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My self-summary
"The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable man persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore, all progress depends upon the unreasonable man."
-George Bernard Shaw

I'm an artistic geek who's passionate, creative, and appreciates the Oxford comma. I'm a natural introvert who loves people - just not always in huge groups, and I do still need some alone time to recharge. I'm also an only child, with all that entails.

Last I took the MBTI, I was a XNXP - midway between Extroverted and Introverted, midway between Thinking and Feeling, but always Intuitive and Perceiving. In the D&D alignment system, I am usually chaotic good, neutral good, or chaotic neutral. In the World of Darkness Nature / Demeanor system, my Nature is Visionary and my Demeanor is Bon Vivant.

Politically, I'm mostly socialist. Spiritually, I'm a roughly equal blend of Jewish, Discordian, eclectic pagan, chaos magician, and agnostic. By all means, feel free to ask about any of that.

I love intellectual conversation / debate, deep immersive roleplay, singing harmony, and uncovering the secrets of the universe. My ideal first date would be some kind of adventure, or maybe an interesting film or play, or delicious food and deep conversation.

I'm a gamer and an avid fan of both science fiction and fantasy, both reading and writing. Currently I work in computer tech support, but I'm looking for a change. Eventually, I'd like to do writing and game design full-time.

I'm looking for a partner in crime or a worthy opponent. Someone who's supportive, but doesn't hesitate to call me out if I'm being an ass. I wouldn't say I'm into BDSM as such, but I do enjoy a good power struggle, and I'm certainly willing to try new things.

I'm open to any kind of relationship based on mutual respect and agreement; however, standard monogamy has not worked well for me in the past.
What I’m doing with my life
Front burner project: Romantic psychedelic science fantasy novel, with my best friend as coauthor. Currently revising the third draft.

Back burner project: Designing a tabletop RPG based on Spanish and Middle Eastern mythology, set in the golden age of Islamic Spain. Currently researching the setting and mythos.

During the week, fixing computers to pay the bills.

Evenings and weekends, usually home reading or watching TV while petting the kitties.
I’m really good at
Fixing computers
Learning languages (but not alphabets)
Role-playing / improv
Getting animals to like me
Appearing innocent, whether I actually am or not
Getting what I want
The first things people usually notice about me
Probably the long hair with the blue streaks in it, or how directly (sometimes pronounced "bluntly") I communicate.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Game Systems:Unknown Armies, World of Darkness (especially Vampire: the Masquerade, Changeling: the Lost, and Wraith: the Oblivion), and Dystopia Rising

Books: Anything by Neil Gaiman, particularly Sandman, American Gods and Stardust; Ender's Game & Speaker For the Dead, by Orson Scott Card; Dragonlance, Rose of the Prophet, and Death Gate Cycle by Weis and Hickman; House of Leaves; sacred texts of any tradition, as long as they're well translated (e.g., Bible, Mahabharata, Tao Te Ching); The Templar Revelation; The Hiram Key; anything by Peter Carroll; the Principia Discordia; Watchmen and V for Vendetta, by Alan Moore; Wrestling with God and Men: Homosexuality in the Jewish Tradition, by Rabbi Steven Greenberg; Magic of the Ordinary: Reclaiming the Shamanic in Judaism and Way of the Boundary Crosser: An Introduction to Jewish Flexidoxy, both by Gershon Winkler; The Kite Runner, by Khaled Hosseini; His Dark Materials, by Philip Pullman; anything by Christopher Moore, especially the "Bloodsucking Fiends" series; Even Cowgirls Get the Blues, by Tom Robbins; The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time, by Mark Haddon; Life of Pi, by Yann Martel; The Perks of Being a Wallflower, by Stephen Chbosky; The Hunger Games series by Suzanne Colllins; The Emperor of All Maladies, by Siddhartha Mukherjeej; The World Made by Hand series by James Kunstler; The Death of Bunny Munro, by Nick Cave; The Dune series by Frank Herbert; anything by Malcolm Gladwell; Wild Seed, by Octavia Butler; Lisey's Story and Duma Key, by Stephen King.

Movies: Mulholland Drive, Desperate Remedies, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, eXistenZ, American Beauty, pi, Requiem for a Dream, Better than Chocolate, Melvin Goes to Dinner, Rocky Horror Picture Show, Shock Treatment, Phantom of the Paradise, Donnie Darko, Dark City (Director's Cut), Boondock Saints, Equilibrium, The Animatrix, Spirited Away, Cowboy Bebop: Knocking on Heaven's Door, Darkside Blues, Enemy Mine, Southland Tales

TV Shows: Star Trek (mostly TNG, DS9 and Voyager, and occasionally TOS), Xena: Warrior Princess, X-Files, The Oblongs, Robot Chicken, Aqua Teen Hunger Force, Sealab 2021, Home Movies, Invader Zim, Carnivale, Neverwhere, South Park, The 4400, Red Dwarf, Monty Python's Flying Circus, Twin Peaks, Six Feet Under, Babylon 5, Battlestar Galactica, Doctor Who, Fringe, Dexter, Nurse Jackie

Bands - Nick Cave and Bad Seeds, They Might Be Giants, Moxy Fruvous, Dar Williams, Kula Shaker, The Beatles, Pink Floyd, Prodigy, Morphine, Tom Petty, George Michael, New Order, Siouxsie and the Banshees, Queen, Poe, Erasure, Annie Lennox/Eurythmics, Mediaeval Baebes, Fool's Garden, Madonna, Lady Gaga, Weird Al Yankovic, Roxette, New Order, Erasure, Modern Talking, The Killers

Soundtracks - Dark City, American Beauty, Rent, Chicago, Phantom of the Opera, Once on this Island, Better than Chocolate, The Life, The Fantasticks, Les Miserables, Miss Saigon, Sweeney Todd, Jekyll and Hyde (all versions), Into the Woods, Assassins, Anyone Can Whistle, Myst, Riven, The Longest Journey, Avenue Q, Shock Treatment, Glee

Food: I enjoy most types of ethnic food, particularly Italian, Indian, Mexican, Thai, Chinese (Dim Sum especially), Japanese and Ethiopian. Favorite food items include artichoke, mushrooms, gnocchi, and anything amaretto flavored.
Six things I could never do without
Good friends to spend time with
Creative endeavors to fulfill me
Delicious food to nourish me
New things to amuse me
Cute animals to cuddle with me
Hidden wisdom to fascinate me
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Good books, TV, and movies that make me think.
Bears, muscle bears, otters.
Role-playing games, and their intersection with psychodrama and personal development work.
Genre-spanning music.
My cats Mufasa and Inara, and how they might experience the world.
Religion / mythology / the occult.
On a typical Friday night I am
Sometimes, either at karaoke, LARPing, or camping.

The rest of the time, probably at home relaxing with a good book or movie and a cat in my lap.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm ethnically Jewish, but oppose both infant circumcision and the occupation of Gaza / the West Bank.

I think mustard is disgusting, and I'm suspicious of those who put it on their food willingly.

I would never name my kid Gretchen because it sounds too much like "retching".

I tend to get along better with bi, pan, and queer men than those who identify with the mainstream gay community.

I'm not sure I have a static gender, but if I did, "demiguy" is the closest label to how I feel most of the time.
You should message me if
You'd like to smash neoliberalism, wherever it appears, in any and all its insidious forms. Likewise with dualism and capitalism.

You enjoy debate as a method of learning new things and understanding other people's paradigm.

Something I said here made you laugh or ponder or want to discuss.

You want to share something you feel like I might appreciate.

Reading this profile made you wonder why in the world we don't know each other already.

You find the verbosity of this profile amusing instead grating.

And especially if more than one of the above.
The two of us