanted to see The Phantom of the Opera in the theatre. The are two reasons for this - the one I'll say publicly is that I liked playing some of the music on the piano when I was young, with my sister playing the flute. Later I got the slightly abridged CD of the show, and listened to it obsessively. As for the other reason, it's sadder and more personal, but I will discuss it privately if you ask.

Books - I loved the Ender series, including the later shadow books, and I also read a lot of Asimov when I was younger. For a while I was obsessive about the Dune universe. Recreational maths books are fun too and I have enjoyed the depth in classic novels like To Kill A Mockingbird or Far From The Madding Crowd.

I think I have read every Poirot story ever written. I prefer Marple on TV, maybe because I don't already know the stories.

Movies - The Thirteenth Floor, Cold Comfort Farm, Equilibrium, The Usual Suspects, The Island, Galaxy Quest, Gattaca, The Truman Show... all sorts of things, all for different reasons. I'm not picky - I have the capacity to watch and enjoy just about anything, however shallow it may be in some respects. Forrest Gump makes me cry every time I watch it, and Parenthood is touching too. I love the music in Amelie.

I am also not fussy about food - I like a lot of cuisines, especially oriental. I am partially vegetarian, in that I am trying to avoid meat a lot of the time, but I am not strict about it.
On a typical Friday night I am
I like to go out from time to time, but pubs and clubs get so busy that I can't hear a word anybody says!

I prefer more cozy, intimate environments, like being at home or in somebody else's home, or less busy places like the park, the beach, a restaurant, cafe, etc.

Or going to a country pub and cuddling in front of an open fire. I don't do that often but I'd like to, with the right people.
You should message me if
... you want to chat about something interesting - polyamory, moanogamy, life, video games, board games... I don't mind really, I am happy to talk - and especially to listen! I also often find that subjects I know little about are the most interesting, when explained by somebody who really cares about them. So feel free to pick something not on this list!

Having been in an open relationship for a long time, I am especially interested in discussing this kind of thing - including polyamory and relationship anarchy, if that's your tipple.

Also if you know where to go out to eat good interesting vegetarian food, then I'd love to join you! Or vice versa.