Well, now that I got that out of the way, on to my profile.... I'm hoping to meet a great guy who I can someday call my boyfriend. I'm divorced and learned a lot from it. I spent 14 years with the wrong guy (Yikes, I know!). This translates to me being unwilling to settle...and often asked, "How is a girl like you single?". I'm a fun, confident, drama-free, tell-it-like-it-is girl, who tends to think more like a guy than a quintessential "chick" (eye rolls when I encounter those).
Socializing with friends is something I enjoy. Definitely not a loner. But, there is a part of me that yearns for someone close to enjoy spending one on one time.
I am sadly blessed with shitty "fat" genes that has led to working out needing to be an important part of my life. Before you roll your eyes, I didn't say I was fat, just that I have to work harder than most not to be. I've grown to enjoy working out (well, not always). For those who don't, I completely get how you can't fathom how someone could enjoy intentionally torturing themselves. I once thought that, too. Well, I ask you this: Do you enjoy really good sex...where you're working up a sweat? You know that amazing, relaxed, feeling afterwards? That's working out! It's sweat-producing physical activity that creates that incredible endorphin rush feeling in the end! It becomes addicting. Haha! Hey, on the topic...listen to some of the sounds people make at the gym.... Now you are going to think of me every time you hear a moan or groan 😉
So, why bring this up? A guy doesn't have to be a gym rat, but I'm definitely not looking for a couch potato who spends hours in front of the TV or playing video games. He doesn't have to be PlayGirl material (though that would be a perk 😉) I'm interested in a guy who is active and takes pride in himself. Hey, I'm not in model shape, so I don't expect my partner to be.
All The Hangover movies
Hot Tub Time Machine
Ferris Bueller's Day Off
Dumb & Dumber
National Lampoon's Christmas Vacation
You get the drift...
As far as music...my rule of thumb is I like music that makes me want to get up and dance or sing-a-long. I have such a deep appreciation and love for music and musical talent.
Love a capella groups (Pentatonix, Home Free). A deep bass voice singing to me will work as foreplay!
Black Eyed Peas
Boyz II Men (they do a lot of a capella)
Zac Brown Band
Big & Rich
Pitbull (ie: dance music!!)
The list goes on...
I honestly don't watch much TV except for movies. I don't even have cable or satellite TV (can you believe that?!). I cancelled it years ago because I was spending lots of money to fill my DVR up with movies and for the kids to watch endless SpongeBob episodes. I do Netflix and Redbox for movies and a tv series here and there. I loved The Walking Dead, LOST, Breaking Bad, Orange is the New Black. My current series is How I Met Your Mother.
As for food...I like and eat most everything. I love spicy foods and trying new foods. I'm probably the least picky eater you will ever meet.
-Sweets--Well, not without some hypnotherapy (yes, I have an addiction), and admittedly the main thing preventing me from that model body.
-Music and Dancing (ok, ok. It's hard to narrow it down to only six. I cheated and combined these)
-Plush sheets in the fall/winter (100Xs better than flannel!)
-Heat (I hate the cold!)
I left out the obvious (boring...yawn): my children, food, hot showers, water, oxygen, soap, toothbrush, blah, blah, blah...
Many times, when perusing OkC questions of a profile, I wonder why, when I answered the same answer as him, my answer is in red? I didn't realize the concept of how to pick acceptable answers was so complex. [Eye roll]
I look younger than my age and I LOVE it! I absolutely love when someone asks how old I am. I counter with, "How old do you think I am?" Hehe. I still get carded, though less and less frequently. I am secretly dreading the day this stops.
You read through my profile and a fair amount of answers to the questions and still think we would be a good match. If we are less than say...a 65-70%ish match, we most likely differ on enough values that we probably aren't compatible.
This profile is your resume. You wouldn't go to an interview disheveled and unshaven. Nothing turns me off more than reading a profile or message of interest permeated with grammatical errors. If you can't appear to have passed 3rd grade, I'm not interested.
Sadly, I've found I need to write this disclaimer:
Please don't message me if you are not over your ex. And, when I say "over", I don't mean you still love her. I mean you haven't moved on and she is still ruining your life (not past the anger stage). I've been on dates where he talks about his ex for 40+ min straight, on everything negative...she's a bitch, ruined his life, she took this or that, she constantly is trying to make his life miserable, etc... Someone with so much hate, is not attractive nor desirable. Not to mention, I can't help but think, "What happens when I do something to piss him off?" Yes...it will happen. Will he bitch about me incessantly and say all sorts of negative things about me? Remember...you originally chose to be with your ex. At one point you cared about her, and, at the very least, liked her.
Yes, we all have baggage. We both can relate to each other from our past. Our ex's will come up in conversation. But, I want to be with a guy who has put the past behind him and has moved on...ready to enjoy a new chapter in his life.
I sadly don't have the time to make ths site a part time job. So, please be patient with me in replying. Many times I find some have already blocked me by the time I log on to read and reply. I try hard to be a decent person and reply to most (who send me more than a one sentence msg)...even if in regret.