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My self-summary
OH MY GLOB GENDER FUCK YOU. Seriously right now I'm just not sure what to pick from the gender box, and yes I'm 100% aware that I read as a man in just about every situation. Fuck.

I'm quiet and introverted, most of the time, though I have a loud streak that comes out in larger groups. I have been known to, as they say, "rock out".

I'm polyamorous and married and queer, but mostly partnered with women.

I can somehow manage to be both intense and awkward at the same time, but I'm self-effacing enough to pull it off (most of the time).

I like saying things in threes, but I frequently run out of examples at 2 and have to make something up to go in the third spot. This is an example of that situation.

Oh man, how do you get your profile to 1,000 words? I'm seriously having trouble saying more about myself. Maybe I should admit that I'm kinky? I'm not conflicted about it at all, but it seems like the kind of thing that can make a guy's profile go from friendly to creepy in a heartbeat. It's important to me, though, so I guess it should be out there. For those who want to know, on FetLife I'm mxterzero, and I'm a pretty bad person.

Something I've realized is that being too laid-back doesn't get you what you want. So - if I message you, and you like the sound of me, we're going to have a talk about what you want. For real. Honest, up front, no bullshit. And if what we want is what we can give each other, then we can have a good time.

Anyway - enough about me (they said, before filling out everything else); tell me about you. I want to know! What's important to you, what makes you tick, why do you believe the things you do? How do you justify yourself, what do you do to make yourself happy, do you feel bad about yourself in the morning or does what you did the night before just seem right?

Oh, okay - last thing to say about me: I pry. I don't mean to, but it happens.

I am quiet, thoughtful, and meticulous.
What I’m doing with my life
I work. I also read, a lot, and talk about things like ethics, copyright, piracy, politics, sex, music, fetish, and how much all of the above can either suck or rock depending on how life is going at the time.

I occasionally blog, podcast, and try my hand at creating various things. They often don't work out, but I feel better for having tried.
I’m really good at
Rambling, arguing, listening, and making up an answer if I don't really know one immediately.
The first things people usually notice about me
Apparently, my scowl (this from my partner). She says that's not really true, but won't tell me what people actually notice about me unless I badger her.

Really, it's my eyes (green behind glasses).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: American Gods, Hannibal, and the works of Scott Sigler.

Movies: Whip It, A Clockwork Orange, Constantine, Secretary, Donnie Darko, and The Dark Knight.

Music: Rammstein, System of a Down, Nine Inch Nails, Mushroomhead, Amanda Palmer, and a bunch of other loud stuff.

Food: Japanese, Italian, Thai, Mexican, Hungarian, and pizza. Pizza is nature's perfect food.
The six things I could never do without
1. The internet (all five of them - bonus points if you know that reference)
2. My closest friends (a really solid support network)
3. Air (statement of fact)
4. Diet cola (I will replace my blood with it when I can)
5. "Food" that comes in bags that hang on pegs at the drug store
6. My phone - sad but true, I have a hard time putting the damned thing down.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Politics, polyamoury, the possibility of fantasy worlds, how to have a family without blood ties or children, and the coming zombie apocalypse.

Yes, I am ridiculous. But I admit it, so it's probably okay.

When I'm feeling serious, I think about better ways to do things (at work and at home), consumer rights, privacy, financial inequality and inequity, whether I'm going to have any money when I die, and who will get it if I do.
On a typical Friday night I am
Late from work and making dinner at home, watching a movie with a partner and enjoying some cuddles. And wine, or beer, or cider, or...

Look, I like to have a drink with my cuddle-partners, ok?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Sometimes I like to feel pretty. Right now, my toenails are painted with sparkly silver polish!
You should message me if
You haven't gotten tired of my pretentious ass yet, mostly.

Also, if you're feeling like being blunt with me and if you don't mind me being really blunt with you.